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love your lyrics ashdawn. You are very artistic obviously. :) Yes song lyrics can really be profound in some songs and really ring true to your feelings. Writing them is a good way of letting them out and being heard I think. :) one I like is savage garden To the moon and back. She's...

Heidi Show others you are trying? Do you not think that this pressure of having to prove yourself to others is more detrimental to your progression. Do you think you are progressing and doing something? If so it is enough you do not have to answer to anyone else whilst healing. They...

I don't think therapist ever can get enough training. There are so many advances in diagnosis and treatment. Saying that I think it is about the persons qualities and ability to empathise which will make them good therapists. I think also that therapists have different personalities and...

HI Therisa I was think over the weekend of thing that might help you. Tai Chi is a meditative exercise which might help? :) also yoga? I am not sure how you would feel about those things. Can I ask too, if group settings are a trigger does this depend on the type of people within the...

Hi therisa Was thinking of stuff for you to do over the weekend. Tai chi is a meditative exercise which might work? Not sure how you would feel about that? best wishes Saffy :)

Hi Therisa I totally understand :) Of course it is important to do it at your own pace and with the help you are getting and hopefully our support on here things will get easier for you. Thanks for explaining meditation Ms Spock, I cant seem to put it into words very well :) Best...

Sorry to hear this. Therisa. One thing I heard years ago was a type of positive aversion therapy. Which means you try to associate the act with something really nice. Like telling yourself that it feels like the tingling of a drop of refreshing ice water. you can go on with imagining the...

Certainly sounds like you do not. Do you know what caused the panic? (you don't have to answer that, I'll understand.) :) Trying to work on other things while you are still anxious in the environment will just cause more anxiety. Does that make sense. I can only think that by...

I agree. Bullying is very traumatic and can cause immense emotional pain. I believe that as soon as someone makes you feel bad about yourself and they continue know they have hurt you then this is becomes emotional abuse. Most people can take an insult or a stupid comment, but when...

I am not surprised taking into consideration your past experiences with needles. As a child going through operations it is very traumatic and at no point was having a needle a positive experience. However, the need for it now is positive. However, I feel you should see someone because...

Hi H4F I think you have mentioned that you would forgive someone else. So why are not so forgiving to yourself. You continue to punish yourself far longer than you would someone else. People have to make some hard decisions when needing to survive. Survive by what ever means. Sometimes...

HI Therisa Maybe this is the problem. When you meditate you are aiming for total relaxation and focus on something that takes your awareness away from your surroundings. This could make you feel very vulnerable. Until you feel totally safe with the people around you you will find it...

Hi thinkingman YOur problem may be your motivation. Is it intrinsic or extrinsic? Intrinsic motivation proposes that individuals have an innate need to feel personally competent and self determining. . Conversely, if events lead to a reduction in performers perception of either their...

Hi Thinkingman I understand that feeling very well. What is it that actually hurts you or make you feel bad about yourself? I think for me it was the lack of visible compassion, interest and care. I realised I was basing my happiness and acceptance way to much on other people. I had...

A bit wound up. Morally disgusted. Went to charity shop this morning. Overheard the manager say she took home for a friend two large donated bags of really good baby clothes. When I told of my disgust at this I was told to 'get lost' by a volunteer. That is one charity I will not be...

Hi thinkingman Does it matter to you? Why is it so important for others to think it matters? :) That says a lot more about the people you were with than you. How ignorant and unsupportive of them as friends. What makes them so important that they can judge you? If you...

Hi Brat Really? If your confidence is low you will feel like this. But by what I can see from you you sound interesting, considerate and generally nice person. Not a lot of people out there like this. Most just talk crap or gossip about other people. Sometimes saying nothing is...

Hi Brat, Does it feel that they are not important anymore? Or that there is no point? Why? does it cause anxiety? My memory is terrible now. But I just accept that and read things over again if I have too. No problem I have time. It would not stop me from reading something I...

I believe love comes from within. Others behaviour make us feel bad about ourselves but inside we still have love. The abusers, the manipulators and the ones that show no love are the ones who are damaged. The victims have been made to feel that others are more important than them. But...

Sometime when I get like this Brat I do nothing at all. Turn off everything and lie in the quiet for as long as it takes for me to get to the point when I am saying SOD this I need to find something to do. Then I think of three things to do and pick just one. I allow myself to change my mind...

HI PinkSugar That is so harsh. I believe this shows more about him than you. Pretty heartless I would say. :( You have done well to walk away, now make it so that it with your head held high and with dignity. Give the responsibility back to him for not being a better person and...

Hi Pietro I am glad you feel more positive about things now. :) I think this is the problem with us, our authentic self has been lost under a sea of conditioning and duty. :) However, I know you have children and you love them very much, but they too will benefit if you can find...

Hi pinksugar You have a had a hard, unsupported and abused life so far. So very young to have gone through so much already. It is no wonder you feel judged and, therefore, ashamed, humiliated, manipulated and generally lost. However, taking everyone else out of the equation, including...

I agree Becca. They showed such strength and inner truth. It was an inspiration to watch and showed their vulnerability and willingness to learn about themselves and change their beliefs in the world and themselves. :) It gives us hope. :0 best wishes Saffy :)

Hi Pietro I went through the same sort of thing, so you are not alone on this one :) (not sure if that makes it better but....) :) I found when I started not to think of what others expected, or what others thought, or what I thought my passage of life was. When I took everyone and...