Relationship Can We Ever Bring Back Closeness?

[Sunshine71]

Can we ever bring back closeness?

I only seem to be happy when I am not around hubby....

I got him involved in 2 fab events - he really wanted to take part.

We are talking a super venue, celebs, great people.

He said he was bored and I am stopping him doing what he wanted to do!! And I feel just to bring me down - I was happy, having fun - even doing some presenting with some celebs.....

The following week another big event - it was amazing. I got him involved and even some £'s for him.

I paid for the hotel, the petrol, the food - I get nothing. Not even a well done or thank you.

We left the event to drive to our hotel for the night and we couldn't find it. He was so angry, stressed, swearing - it just took 5 mins longer.

It seems he just wants to knock me down when I have a little bit of happiness.

Last night he was sleep walking - I am shattered.

While I am working, paying for everything he is still playing around trying to make a business work - spending no time with our son.

I know its difficult - our son is a trigger.

While I am doing all of this I have seen he is sending emails to friends and a 'girl' friend too.

Its not on.

I just want to bring back some sparkle .... I am worried I just have no feelings left for him now.... especially when his moods change. He is not a person I would even associate with.

Thanks for letting me have my moan.

How can we bring back sparkle?

How can we re connect before we drift completely apart?

I am scared to talk to him - he flies off the handle and this causes flashbacks etc.

Thanks and love - Sunshine x

 

[Sunshine71]

I wanted to share that hubby and I had a good talk - well with a lot of tears from me. We really cleared the air. I hope this will help and maybe for others too - try your best to communicate instead of letting so much niggle us until we explode....

Thanks all Sunshine x

 

[Bilby]

I've only just seen this thread, but I'm glad to hear that Sunshine. Communication is essential in any relationship, but even more so where there is PTSD involved.

I hope that things continue to move forward for you both.

B x