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So far Dreamz I haven't had nightmares however I have been as strong as I can for the past 3 1/2 years and the cracks are showing now for me. I was tired after going to an event at the weekend however yesterday due to a big 'conversation' with hubby I couldn't face getting out of bed and...

Just wishing you all the best Journey31 - PTSD changes people and can hits years and years later - my hubby is suffering badly 20 years after what happened.... You sound great and with your head screwed on! I really wish you all the best Sunshine xx

This is great to read and gives me hope... my hubby used to be calm, happy, laid back - I see glimpses - usually when we are around other people...xx

Really hoping all is going well Amethist - sending healing vibes xxx

Thanks Bilby... It is tough and I have left him to get on as such but knowing he is struggling is so stressful - I have to get on as I have clients and pay the bills... He doesn't really have a clue as to how to get work & finds it overwhelming ... Its a tough one. Thanks for your reply. I am...

Hi all After a few OK days hubby has just thrown a wobbler - he is trying to build his business and I am nothing but supportive. Its tough as he isnt bringing in any £'s - I have mentioned this before as to be honest he is rubbish with money too. He is running a workshop this weekend and only...

Thank you so much Eleanor..... I really appreciate this. Hubby has just flown off the handle again just now so I understand about switching from a good relationship to a rather sh!te one. Maybe we need to spend more time apart and enjoy it when we are together - If her was working from his...

In case this can help anyone on here... We have found a new PTSD centre in Southend in Essex. She says she has people travelling for hours to have the sessions with them. They have lottery funding so the sessions are free. Hubby has just started with them....They seem helpful and have spent a...

Hi Hashi He hates the flashbacks - they are debilitating. He hates the fact that he cant think straight. Thats he gets confused to the point of not knowing who he is or where he lives at times. He says he hates himself and every day is a struggle. It is so so sad. We have everything going for...

Thank you amazing people for sharing and giving me hope.... I don't know whether unconsciously hubby is trying to hurt himself? Be turning the people he loves the most into this nightmare? I feel I living a horror film.... I have some hope now - and welcome any more answers too. Love to you...

Thanks Nicolette. Maybe it is something different than a flashback....?? I have been thinking about it as hubby has only just really told this to me..... Take the other morning - he simply opened his eyes and looked at me next to him in bed - and I turned into the little boy that was killed in...

Hi all Hope this is OK to post as I have just asked Anthony - I really need some advice / experience as my marriage/ depends on this I feel now... Can the association of stressors/ triggers be changed? My son and I are now my husbands stressors/ triggers and this is hurting him even more as...

Well we had a good chat today and hubby felt very calm with no flashbacks while he was at his studio/ office yesterday. He came back at 2am instead of staying the night.In the morning he opened his eyes and had 4 flashbacks first thing in the morning. Just looking at me while I was asleep :O(...

Dear friends Last weekend I went on a personal development course - I realised I have been coming from a place of anger and hurt dealing with hubbies PTSD. I am now focusing on coming from my heart instead of thinking with my head (if this makes sense). It has helped as sometimes he needs a...

This is amazing Amethist - I have been thinking about NLP for a while now. I think I will PM you to see if you can let us know who you saw. There are some amazing NLP people out there - however I studied it myself and after I think 4 days I could be allowed to help others using NLP - I think...

I wanted to share that hubby and I had a good talk - well with a lot of tears from me. We really cleared the air. I hope this will help and maybe for others too - try your best to communicate instead of letting so much niggle us until we explode.... Thanks all Sunshine x

Please help lovely forum members... I am going to sound horrible however my hubby just seems to do things that really upset/ annoy me. And that’s it. Other than me ‘caring’ for him/ paying the bills etc he just doesn’t seem to be part of the family and shows me no affection/ love. I hate the...

Can we ever bring back closeness? I only seem to be happy when I am not around hubby.... I got him involved in 2 fab events - he really wanted to take part. We are talking a super venue, celebs, great people. He said he was bored and I am stopping him doing what he wanted to do!! And I feel...

Thank you Hashi - I understand a little too - it is hardening my husband too :O( Take care Sunshine x

Thank you so much Hashi. Your words and to take the time to write this are so appreciated. It is interesting - trigger and stressor. Our son can act in a stressful way - Wanting his own way, pushing the boundaries - however I have noticed that when spending more time with him things are...

Thanks Discarded and hope you are doing well. It does make sense. My hubby isn't able to do the finances - even before PTSD and so maybe controlling the house is some kind of crutch / support. Do I just leave it then and accept it or continue to say these are boundaries that when crossed...

Thank you so much AJ - really appreciated. I wish I could just let it go I suppose but it just is so annoying and gives me more to do. We have lost paperwork, not signed things we should have and more - all because he just shoves things away. Well since I posted I have been sobbing my eyes...

Dear all Unless we are living in a kind of show home with spotless house hubby is angry and stressed. Is this part of everyones PTSD? I work up this morning at 5am to his chucking several pairs of shoes into the spare room. It really upsets me as they don't belong there anyway!! I cant cope...

Huge thanks and love...... I will let you know how it goes :O) Sunshine xxx

Thanks as always Amethist.... He came into my office and gave me a hug. He stood behind me while waiting for the printer not talking..... So I thought I wouldn't either. He then shut my office door loudly and said "Im out of your office now".... in an angry voice... He says he doesn't want to...