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for my two bob's worth, i think a lot of people don't know which way is up at the moment as well. so much turmoil. lockdowns, job uncertainties, worries about health of family and friends. wouldn't read too much into things. lots of people trying to work out how to deal with all that's...

I'm no fan of Morrison at all. I will give him something though, think he's trying to do his best.. but definitely don't rate Murphy. Incredibly defensive and agree he's in way over his head. I've been listening to the UK CMO and CSO mostly. Seem to be far better communicators.

thanks. yep everyone has their own challenges. given the completely lock down and the turmoil in the world in terms of people's jobs, health etc, not exactly a suitable time to be running off into some other relationship. I didn't give my commitment to my ex and her daughter on a whim. i...

she's been through hell herself. can only wish her well and a much happier future.

wow. said a few words in hope of supporting poster of this page and then get psychoanalysed over a few words. honestly dont need people coming piling in.

i'm not getting upset at you. just saying that we need to allow people to grieve in their own time. ive had my own traumas in life. if it takes me a week or years to start over, that's for me. i dont expect people with ptsd to put their own traumas behind them in weeks or months. if i...

when there's no rational explanation it can play on people's minds for some time. can result in them not wanting to engage in another relationship for a long time. that's all i am saying. rushing off to find another relationship when the past one was the one in which you were told you were a...

actually dont agree. people who rush from relationship to relationship perhaps have issues. i know that psychiatrists who deal with trauma often tell people to take a long time out from relationships. does not mean its unhealthy to self analyse for some time. rushing off to the next best...

I wish you well. I went through this and got sudden shutdown. No one had loved her in the way I did. It came to an abrupt and unexplainable end. A hurtful end. My strong view is that if she can’t engage in meaningful counselling it will end badly for you Probably not what you want to hear but...

That’s awful. I didn’t get all the push pull. Had been in a relationship previously which was just years of lies on her part. Push/pull/push/pull. Every time I tried to walk away it got worse. She overdosed, cut herself. I tried to understand. Doubled down in trying to be there. I did...

Sorry you are also going through this. I need to put my energies into my parents and other family and doing what I can to keep them safe and healthy through this pandemic. I feel very sorry for my ex. I pray she doesn’t get sick. I pray her daughter doesn’t either. I worry for them both...

loyalty is a beautiful quality. hold on to that....

Message to my Ex Dear ex. We had something special. I know that because neither of us ran into a relationship for the sake of it. You didn't introduce me to your daughter lightly. I didn't walk into into her life with the intent of being yet another man that let you and her down. Maybe it...

We had a beautiful connection for a while. Her Trauma, my own stresses in having clients who I was trying to help on a pro bono basis who had lost life savings to a crook and the impact that had on me came together at the wrong time. If she had been able to better articulate what she wanted...

I’ve had a bit of time to reflect over the past couple of days. Work has been intense. Have been utterly exhausted. The twisted bit was her ending up saying I had an obsession with her daughter. I was reacting to her insecurity that I was going to leave her and be one of the long list of men...

It was stable right up to the end. Thank you.

I understand how you feel that you won’t be able to love and trust anyone the way you did him. I have thousands of messages from my ex about how she had never loved anyone in the way she did me, how she would get on her knees and thank god every day for me, how should would go through...

I can feel you pain too. The hardest thing is that she twisted me wanting to be spend a few minutes with them both on her daughter’s birthday into something quite bizarre. She sent so many messages about how she valued being made to feel part of my family through my parents etc. life is not...

I spoke to my counsellor yesterday who I first spoke to a couple of weeks ago. That conversation led me to this site. My ex is unable to articulate what drove her to end the relationship. A small misunderstanding became complete shut down. A well meaning friend of her cake piling in and...

Honestly had enough. Poured love, time, energy, thoughtfulness, money, understanding etc into my ex partner. Trusted her words that I was her soulmate, the person she had waited for her whole life, the person who understood her like no other. And then became dust. Given my all to others...

Or if your needs are not being met then maybe you need to take other action. I’ve probably spent too much of my life forgiving the unacceptable behaviour of You will get mixed advice here.

Hi Daerhel. I’ve received some replies on this site that I haven’t felt to be particularly understanding. I think one of the challenges is that in a written post things can be interpreted different ways. I’m grieving a sudden end of a relationship where I question what I could have done...

So paraphrasing her words - we were the same - We has the same values - we had the same sense of gunour - she had waited her whole life for someone who understood her, laughed with her and wanted the same things in life - she had found that in me - she knew I was the one for her Her...

My ex said her daughter always wanted family and it was something my ex could never give her. She could see it in her daughter’s eyes at times when she looked at other families. She said that I had the most beautiful heart and that my parents had raised an amazing man, a gentleman with value...

Thank you Joey. Well I just got my closure. My ex sent a message in response to my request for understanding. She said “I had an obsession with her daughter”. I’m sorry that is sick. That’s where her head can now go to. As the thousands of messages from and to her over our time together...