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Hi all, this is a sort of venty processing, I welcome your input. 3 year relationship (both female). She comes from a neglectful and chaotic background. She is v functional in all areas except communication and intimacy. She has traits similar to Autism, I’d chalked up our communication issues...

My ex, is a woman (28) who is a womanizer. History of C/A and neglect, clear pattern in my opinion, of constant numbing through activities and always onto the next woman. There are casulties along the way. I can name 7 just this year. She knows herself enough to know shortly after it begins, her...

Recently I was reading a thread on here which gave a link to this Somatic perspectives on psychotherapy podcast It’s a podcast that talks about the importance of the sufferer using compassion as a tool to help integrate themselves. So, I asked my sufferer, about the time we spent together the...

How to balance a need to not make a plan - because she doesn’t know how she will feel and prefers to go with the moment - and my need to arrange meeting and not be waiting till she has the whim to see me? Does that make sense?

Hi Everyone, My on/off girlfriend is very aware she can’t meet my needs for intimacy or spending time with me - something which I happily give space for. But it turns into essentially me waiting and trying to just be (I’m good at keeping myself busy and doing my own life). And she feels...

Hey there everyone, Situation is, my relationship recently finished with a person who experiences after effects of childhood trauma and neglect. Not in therapy. I work in this area so am more aware than some of my ex’s day to day living struggles. The biggest of these is the inability to bond...

My ?girlfriend and I... enjoyed the honeymoon phase. And then she switched off (physically and emotionally) Thankfully I’m aware of her PTSD and able to get a handle on understanding. Through talking we have established that I am able to just wait and care, and though she doesn’t feel she...

This is a vent thread. I’ve been struggling with feeling resentment. Resentful that she doesn’t want to spend time with me or feel affection towards me, or any of the things that I’m sure many supporters notice the absence of. And I’m trying to rationalise it... I’m from a stable and loving...

Hey everyone, I’ve so appreciated this forum in the past. I’d like to express, vent, bleuuugh. A unique situation... I am polyamorous (which means being involved with more than one person) and currently have two partners both with a past that involves CSA, and both that exhibit signs of PTSD. I...

I wonder if you could give me your opinion? We recently agreed on a word to say when he feels he needs to go quiet. He suggested a couple of words... one was a vegetable and the other was a surgical procedure... both highly relate to the form of his trauma (if that makes any sense without...

So sometimes there have to be changes.... whatever it is, whether it’s getting more firewood or painting the bathroom... and these proposed changes are met with an almighty stubborn resistance... and no logic that makes sense in typical logical terms... Does this sound familiar?? How do you...

Without realising, he’ll make references to his trauma. It comes up a lot. But it’s like he mentions it without mentioning it... if that makes any sense. To me it seems so apparent (I never point it out). It sort of leaks out of him daily sometimes. Does this make any sense to anyone?

Hey there, So, here’s the story... Whirlwind romance while I was visiting his country (I live on the opposite side of the planet)... He disclosed to me he had experienced CSA. (He’d never told anyone, he’s only 30). I go back to my country, dreams and plans of him coming over to visit... Then a...