Search results

@MeadowsweetI am NOT here to prove to you what my sentence or grammar should have been as a topic. If you read the actual message in the body, I am clearly asking sufferer and carers point of view. If you are into questioning my topic versus what I am actually trying to explain, you should...

@Solara My intentions are not to hurt sufferer or a supporter. It is simply to learn from both sides to get an insight so I and others can educate themselves. And honestly, I am very proud to admit my flaws in my own marriage due to my ignorance about ptsd so please don't discourage the learning...

Supporters- what is the hurtful thing your ptsd partner has done to hurt you in a relationship? (intentional/ unintentional) Carers- in a relationship, do you know what your suppprters have to go through??

@Sighs we have no kids, married for 2 years. It was intense love on his part during the initial relationship. Few weeks ago, I used to text him almost every other day. But seeing the no interest ptsd or not hurts. So I have cut contact drastically. He texted me about something today about some...

@Sighs my estranged hubby is a combat vet and has serious issues from 17 yrs of special service. You have such great patience. I didn't and I have lost him. But he has this tendency of being controlling, literally take over the situation and gain control, very persuasive and at time...

@Sighs what a wonderful advise!! Love it. I am definitely learn a lot will definitely implement it in my own life:) @Sighs i wanted to ask you a question. You said in the last line "not lower expectations" what do you mean by that?

What do carers of Combat PTSD do to show patience, love, and support in a relationship?

@Justmehere that was another great advise. I do have some problem with expressing or communication and it is hard for me to say exactly what I feel but hopeful by now he knows that I truly care like how you all think that I do from reading my post. I did a lot of thinking and had a small meet...

Currently we are separated. I def feel like understanding the ptsd triggers and symptoms has def made me more patient. I'm in love with this man and am ready to be committed to him. Currently, I text him whenever I want ( which is normally about the open case or dogs) he texts me right back but...

That was such a well written response @Justmehere , you are right I need to give him space, I will initiate contact when it is matters of the case proceedings. but will be fully open to communication when he does contact hi.As far as moving on , I am not sure i am mentally prepared to move on, I...

@Recovery4Me Absolutely not! But I guess the mistakes I made and not having a chance to correct them weighs really heavy on me! I am such a loyal and committed person and hopefully one day he will truly see this.

@SheilaKathy My husband is the one with combat PTSD, he is the one asking for space and moved out! He has said he wants space and divorce. He does give a slight hope of possible reconciliation if we continue to meet here and there and talk things out. I guess my ques is 1)What is the kind of...

My husband and I have separated and we are in the process of getting divorce. Divorce has to do a lot with me being ignorant of the PTSD and fighting and pushing him to file for divorce. I have since then learned and am repenting everyday for my mistakes that I made. Since then, I have a made a...

@scout86 We both cannot decide to work on the marriage right now as we have been only apart for about 2 months. I know that things that hurt us the most take time to heal and is not sorted quickly. For me, It isn't about moving on as that is something I absolutely cant do. Just as, he cant make...

I am so heartbroken and most importantly repenting for all. My mistakes. He will not do marriage counselling. For now, he has set his mind on divorce but tells me that things may change but he can't guarantee that as he has been scares by the way I treated him during marriage. It was a mistake...

My husband and I were married for year and half. I was unaware how to deal with my husbands severe combat ptsd which caused me to yell, blow up, give threats etc. He says therapy doesn't help, off and on meds, drinks to clear his head. He is very strong minded though and can take in a lot! I...

Your story is exactly what I am going through right now. We have been married for year and half. I was completely unaware of ptsd so I lashed out, yelled, showed anger , gave threats, until he exploded and filed for divorce. He says he is done with me and the things I have said to him will never...

You are right about the enabling behavior. I think I have allowed too many times and now that kind of behavior has become a norm. But how do I know if it is an enabling behavior or really his Ptsd kicking in. Are you suggesting I celebrate thanksgiving at my house? Or some place else? Thank you

@Leah123 Your response was beautiful. My husband changing his mind last minute when I have already given word to others is not okay as it puts me in a awkward position all the time. Yes he does make me happy and we get along just fine but I think he fails to understand that dealing with ptsd as...

I'm sorry to hear that. Hope things get better. My husband and I get along just fine, it's only this dilemma of him changing his mind at the last min bugging me . I don't know how to make him realize that I understand his ptsd bathe has to compromise too when it is vital to family traditions.

That's what I'm saying , I asked for his approval and he said yes and now he is Turing back. Sometimes makes me feel that this isn't even my home as I have to ask permission to host or create an event or anything and when he wants to he invites whoever he wants to. I'm just sick of this

@MyWifeHasPTSD The problem is that him saying "oh I'm gonna leave blah blah blah" is an indirect threat stating that I'm going to make it obvious that I'm leaving as I'm not having a good time. I don't want my mom who has done so much for us to feel like she is uninvited or is creating tension...

Yes, I told him that this is my house too and that we both have to compromise as to what takes place in this house. If it were a stupid unimportant event , I would whole heartedly cancel it. I think that ptsd should not be used as a hall pass every time. And I told him that he has to compromise...

I have told him how important it is and if I focus on the importance of it he responded by saying " it can't be important than how I feel", he also says that he will leave for the day if anyone visits that day. Don't know if it is a threat or not but I don't want my mom to think there is...

I understand and I would love to keep him happy but can I draw a line somewhere ?? What if our kids wants to celebrate Christmas and he already said he doesn't want to celebrate it. This is not just about canceling Thanksgiving, it's about family traditions for years to come and being...