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A few years ago I a boyfriend from high school and I gave it a whirl. Turned out he has PTSD and wow what a nightmare that was. Oh I should mention we are no spring chickens. We are both 66 years old. Anyway, he moved in with me and started a small business where he made Elvis costumes and...

I want to thank you all for your support. As I type this he is still packing up his car. Right now he is ranting that "he will never be in a position where another person has control over him" That really hurts me. Yes I did tell him he had to leave. But is that control? And he is...

We are ending our relationship too. But it is because I can't be in a relationship when he won't seek treatment for his PTSD. It isn't any easier being my decision. It's almost harder I think because I feel like I am abandoning him. Maybe if he broke up with me I could be mad? I don't...

Is it manipulation? Or is it that he doesn't care enough about himself to get treatment FOR himself? I am just having a hard time today/tonight. But I think what I'm doing is right...for me if not for him.

I know that I have to stay strong. He just said to me "I don't want to leave...we are a family (he's talking about our dogs) and I love you. I will call the VA right now and get things started" I told him that he has had months to do that and didn't and that I just couldn't say OK. Then I...

It strikes me VERY wrong. I have honestly gotten to the point that I don't care what he does or where he goes. I just want him out of my house and out of my life. I've been hearing today that he just wants to die. You know what? I don't care. Do it. Do what ever you want. Have your pity...

First I want to thank everyone for the words of encouragement. Now for an update. He had said he would leave on the 10th. I started getting the feeling that he was once again procratstinating so I called him on it. As I thought he had more excuses...he didn't know when the place he wanted...

So stressed I could cry. He keeps expecting me to have all the answers and do everything for him. If I know the answer and he doesn't like it (which is most of the time) he starts arguing with me. I don't make the rules. There is some paperwork regarding medicare/medicaid he will need to...

@Regina. It is not about being "selfish" - It's about taking care of myself. Yes = maybe they are not logical. But that doesn't mean I should be illogical and to put up with the verbal and mental abuse he so easily dishes out. I can not "fix" him = he has to want that for himself. I choose...

@Jonnyblueyes yes. And exactly how long do I support him when he refuses (and has told me so) that he won't even try treatment? If I offended you I apologize. But I'm not going to be the whipping board any more.

I want this new year to be different. I don't want to be walking on eggshells. I don't want to bite my tongue. But here we go again. He is going back to Vegas. I can no longer deal with untreated PTSD. The outbursts of anger need to go away. He has been in correspondence with someone...

I was in a 12 step program years back the the saying "fake it till you make it" still resonates in my head. I put on my happy face all the time, but deep down I am very unhappy. Sometimes the smallest thing, for instance the commercial about abused dogs, puts me over the edge and I will cry...

Very sad. The relationship between myself and my sufferer did not work out. I hung in for as long as I could but he still refuses treatment and the angry outbursts and strange (to me) behavior are too much for me to handle. He will be going back to Vegas on the 10th. I'm also worried for...

@nursenurse - I can totally relate to the "other woman" - I divorced my husband because of that...he would have been perfectly happy to stay married to me and have her (and their child) on the side. Its just that people can "see" what is going on in that situation. My boyfriend (sufferer - I...

My boyfriend (sufferer) is finally making arrangements to move back to Vegas. I know he hasn't wanted to leave but I have been giving him subtle reminders. I think he now realizes that I am serious about him leaving. It doesn't mean I don't care about him. It means I can no longer live with...

Unless you like riding a merry go round I'd have to say walk away. It's hard... Mine said and did all the right things to be able to come back....all those "right" things disappeared shortly after. Everyone is going to have a different opinion. In the end it is your call. But like...

I don't consider myself to know the "right" answers because I have been struggling with a ptsd relationship for a year now. We were high school sweethearts and the VietNam war got in the way. We drifted apart but last year we reconnected. And like you in the beginning it was as good as could...

Ahh - the old head and heart dilemma. My sufferer refuses treatment. So the only choice I had to stay somewhat sane was tell him we could no longer be together. Funny thing is that he understood, which made it harder for me. Is it manipulation on his part? I honestly don't think so. But...

OMG - so he just discovers his car registration expired in August (it is registered in Nevada and he is in Arizona) - so he's mad because now he has another problem to deal with. He hates his life. Wishes he was dead.... August???? and whose fault is that? So I suggested he go online to see...

Still ANGRY. He was suppose to move out by Nov 15. He asked if he could have a little more time to finish a couple shirts. I said yes. Lately, From things he was saying and doing I got the distinct impression he wasn't moving out. So this morning I told him that I needed a date as to when I...

I want to thank everyone that has replied. I had written a letter and was going to email it to him in the morning while he was at the seamstress. Maybe the chicken way, but easier than trying to talk to him face to face. Well, in the meantime this afternoon the seamstress sent a text saying...

I read on here how everyones sufferers isolate. I wish mine would! I wish he would go away. Instead he blows up. I know when it is going to happen because it is always caused by the same triggers. I start getting that walking on eggshells feeling. I don't do well with the blow ups. I...

I'm totally 100% angry with him. I won't even call him "my sufferer" because I no longer want to be near, with or associated with him in ANY way. I want him out of my house. He knows he is suppose to leave but like everything else he always has an excuse. Even my dogs run and hide when he...

Today my sufferer had a doctors appointment (not for PTSD) that he did not go to. We were in the car and when we passed the VA I asked if he would be in any trouble for not showing up. He said "am I a child? No I won't be in any trouble". Somehow it led to the one time he did go see a...

Tenacious to a fault. I never know when to give up! Yesterday something came up (and now I can't even remember what) but I knew it was probably a good time to bring up treatment, again. I'm not really good with words. I have a hard time saying what I feel and really mean. In any event, he...