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@NaeNae75 I think I would tell him what you know and how you're feeling about it. It sounds like his breaking up with you was far more calculated than you initially thought. And your friend is right about teaching him that this is ok to do to you. You say that cutting contact petrifies you...

They are no longer together and she's taking him to court!

You're so welcome! I'm doing well. I had a very different outcome than you. You can read all the minute by minute details in my supporter diary. The short story is in April my boyfriend broke up with me out of nowhere. 2 weeks earlier we had had the most productive talk about his PTSD we had...

I am completely heartbroken for you. All the mixed messages you're getting sounds so very familiar to me, though I had a much different outcome. Just want to pop on to say I see you and your words. I am so so sorry. Having gone through something sort of similar in the past year I cannot even...

I'm quoting this here so you can rezread it. This is one of the hardest things to conceptualize and accept. I have to come here frequently to remind myself of it on hard days. But this is very well articulated. Read it again.

I'm so so sorry to hear all this. I would feel completely blind-sided in your position. I don't know what to say but I'll be listening and reading along as you navigate whatever is next.

I think this is when trust comes in. Supporters have to trust that its more complex than meets our eyes and sufferers have to trust us when we say its not your fault.....eventually we'll both go from hearing it to believing it and help bridge that gap.

This is not a thing with my vet. Things that are disorganized and/or dirty bother him and cause anxiety, but not germ-y things. He works in medicine so he's around the nastiest of germs all day. That said, he doesn't organize or clean things to alleviate his anxiety....I do more organizing and...

Like @LuckiLee said, I keep the mush out too. I know that sending texts that make him that vulnerable are hard and I know that he feels guilty that he can't be the boyfriend that he wants to be all the time. After not responding to my texts for days he's not being the best boyfriend in the...

Yes it does. You'll find your groove but you'll also still have rough patches. Another factor to consider....you said PTSD is new....he is probably still figuring out what's going on. He can't tell you or warn you because he possibly doesnt even know what he's doing....he's just going through...

I totally understand what you mean with not really knowing what your limits are. I read on this page over and over these great explanations, but I knew if I set the boundary I wouldn't keep it because I wouldn't mean it. And yes, in that mindset it does feel like an ultimatum because your mind...

@NaeNae75 I hear you! I see you! I'm sorry about this. Praying for you that it isn't as it seems! Sending you strength!

Broader family (aunts uncles cousins nieces nephews) is called "extended" family in English.

I don't really do new years resolutions or anything like that because if I want to change something in my life I just do it. But the current thing I'm working on doing more of in terms of self-care is praying and volunteering more at my church. When stressed these things help me relax so I'm...

I keep myself busy doing exactly the sorts of activities you mentioned. I usually have at least 1 good cry when he isolates for a week or longer because I'm a crier and I cry when I'm overwhelmed and its overwhelming running the household alone, not having your best friend around while you do...

I can't speak to the internal processing that happens. But from my supporter perspective it just changes suddenly. I give my boyfriend space while he's isolating (we live together). Literally just ignore him while we sit in the room and sleep in the same bed. Generally no texting. The only...

I usually opt for "I'm a grown ass woman and I do what I want!" Or "He's a grown ass man and will do what he wants!" I HATE when people tell me what to do! Especially when I was already planning on doing it....and now I can't because I have to be difficult and rebel. And now I'm cleaning up...

I love this update! Thanks for sharing. But oh my goodness the crap you've been through! Well done getting through it! This! Feeling this big time!

I've been thinking about your post more and more and might have a few things to offer. It's hard to say right now because my boyfriend has been fairly well overall for a few months so I'm not in the pits of it right now. (But come December....maybe I can offer more). I would not have made it...

I'm sorry I don't have words of wisdom. But i can certainly relate this: You're not alone in your feelings. And no need to apologize.

Don't count on it. 5 years in and my sufferer cannot verbalize much....let alone volunteer it. If I ask direct questions sometimes I get answers. Sometimes I get silence. If I ask if he feels confused about a certain topic he might nod or he might stay silent. Do not think that the people on...

I suggest reading around this site more. I think more will click and make sense for you. You're right. It's not you. And you can only control your own actions. Its VERY frustrating. That frustration may not go away. I know my own frustration with this very thing has only gotten worse. I have...

I would start with the PTSD cup explanation to better understand. Disclaimer: Everything I say here is a guess or assumption. I am not saying I know what's going on. The only person that does is him. I'm guessing going to work fills his cup. Work is also familiar territory. A movie theater or...

@B0103mcus b01*hugs* if you accept them

@Freida Maybe this will help. Give them parameters before you tell them. "I want to share something with you. I haven't shared this with you before because I can't deal with however you are going to react to it. I am going to share it with you but I don't want to hear anything about it ever...