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I’m glad you have a good T. Mine is also very good, also has a trauma history, and goes way out of her way for me. This is my issue. She has been nothing but validating and supportive. I just have some sort of complex or block or wall going on.

@grit thank you. This makes SO much sense. I do believe you’re right. But having almost no memories from ages 0-10 means I can’t trace these things back to their source. It’s so frustrating. But you explained it in a really clear way that makes sense to me, so thank you!

Ohhhh Interesting. Reverse psychology. I used to say to my T I don’t even want to get into this ever. If you tell me they’re real, I’ll fight you. If you tell me you don’t think they’re real I’ll be crushed and won’t be able to come back.

I think the only way around this is through it. You know changing therapists only prolongs the process. Attachment wounds can only be healed in relationship. I know adding attachment stuff to trauma work is frustrating but that IS the work right now. Along with the other work. In my experience...

Yeah, that book is amazing. I’ve read it a few times. Thank you for sharing your experience @Freida. I get body pains that come with various flashbacks and I also have flashbacks that are caused by body pains. But never in her office. I’m too outside my body and really can’t talk about much...

I think the bottom line is I have zero self compassion if I don’t believe them, which makes fighting the symptoms so much harder. I don’t know if I’ll ever have a big picture. It may always be the unsolvable mystery. And getting out of my head would be amazing. I don’t want to be in my body...

@shimmerz it does feel like a new “layer!” I used to be afraid to talk because I feared I would “convince” her to believe me, which would make me a liar trying to get attention. Now it has switched entirely in that I fear she doesn’t believe me. I don’t remember ever not being believed. But I...

Right, I should have specified. I have other traumas that could’ve contributed to the ptsd. But the classic symptoms I experience seem to come from those instances.

I’m not sure what’s going on with my T, or how to fix it. The problem is on my end. A little background: I began seeing her for phobias because they were getting out of control and I was so anxious all the time. I had seen a few T’s prior to her for suspected csa. Basically when I was 19...

This happens to me. I’m very attached to my T. I go through all kinds of stages and feelings when she’s gone. It’s tremendousky hard to start back up. I put everything in a box, along with her and my feelings about her, and put a lid on it. It takes some time for the lid to be lifted and for it...

This has been, hands down, the hardest part of healing for me. It’s an insane struggle that I can’t seem to get past. My first flashback happened at age 19 or 20. It was out of nowhere. But explained so much. For the next couple of years i had a few flashes. Very odd ones. Didn’t fit into the...

I believe finding the right T is huge. I saw one TERRIBLE one for a month. Then a really good one who referred me to someone else. And stayed with that one for two useless years. I think she was smart and maybe effective for others. She told me i had PTSD but I sat frozen every single week...

I wonder about this as well. I’ve been with my T exactly three years and feel like I’m *just* settling into staying mostly present during sessions. I’m really attached to her and that causes a lot of trouble for me, but is part of the process. I’ve never let anyone close like she is, and it’s...

So, it started a discussion that has been ongoing about how when i walk through her door, I am “on” whether I want to be or not, and appear the same no matter how I’m feeling. And when I leave, that’s when I know how I was feeling in session. When I get in my car sometimes I shake...

I’ll just echo what some others have said: ultimately it doesn’t matter. Although it feels like it matter so much because it’s you life and you want to know. I get that. Like REALLY get it. The last 20+ years I’ve struggled almost daily with an internal debate about whether or not horrible...

Yes. :( I see the places it happened (if it happened. I’ll probably always doubt my “memories” since they came back in flashes 15 years after the fact, and I struggle to believe they’re real at all). But I can’t see a face. I can make assumptions based on who was around at the time, one of the...

I emailed my T ahead of session once and said “I will tell you I’m okay when you ask. But I am not ok” and she responded “I’m looking forward to discussing how not ok you are” and that was a turning point for us. Because I walk in there and it’s like a switch- I have to appear ok for her. I...

Not in my experience. I read about these memories that come “flooding back” to people but that has never happened for me. It was 20 years ago that I had some weird flashes of pictures that I will never know if they’re real. My T also always tells me the body remembers. I remember very little...

Remember ALL parts are welcome. BECAUSE all parts are looking out for you in their own way. Therefore I agree with @Sietz that your self isn’t talking or in control if you want to kill a part. What is fawn’s role? I’m thinking if you want to kill a part then you’re blended with an inner critic...

I didn’t read every response yet, but wanted to comment because I do have a similar amount of communication with my T and it has never been an issue as far boundary confusion, becoming obsessed, etc. I am free to email my T as much as I want. Some months it ends up being once between sessions...

If I wasn’t attached to my T I wouldn’t be able to risk the vulnerability I do with her. I was with a technically very good T for 2 years. I “liked” her enough I guess. But i was not attached. And I never changed. I never was able to let my guard down with her. I had to leave because I wanted to...

If she was concerned about that sort of thing she either wouldn’t have a Facebook account, would have a locked account where people wouldn’t be able to contact her, or she would use an unidentifiable account. My mom is a T and she uses Facebook to be in touch with family but only her contacts...

I have the same homework this week. Mine is from a workbook on Internal Family Systems. But I’m also reading Freedom from your Inner Critic which has a quiz that helps you identify the types of critics that cause you the most problems. I’ve decided to start there. Other than that, I think I have...

That book is amazing IMO.

@lostforgottensoul IFS isn’t for DID alone. It’s for anyone. The one who came up with this method started it while working with eating disordered clients and found their parts interacted as family members do, only internally. He was a family therapist so employed similar methods as he would with...