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self harming is a release mechanism but can escalate . Wished i knew more . Some people put an elastic band on their wrist and ping it to create a little stinging sensation .But sharing the cause is the answer. To sleep concentrate on the fact breathing is the one thing we take for granted. To...

not unusual to feel this way but its important to remember bullies control by fear. Do you have you retained any evidence if so report it. It doesn't matter it was last year if it instills fear not good. If you have names all the better. By reporting it will help your confidence and just as...

it's good to talk but that depends on who you are talking to. Some people are good listeners and are understanding. The so called experts aren't always right. If it feels right for you then it probably is . Good luck

well i can't understand how he does this job but understand you cannot continue with him . Try not to let this affect you if possible and find an alternative. until then chat here as it helps

We used to say that sticks and stones will break your bones but words can never hurt you which of course is not true. When people make comments about people you care about you can address in different ways which depends on your knowledge of them . You can tell them their comments are childish...

It is not healthy to face this alone because when it becomes painful you need to be able to survive it. Have you reported your abuser if not why not. I will check on you again. you are not alone

Here he is saying / showing the best form of defense is attack . Clearly he thought that you suspected he was up to something and responded defensively when in reality you were merely interested. Whilst this may have been a misunderstanding his defensive response may reveal he was later because...

Well you live in the US so it's different to NHS in UK. what i will say is that you need to see your GP and communicate the fact that you need increased support . If possible i suggest you write down what your needs are in the here and now that way you won't forget important points that you...

for as long as it takes to get a full recovery . Co-operation and communication is the key . I wish you well

You may like to contact your local member of parliament and make this an issue which will protect others. I was once technically abused whilst sedated by two porters taking me to theater. They were saying i was scared when in reality i couldn't care less but became more and more angry and trying...

I supported someone who was abused from birth and developed DID which used to be called multiple personality disorder . This person had 20 inner people of different ages and gender . Despite being abused she abused others in seeking revenge for her own abuse . This empowered her because she...

I was abused when i interrupted two gay men having sex i was 6 yrs 11 months old when it first started. My abusers are long dead but i have had continued abuse for relating this. Now i console myself in the knowledge they are long dead. As your first awareness was at 3 yrs old have you thought...

As with some people with extreme PTSD symptoms such as DID as a result of extreme abuse as a child often it's a pattern of learned behaviour . The fact is though that anything you have learned is normal can be un-learned . When certain behaviour seem normal and people feel useless , worthless or...

Firstly you need to value yourself and how important you are to those who love and care about you. So no more apologies for being here it's your right. You are guilty of nothing you are not a criminal so you don't deserve to confine yourself to a life sentence of self loathing . You are an...

I supported a Lady with Dissociative identity disorder an extreme form of PTSD as a result of extreme trauma following extreme abuse as a child. This lady revealed what she called her dark side her liking for BDSM . I believed and still believe this was learned behaviour as a result of abuse as...

yes another tragedy of inhuman humanity Afghanistan today 90 killed 30 Christians beheaded by Isis this is a so called holy war that goes back to the crusades where we sang hymns about destroying the muslim hordes. It sadly is a world where poverty can be used to create fear and create hatred...

You do we all do so don't blame yourself because of others. Sometimes we hate abuse and yet invite. This is learned behaviour. Tell yourself you deserve love and happiness because you do. Do not make excuses for yourself or others or apologize for being human and wanting and needing what we all...

I feel sad to hear this . I suffer pain with rhumatoid arthritis but understand stress makes it worse. My past life and those who abused a child means i could ask why me? But i don't those who abused are long gone and cannot hurt me any more so why should i allow them in my head and my life...

I supported a lady who had 20 alters i calling them family. The youngest was a teething baby then two 2 yr olds they were the historians young teens older teens and adults of either sex. After 2 yrs only 2 alters remained. A 2yr old child and a male 21 yr old. I encouraged them to communicate...

unwanted non consensual sex is rape and being followed is harassment both which you are protected from by law. As for friends what kind of friend doesn't appear to have empathy for your situation i do and i don't even know you

talk to the hand say it with a smile. Usually this kind of behaviour feeds on reactions no reaction no fun . Try to blank or say something about the weather or other. Pretend you did not hear what he said . If it feels like harassment then it is

have you told him this and does he have DID or is it PTSD as DID is a more extreme PTSD which can mean relationships can be difficult and complex. Remember love conquers all. And if you love him tell him how you feeling and your concerns for him . You have nothing to lose but your MR right if...

Is it clear in your head what happened or is it buried by fear. Therapists are human and only as good as their experience allows. Try to write your feelings if this helps then share. But no apologies as you are the one who has been hurt . I always encourage writing as you can share no pressure ...

Firstly you are the patient and you are having therapy for a reason. Try not to overthink the situation and stress yourself more. Email a simple sorry and state will explain friday that way you are not giving yourself undue pressure

Firstly don't apologize there is no need. A lady i supported had DID and had 20 alters. She like me communicated through poetry . This may be an avenue to follow or just sharing your feelings by writing little and often if that helps. Often inspiration comes at odd times and something on the TV...