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Really??? He does the stupidest shit sometimes. I hate to use that word (stupid), but- really? Why? Is it really necessary? And he doesn't understand why his hands hurt. I forgot I had written about this... http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/sethes-stuff.12653/page-2#post-169204

Shit! I don't know about the complaining. They both still do plenty of that! :rolleyes: I think he is consumed with his age. He's always complaining about how things don't 'work' the way they did- like his hands. I think he gave himself permanent nerve damage when he pounded out a trench...

You know you have it when the sudden motions of others (perceived as violent) bring you to tears.

Well, it's weird. My father 'found church' and I do think it's helped him. My mother is still scathing in her comments of how 'low class', 'filthy', 'disgusting' or 'perverted' people are- and she's still in denial. And as I said, my father was the scarier one, so his change has impacted me...

My first reaction would be to tell him to get the F*CK out of my apartment. But, then again, I tend to express myself more now. I think he's TRYING to trigger you. I agree with other posts about boundaries. You've got to take care of yourself. You are the best person who knows how to do that...

Have you considered finding a therapist?

I am 99% confident that I am posting this in the correct section. For those of you who were abused by parents for long periods of time (years), has your primary abuser 'mellowed' over the years? My father was my primary abuser (God, I hate saying that) and he no longer (at least around me)...

I'm really not sure which definition helps me. I'm a little triggered by the article, so I'm gonna take a breather.

I don't know that the trauma from my parents was planned. My ex?- maybe. Hmm, "...chronic interpersonal victimization. Such abuse is often founded on problematic and insecure attachment relationships..." Yeah, this fits. "Parents and other caregivers who abuse exploit a child's physical and...

Does that help?

I am now learning to praise myself (didn't get it much as a kid). I work on recognizing what I have achieved and I try to focus on those things. When I look at your post, I see several achievements. 1. You got into school. You were ACCEPTED. They WANT you. 2. You have financial aid. They must...

I hate my inner critic. It holds me back from the life I was meant to have. If I could find some way to manifest it as a tangible thing, then I would probably kill it. I have some pretty descriptive ways of 'destroying' it, but I'm too afraid to share them. I don't want to be labeled as a...

I would be wary, but open to the experience. I, too, had an ex who 'flirted' with other women online. He always kept his computers (yes, multiple) locked and would become startled at times if I dropped in his office suddenly. So, the situation has me a little leery. If he honestly wants just a...

Feeling abandoned again (empty). I hate this feeling so much, that I hardly ever admit to it.

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I feel hopeful and neutral. I think I'm in one of those 'blah neutral' moods. Does that mean I'm numb? How can I be numb and hopeful? Hmm...

Welcome to the club! I am familiar with having a parent (or two?) with NPD.

I was pretty pissed off earlier this morning (been raging a lot lately), but now I'm coming down off it. I'm trying to become more aware of my triggers- easy to say and hard to do.

I feel physically tired, but I'm not done yet! I'm a workaholic. I just spent several hours doing yardwork, climbing on the roof and working on my garden. I am exhausted and I plan to go back for more. I suppose it's my way of avoiding some of the anger/rage I feel. It's also a way of...

Extremely angry, pissed off, full of rage and stuff I cannot even categorize. I am trying to calm down so that I don't punch someone.

Good job ronin! I'm winding down over here as well. It can indeed by stressful and overwhelming. Treat yourself!

I think we seek in partners what we know. Example: If you grew up with narcissistic parents, then you may think it's normal to be with a person who treats you similarly. We seek what we know. Therapy educates and enlightens us to seek what we deserve- mutual respect. Most of us were taught...

It's easy to get hurt in a relationship. Most of us were hurt as kids by family (who were supposed to protect us). Why would we go looking outside the family to strangers who could also hurt us? I think it's a learned response. People = potential pain- stay away.

Thanks Mercy. Actual smacking upside the head didn't happen when I was a kid, but there was a pervading fear of being 'destroyed' a lot. Thanks for the validation. Sometimes I feel like I don't belong here and that my symptoms are not 'enough' to justify my 'complaints.'

I've been beating the crap out of myself (mentally) for this too. It is so hard to say 'I love you' to my bf. I used to say it more often in the past. Maybe I have a hard time now because of work with my current T? Most of me trusts him, but there are parts that trust NOBODY. Loving someone...