Sufferer here .... This ^^^ is problematic for me. No one can make me feel safe. Not hubby, not family, not friends. I don't ever feel safe - it's just the nature of my pstd. So people who try to blather on about how they are the one person in the world who can? Ya - that pushes me straight into isolation.
ptsd often comes with a complete lack of trust - in anyone. It's not a reflection of the people around me. It's the part of me that has been broken. So if I am with people who NEED me to trust them? It's not going to work. That's a kind of needy I can't handle. The people in my world have to be able to function on their own because isolation is a huge part of how I handle stress. I can't fill that role in their world.
This would make me run. I can't handle my own emotions - I certainly can't handle my SOs. If I'm forever double checking what I say or how I say it or what I do because I might upset someone who is sensitive? ya -- nope. That is way to much work for me to handle.
PTSD is hell on supporters - I have no idea how they do it. But if you read the long term supporter diarys you will find that they are tough people who can handle an amazing amount of crisis. They are also very confident in their boundaries of what they will and won't tolorate from their sufferer.
If you truly want to be in a relationship with someone with ptsd, and you are sensitive by nature, it might help to find a therapist to work on some coping skills so it doesnt make you nuts. Because we can be a nightmare. Not intentionally -- its' just how it works.
