General Planning for Christmas

[Rani G2]

Germans are far more direct, and are thus careful not to order people around when it would be impolite

Almost German here... and living in germany and yes this true. People here are pretty straightforward and dislike pretensciousness

 

[littleoc]

It would be nice if we could put up a tree this year. That would be an interesting goal, I think

This ended up not being possible because my mom refused to accept help. So, no Christmas again. Except that she’ll probably try to make it up to her kids again by buying us things she either can’t afford or really don’t want or need. And then repeating over and over and over how much Christmas sucks and used to be her favorite holiday. :/

Our Menorah is currently in a pile of cat poop probably, so I guess I’m not doing that either.

Sorry, just needed to vent this — I am seriously hoping y’all have great Christmases!

 

[Sweetpea76]

she said “and of course your husband is coming too this time“...

"Oh, did you speak to him already? He hadn't told me yet." *blink blink*

Never underestimate the power of playing dumb with rude people lol.

My vet is actually doing a lot better than usual this year. I don't know if he can do social obligations, but he's into cooking and *our* little Thanksgiving at home. Hopefully it carries over to Christmas.

 

[OrangeJulius]

If shes playing by American rules its ok to say no, I can't make it... :laugh:

I usually opt for "I'm a grown ass woman and I do what I want!" Or "He's a grown ass man and will do what he wants!" I HATE when people tell me what to do! Especially when I was already planning on doing it....and now I can't because I have to be difficult and rebel. And now I'm cleaning up because someone TOLD me, not because I'm being nice. GR!

 

[Freida]

My vet is actually doing a lot better than usual this year. I d

That is fabulous!

 

[Never_falter2]

I am so sorry I did not want to say anything negative about the American people. This is not an American lady. What I thought was that Americans are polite so I must explain that Germans are like thisbecause otherwise you will not understand. Yes, we are very direct... and actually most people from the countries surrounding ours do think we have no manners.

However what I wanted to say... it makes me feel a bit like an outcast, that I have to say that i am not sure if he is coming. I do think people battend such events to be Shenandoah when somebody is not seen i do think that peopletalk behind their backs. I wish i could talk with people tell them my vet has ptsd. I wish there was not such a stigma.... and also I am a bit angry at him. How comes he functions at work but not in freetime?

 

[Never_falter2]

So here is an update. My vet is not in a holiday mood right now but I think he tries to “fake it till he makes it“, went to the mall with stressed him a lot, went to the Christmas market which was not great but okay, went to the Christmas market again and this time we had to leave because vet was feeling very hypervigilant and unwell. Vet is very ashamed he felt like this and he wants to go to the Christmas market again.
I am not sure if you know the background of Christmas markets in our country. They have a long tradition in our country and stand for Christianity but in the last years less and less people visit the Christmas markets because of fear of terrorism... and this is sad because terrorists are already changing our way of life. Some of the vendors foods, mulled wine and goods on the smaller markets are already running into financial problems. So we want to show that terrorism is not changing our way of life... and that is why it is so important for vet to go there and why he feels so bad bout himself and wants to go there again to support the little vendors a bit... actually as much as possible he says and I do not know if this’s a wise plane... but actually he is gonna go and I am gonna go with him (he decided this and I do not think I can talk him out of it). Apart from that we decorated the whole house and try to behave as christmaslike as possible and today vet is gonna bake Christmas cookies with the kids.

So how about your advent season this year?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Not too shabby this year. Mine is actually talking about going Christmas shopping today, and I had to stop myself from staring at him with my mouth open when he said that.

 

[Never_falter2]

That sounds great. You should go ? Let us know how it went ?.

BTW shitty autocorrect. What is Shenanodoah. I was writing something about people attending Christmas events to be seen and it made Shenanodoah out of it (re 29th November post).

 

[Sweetpea76]

Shenanodoah is the name of a city, county, valley, and even a river in the state of Virginia in the U.S. I think maybe a National Park too... lots of Civil War battle sites in the area. Pretty country around there for sure.

 

[Never_falter2]

So Christmas has not been great this time.

1. As I told you vet wanted to go to the Christmas market again after we had to leave because he was afraid... and we tried several times but each time his ptsd became bad and we had to stop and go back home. Vet felt lousy because of this
2. We went to this family dinner I mentioned and Vet had to retreat to his room after a short while. Next day we sat there with a few family members of his and talked and he enjoyed it. Later we went for a walk several times and when we just felt relaxed and happy we met some boys who had firecrackers and he became scared, back home just went to his room with a lousy excuse and when family members entered he barked at them... and I did not know if it was a good idea to tell them not to enter. I had to do smalltalk with them and they gave me funny looks.
Yesterday we drove home. Vet decided we will not celebrate New Years Eve with his family members but with one of his buddies. I suggested we stay at home and not celebrate New Year’s Eve at all (because I realized he is feeling stressed) but he got angry at me asked me if I think he is nuts or what... and wants to celebrate New Year’s Eve with his buddy and his family and of course without firecrackers.

 

[Never_falter2]

Sorry @Friday. I think I am being unfair now.... but wtf do you like this? I think you wanna just say you understand.

Sorry, I am really pissed off with my life and feel I need to blow off steam.