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Good question. It means a pervasive indirect communication style that veils underlying hostilities. Yes it's a diagnosis but he is not in therapy, he is on an SSRI. Examples: "Why didn't your kids learn manners?....Don't be fooled by one good conversation with your sister.....Why should I...

You are amazingly transparent, and you also deserve privacy. Why do you have to share everything you write about your husband with him? Did you offer this?

Now that my eyes are opened that the driver behind passive/aggressive behavior is veiled hostility I have been avoiding him a bit. Not because there is a specific problem, it's the pattern of manipulation through questioning/raising doubts/lecturing/being prickly/never approving others...I'm...

Very observant. It's amazing to know that other households struggle with PTSD marriages. You seem smart and perceptive....for an empty husk :)

My CPTSD healing is more advanced than my husband's, he and I both know that. However, I am getting hints that his family abuse may have been worse than he has allowed himself to recall, because of the magnitude and pervasiveness of his trauma-management behaviors as an adult. The poor guy has...

PTSD is a condition that is imposed on us by outside factors and people. You didn't cause it, at all. None of us wants a life of struggle, yet here we all are. Here we all are hating ourselves though we are entirely without blame. Can you try something? Can you think about self-respect...

If you are able try to absorb that the PTSD brain sends destructive signals disguised as good information. When we are in our deepest darkest place our brain is failing us the most -- we have a chronic mental condition, we are not pieces of crapola as our brain tells us. How are you today?

Try compassion toward the co-worker who is insensitive and rude. Sounds godawful, and impossible but our disease fortunately doesn't override our inherent goodness. Through your willingness to share your sensitivities with us you are clearly not a jerk. If that person's comment was not meant...

THANK YOU. It is so boring. Soooo borrrrrring. over and over and over

I can't decide if addressing my PTSD is a question of living with the repetitive anxiety loops and trying to shrink them, or trying to eliminate them altogether. I'm increasingly resigned to coping not conquering. This is a chronic condition, you manage it only, with varying successes. That's...

Here we are, a big old community of people who have found one another, who suffer exactly as you do, who struggle with a chronic disease with horrible roots that bore all over your brain. But you CAN get better. This is a great place to start. These people have helped me through self-harm...

Totally!! Freeze response is really stressful!!!

I sure hope so because those times feel so good, so normal. Even mentally healthy people have bad days, normal is not a bed of roses. I have to believe that despair is not my "real" mode and when I feel good it's false.

Hey Team, Happy Monday, here's the latest rat's nest: Does anyone else experience periods of getting-it-done energy, that seem to be the opposite of hiding-while-triggered? I don't think it's bipolar, more like you get behind when hiding so that you need to hustle to hold on to the normal...

Wow me too. Mega on switch or off and hiding. exhausting

It's like an engine revving but you can't leave the starting line. All systems are firing, but you are immobile. I think it's fear. Fear of doing, of not doing, of risk, of engagement, mostly of failure because c-PTSD makes me a people pleaser no matter the cost to yourself. ANYTHING not to...

Wow this is great and so true!!! We have to balance on a wire compared to healthy thinkers. The challenge is making a living, maintaining relationships, and keeping head above water, while aiming at sanity. Today I have to mull over a series of life changes, like a grownup. My instincts are...

Good Morning All, Does anyone else suffer from PTSD-generated procrastination? I constantly struggle with this. Sometimes it actually leads to a trigger-like reaction -- fear, hiding, etc etc. It's not fear of doing a specific task, it's mental paralysis.

I think PTSD mental paralysis is not discussed as much as we should. It's that place in ze brain where fear meets trauma meets today's to-do list. Why am I on this board right now?? Because I am paralyzed, again, and it's so stupid, so unnecessary, such a waste of my life because there is no...

Weekends are a huge problem, and once again, only those with PTSD can relate. The open schedule, the anxiety about what I should be doing, the desire for a free and open schedule devoid of anxiety vs the constant worry about what happens next. BRUTAL. I either want to work 24/7 or go on SSDI...

Almost everybody. Only my family knows. Only my husband knows my daily struggles. This disease is completely isolating, that is our burden.

He agreed to go on SSRIs, we will see. Is being a jerk a medical condition? ;)

I have cut them off more than once, siblings in my case. Parents are both gone, they are all much older, my dad went nuts after they left the house, I was home and got CPTSD. More than once they have reconnected with me, with varying results. The healthier I get the longer I can deal with...

Hi All, My husband and I both have CPTSD. He has "episodes" where he is unable to accurately process what another is saying, choosing instead to hurl bombs and protect himself. I understand his hypervigilance, we understand his diagnosis and healing, we have been together awhile. Only...

Meds kicking in are amazing. I wish my husband who also has C-PTSD would check them out but he is vehemently anti-pharma