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@Mytime - You explained everything perfectly, and put a lot into perspective. I sometimes get lost in my own thoughts like you say, and i expect certain situations to happen certain ways but that is only because that is how I want them, not how he does. I have to learn to let go of some of the...

Well the thing with him, is that he DOES want to party. He wants to drink and get wasted etc etc. So it’s like okay, do you want me with you or not? Cause he’s always with me, always at the house and stuff like that. So to me it’s like, you can do all this, but when it comes to being out to a...

Perfect! i’m going to work on being that way instead of how i have been. When i said i wanted to go to the movies and hoped he would’ve gone with me, we actually ended up going. So i have to take that kind of approach. But my thing, is spending new year’s eve together. the whole being together...

This is basically exactly what it is. I'm scared of breaking the relationship anymore than it already is. I feel like im walking on eggshells, insecure, always anxious about him. I hate this really. Side note, I actually told him what someone on here suggested - "I was hoping you and i could...

I am desperately trying to grasp that. I don't want to forgive too much to someone who does not even realize what they are doing to the one person who cares. It's just hard. But with everyone on here to help through with their experience, i think i'll be okay.

i was thinking about looking up a vet center near me but he is so stubborn and self sufficient that i don’t know how to really approach him about it. i feel like that may push him away from me. i’m crazy for thinking that way right? let me know how you put the two together!

This makes total sense, no expectation=no disappointment. I have really bad tendencies to over read, over analyze, and over think things. I drive myself crazy and then that just royally pisses me off and makes the situation worse. I'm currently reading a lot of books, and just talking to...

Oh we've been broken up for almost 3 weeks, these plans were made like 3 days ago, and then last night he mentioned going with his friend. It's not about him forgetting, he knows we were supposed to go together.

I guess i should follow that same thought process, if i understand it more - I won't be blind sided and then left disappointed. I see what you mean by boundaries.

Precisely the end of the honeymoon stage. So frustrating, i think i overflowed his "stress cup" He is not in therapy, and will not seek therapy. He doesnt believe any one can understand what he has seen/done so hes in this "whats the point" mentality. He completely got out of the military, he...

Wow. If i could like your post a million times I would. I think it does come to play that somewhat its not all his PTSD. and He is just being a poor and unfair partner. It makes me feel very bad that I am actively trying to better understand him and react better, and he can inconsiderately...

Being as how you are the one with PTSD, how did that all make you feel? It's so hard not to let it get to me.

We dated OFFICIALLY for a year, basically 2 and a half really. Hes been completely out since the beginning of September. He cancels, sometimes. More so recently just because we have broken up, and I see some of his symptoms showing its ugly head. I think he has always had these issues, as far as...

THIS was an amazing article. Seeing so many habits/ thought processes I myself do. THANK YOU for posting this. Will reference back to this whenever I have an issue with my negative thought patterns.

I think this was the best way you could have explained this. These comments and forums really do help so much. I am going to look into that link you posted to see how i can relate and try to look at things differently. You hit the nail on the head with that whole post overall.

This thread has put so much into perspective for me.

Well this makes sense too. Like i said previously i am struggling. I wish there was a damn handbook on exactly what to do say and how to react to things. But nothing in life is that easy. I hope one day i can fully grasp and understand him without being upset or frustrated. Thank you for your...

I'm somewhat in the same boat, any updates on your situation?

You are very right. I guess i'm kinda naive. I am giving him free passes, i just dont always know the difference. Wow I am struggling with this.

I think i will, i just thought if i mentioned it he would think that he now HAS to go with me, and then the fact that I was disappointed when he mentioned going with his friend - would send him on a spiral? Like he would push back because he can't deal with feeling he caused my disappointment...

Lol, i meant no disrespect if that's how you took it. I had read on forums and other threads that sometimes they dont follow through with what they say they will. I asked for advice, and insight so that I DO NOT misinterpret.

I knew him before his PTSD symptoms became so bad that its affecting his normal day to day - So i wasnt sure if this was something that had to do with that, or specifically with me.

No because I didnt want to push him on it - how should i ask that without making him feel like he HAS to go with me?

All that makes complete sense! But he CAN do theaters, its just he said he was going to go with his guy friend instead of with me. Does it specifically have to do with me? Does he just rather be with his friends over me? If so why even tell me he wanted to go with me to begin with?

I'm a supporter, who is trying desperately to understand her vet who has combat PTSD. I just want to kind of get an idea of why some sufferers do this. Whereas maybe we can make plans with you, and you bail or make the same plans with someone else. For ex: We made plans to go see a movie, and...