Anyone Had To Cut Ties With Family Before?

[Thizette]

It was more upset about a lack of supportive, caring family, rather than missing them. Then it started to grate around holiday season and meeting new people -eventually they ask about your family.

I get this. It felt awful for so long when people would ask about my family, because an honest answer wasn't exactly what they were looking for. I've started just saying, "we don't talk" and leaving it at that. If they press the issue I say "he's not a nice man" and leave them to draw their own conclusions. Although closer friends know more of what goes on all around the family.

Mostly, I find that I have very little desire to become close to anyone. I don't think this is a social fear (which I definitely have social anxiety) so much as it is a general disinterest in relationships. I wonder if I should be worried about that?

 

[cupfish]

I have cut them off more than once, siblings in my case. Parents are both gone, they are all much older, my dad went nuts after they left the house, I was home and got CPTSD. More than once they have reconnected with me, with varying results. The healthier I get the longer I can deal with them, but fundamentally nothing has changed and YES boot them if you want to. No one has to suffer because of some invented familial obligation.

 

[loner mcdonald]

its very hard to do but at some point it needs to be done to protect our self. 2 weeks ago did that with my oldest son. its heart breaking to do some thing like that. when i read every bodys stories it breaks my heart i know what a lot of you go thru and its hell. on top of all the hell being f*cked over by family. to me its the worst type of betrayal. i cant give any body advice on what to do my ass is to sacred to say any thing for the reason it may f*ck some one up real bad and maybe do some thing dumb. i feel for you all and i hope every one here finds what there looking for. be strong keep putting one foot in front of the other no matter what. god bless you all. loner

 

[Cheryl81379]

I cut all ties with my older sister six years ago for my physical and mental well being. Growing up with her she was psychically and verbally abusive to me everyday. When she moved out the psychical abuse was replaced with verbal, mental and emotional abuse. Six years ago I gave her one last chance once I knew she had not changed I had to be the one to change. I did the best thing I could do for myself
I distanced myself from her.

 

[Gadgie]

I've just reconnected with my sister, after ten years of silence, I'm well pleased about that. But I still don't have any contact with my two daughters, and that really hurts me.