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I've been reading "internal family systems". I think you will like it. It's not necessarily a new idea, but it's a little different. We all are "parts", that are conflicted. Google it, and see what you think. See what your therapist thinks about this or similar. Also, EMDR therapy

thanks, do you cut, and if so, why do you think you do, or how does it help?

makes sense. I got a tattoo; the amazing thing is that it burned so bad at first that I didn't think I could finish. Eventually, it was weird, the pain went away, it sort of numbed out; maybe cutting is like that. I could definitely tell the difference. What would be cool, though is to learn...

wow, listen. I think you have it. Even if you keep going day by day, living with purpose; even just taking a trip, doing the taxes, (even if it makes you mad, you are feeling). Eat well, rest, but don't stop the momentum you are moving with. I didn't realize you had were shut off from your...

actually, "not correcting the memory" but it is unforbidden due to the fear of it. It "memory not assimilated is perceived in physical sensations, terrible visuals, and nightmares; also re-enactments. If the feeling made me feel less than, and not integrated into the past, will continue to...

Yes, my mistake. It does matter though if he "was there" or y'all were together. It really depends on how the trauma effected you. Maybe you are afraid of getting hurt again, and this is a way of avoiding it? An interesting concept is a compulsion to react, "compulsion reaction", or compulsion...

OK, well, you are the expert, you know, and that's the info. I want. Do you ever dissociate? If so, did you ever cut to kind of stay ground, and not drift? I'm thinking like my knuckles around a bar on a roller coaster, that intense pressure, and the cut being away of grounding, maybe? do you...

so, you are saying that "most people that you find in seeking a partner, typically are self seeking, personal, financial, and physical gains". So, if we have patience, and we watch 'em awhile, they may show up? Yeah, maybe, but I'm not sure it was his misdeeds? See, this is the problem, I'm not...

your post reminded me of an old music video by Fiona Apple, "criminal". Do you think you love him, and that's the problem, if you love him; then you would have to let him in, and then you could possibly get hurt again? Come here; go away! Or, since he was with you when you get hurt, do you blame...

Thank you Thanks, I really like this site. OH, I like the information on juicing/chewing

No, I don't have PTSD, I did always have obnoxious problems with social anxiety from childhood, though. I guess I shouldn't say "PTSD" per say, but perhaps, "trauma". I'm obsessed with the societal issue of trauma, as it seems every individual that comes in for counseling reports traumatic...

Thanks, that is very interesting. My wife helped educate me about the benefits of "juicing", it's almost instant energy. I think you are luck to have "a village" helping you out; always good to have support

no, I don't have PTSD, I just talk to others that do every day; it was a very short time ago, that our society was under the impression that only veterans have PTSD; doesn't seem to be the case

Wow, 90 days. The intern is approximately two years. I agree, trauma isn't "the only reason for SA, as we live in a society that pretty much associates drugs and alcohol with going to college? I'm just saying that it seems to me, that there still is an under represented population occurring that...

it sounds like you are learning a lot, even though you miss him so much. You want to be healthy, to live. As much as I read the pain and I feel your sadness; I see so much beauty in it all. You encourage me because you love him. I hear so much about the cruel things that people have done to one...

when did he do it?

I'm glad you posted this; I want to learn. I understand it, but how does it help you? I've had some people say "it represents on the outside, what is going on in the inside", or "it helps control the pain on the inside", or "I am hurting myself, as the shame, or I'm top blame". But what would...

is this the first time that all of your memories have came together like this?

Oh, I tried many different things; enough to say that it's easy to get trapped in the things that seem to be helping. You know, if it's not drugs, it's other things. "be careful what you wish for"

right, what ever works; I'm down with it :)

Right, the drugs help to self medicate. I watched a documentary on the classic rock bank, Motley Crue, and it was saying, "you can have all of the excesses, but eventually we have to realize that we were just Killing ourselves". I notice that most of my clients still say that marijuana seems to...

laugh, "nurture us back to hell th" I completely agree with you, and it's what I see too. I sold medical supplies, and many of my friends, were in "big phara". I am very interested in what you found with nutrition; what was effective? I am reading research on yoga/meditation, excersise...

I Working on both at the same time seems to work well too

I hear you; luckily there are some new techniques coming around; and they are admitting that the underlying trauma is often the cause

I work in the Chemical Dependency field. It is interesting to me that many clinicians in the Chemical Dependency field are still pointing that finger in your face, and saying, "you are in denial; you are an addict". It seems to me that many individuals aren't even being trained in trauma issues...