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Hi guys. I am a very open and honest person, I usually have a pretty good support network however lately I have been doing the lions share of supporting within my network. My best friend who I trust with my life has met a new guy and is so distracted with this new found love that she has kind...

I was struck by his sense of humour initially, he was witty and playful when we first met, once I got to know him I was drawn to how open and interesting he is! He prides himself on loyalty and that was a very attractive quality in my eyes.. He is thoughtful and generous. And that body tho...

You guys and all your comments have been great!!! Thank you so much!!! You know your not going crazy or those hurtful things that your told aren’t actually true when you guys post about similar situations!! I think what I’ve taken from this is not to board the crazy train, I don’t actually...

I like your sense of humour!!! We’re on our 4th year and I met him after he was diagnosed with PTSD. He spent some time in Hollybush - Ayr, a treatment centre and has been on and off seeing his T since. (CBT & EMDR). More off than on... He was on meds but “doesn’t need them” because they make...

Love your advice. Thank you!!! :) feeling inspired! Have you figured best how to avoid it? Just by leaving the room, or ceasing conversation?? Recently we had a conversation when he was having a good day, I explained how it’s unmanageable for me to balance everything at home plus work full...

I agree that’s easier said than done but I need to start looking after me. Your expression “crazy train” just made me realise. I have bought the same fare and an riding the same train... I need to get myself off!!!!

I was pretty glad I read this thread. I find it difficult to communicate properly with my SO. For the last few months if I call him on the journey home from work or come home and ask him. What he’s been up to, what he got up to today or how his day was I get accused of “interrogating him” I...

@Hojay. I completely understand what @Freida is saying about just letting it go. ...I think that’s why my vet avoids the subject and try’s to like make up without words like a little nudge and a cuddle while I’m doing the dishes. Or a little surprise cup of tea. I used to bring it up again but...

@Freida Thank you for giving me it from another prospective!! Today I didn’t put the shoe on the other foot. Your reply is very much appreciated!!

@A concerned spouse Thank you for this reply!! :) This was good for me to read. I feel much the same like I almost forgot that the PTSD was around for a short while. Then BAM!! I’ve been at home this evening, there’s been a little small talk, earlier hasn’t been mentioned and I can bet he’ll...

My partner is the sufferer and 5/10 he is the one who refuses. We are together only 4 years, he’s 29 and i’m 26 he could go from month- month maybe being intimate only once. He used to have a really good sex drive and the last year it’s seriously decreased. I love him and obviously enjoy...

Hi guys. My other half has been doing really great recently. Coming up to the festive period may be a cause because this isn’t a great time of year. To make things worse his ex has stopped him seeing his son, so he has began court proceedings which I can imagine isn’t easy as we might not...

@Sighs. Can't imagine how hard of a time your having. I really feel for you reading this thread. :( big hugs.

@Dominik24 I think we all get these days. What makes it seem so difficult (imo) is when you see them Laugh and joke with others and at home it's grunts snappiness or worse... nothing! I always took that personally. For a while I really struggled with the lack of emotion. I was sure it was...

Hi guys. Loved reading this thread. I took a lot from it. Have been asking myself the same questions recently and the answers have definitely gave me plenty to think about. It's nice that all of us can relate to each other so well as we understand exactly what's going on. :)

Thanks for all the replies so far. I appreciate any feedback I can get.

Thanks everyone. That helped me realise I need to just watch the kind of language I use when I'm talking to him about things like that. Perhaps if I had of just worded it the way I exactly mean. "What kind of workout did you do in the gym" would have avoided all of that. I actually didn't even...

Good morning all, I was wondering if any sufferers out there can help me understand the trust side of things? My vet partner had a huge fight last weekend, he rarely looses his temper and last Friday he did. I'm going to give my version of events and hopefully someone can help me understand...

This answer may not be particularly helpful, you might not get the answer you are looking for. I don't think there is a quick fix here. In my experience you cannot 'do' anything except reassure yourself that this is nothing to do with you. You need to look after yourself at the minute and don't...

I get this too. My vet was cheated on by his last long-term partner. Which is why I think he is like that. I remind him I'm not her and have no interest in cheating on him. It happened between my parents and ruined our little family, so Cheating is a no-no for me yet it still crosses his mind...

@kddemt thanks for the post. It's such a difficult one. I think it seems worse because in the beginning we couldn't keep our hands off each other... Fast forward to now there are days I barely get a grunt, so I went from the most important person to him, when we were just dating to feeling like...

I'm not a sufferer, My partner is! I found this thread as I'm having a sort of similar situation as you both and in search of posts to try and read up on it. I just posted about a similar story just yesterday in the supporter section. I am so surprised at your hubby getting angry. At the...

This is a promising read, if anything it eases me focusing on it being something personal. Thank you @Friday

Thank you so much, I know there can be some sort of healthy balance, it's just trying to find it. Your honestly has been so helpful, I appreciate it immensely. I wish you all the best!

@Mit So glad you sent this. Thanks I have brought it up and not unlike you, he blames it on tiredness/busy life, nothing is wrong. He turns it round on me,why is sex so important to you. As though I'm being unreasonable. I don't want to tell him that through his coldness and isolation, sex...