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That's up to you. You should definitely expect more of this behavior if you don't do anything differently. If you're OK with this behavior then you're not a doormat. If you don't like it and express that and he continues and you don't do anything....then you are. I would suggest giving him some...

Happy Mother's Day to all the moms in here that are holding it together and keeping the household running and keeping the chikdren cared for while their suffer....well.. suffers! My hat is off to you as that is no easy task! Your children appreciate you. I appreciate you! Keep up the good work!

These guys have already hit the key points but i do want to point out some of your own words to you. This doesn't sound healthy to me. This sounds abusive. Ive never had to have a plan about how to get away from my spouse or hide money from him just in case. Its hard to see things when...

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When you say he's serious do you mean he isnt saying it in a joking manner or are you saying he believes himself when he says its not there. My boyfriend has a terrible memory and will "blatantly lie" when really he 100% believes what he is saying is true....he's just wrong. This is usually...

Reread what @Sweetpea76 said! She is very wise. There is no guarantee of him getting any better. Even if he's in treatment....he may stop going because it is so hard to relive trauma. So whatever you're dealing with now....if thats not sustsinable long term for you, then you have to consider...

Hi there! My two cents is the same as @Sweetpea76.....take it slow. I will share my story since its pretty similar. So, my sufferer cheated on me at the beginning of our relationship. We had been friends then friends with benefits then boyfriend/girlfriend. Broke up with him immediately after...

Happy belated birthday! Im so glad you had a good time with your family! Yup. It hurts. It really does. Even when you know what's going on and understand it at some superficial level, it still hurts when the one person you want to be there for you can't be there for you. It sounds like you...

I think this is the first year my boyfriend of 7ish years remembered my birthday without too much reminding. But in general he sucks with remembering dates and stuff. Is it just him or PTSD? I don't know. But readibg what @Friday said made a few moments in the past kind of "click" about what may...

These are great boundaries. If he crosses them, what actions will you take? Thats the key with boundaries....the part that YOU DO when you observe behavior that they've chosen to partake in.

I think a lot of non-PTSD things can play into communication. And PTSD can certainly add a new element to it. My boyfriend is generally not forthcoming with information. I think it has more to do with his personality than PTSD....but when he's in a PTSD funk its definitely worse. He has no...

Read this about PTSD breakups and this about the stress cup. Personally, I do not. I would not be ok with that. My boyfriend broke up with me once and he knows that I will be gone and won't come back if he does that to me again. You can't. That's for him to work on. You are not dangerous. You...

Isolation and generally staying at home/not going to events/stuff. Isolation I don't think there's much he could do. It took us a few years to find our groove after many misunderstandings. I think him accepting what I said about my experience through it helped us reach that point even though he...

Different people deal with these situations differently. Generally, men and women deal with these situations differently. My boyfriend and I broke up for months before getting back together and I couldn't entertain the idea of dating anybody else while I was so broken. I was at my lowest and...

Welcome @Kay9477 ! Do you have PTSD or are you supporting someone with PTSD? If you are a supporter, you're in the right place! If you have PTSD then this question will be better suited with better responses in the other sections of the board.

Merry Christmas to you! I hope you and your family have a fun day!

My boyfriend doesn't really do my birthday. We've been together for 5-7 years (those first couple years were spotty because of me learning PTSD....but we've been mostly solid for 5). The first couple he didn't acknowledge. The next one or two he apparently remmebered the wrong date and worked on...

That's a noble sentiment....but if you're looking out for her....who's gonna look out for you? I'm absolutely not saying to leave her. I am saying to do self-reflection about if she is capable of being a good partner for you. A relationship consists of 2 people putting effort into each other...

Do be honest with yourself and your girlfriend. Don't allow her to walk all over you and the things important to you "because PTSD". Do take time for deep reflection about if this is the best relationship for you. It is ok and possible to love someone deeply and simultaneously know it cannot be...

Totally agree.

This is how I roll too. Yesterday he was home on his usual work night for whatever reason. I was REALLY looking forward to playing Christmas music/movies and having a quiet night with my dog. I really needed to decompress from my stressful week (that I didn't get to lean on him during) and the...

I think the holidays are starting to hit hard. He's been so off and we have shit to get done around here so it's incredibly frustrating. Zero affection as expected. Ignoring me. Well, maybe not ignoring but I think he's so checked out he doesn't hear me or notice me. Thank goodness for my dog...

Look into encopresis and see if it sounds like what he goes through. Generally a condition in kids but can also be adults. Basically you get so constipated and have a large hard stool stuck and watery diarrhea can get by it and leak out. It has both psychological and physiological components to...

I needed to read this today. Thank you.

Just wanted to bump this thread back into circulation as we approach the holidays. I know the holiday 'tude has started in in my home as veterans day closes and the rest of the holidays are imminent.