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@Ms Spock My opinion is not worth $.02 here, but I'm going to share it anyway. I hope I'm not rude in the process. There are times and places and people with whom I am different degrees of honest. If you were answering her comments as if you were talking about yourself when she was talking...

I have definitely tripped before. :)

I have been working with a therapist who is suggesting this to me. I haven't done it yet, but I'm doing a lot of reading. I might.

@Hooper we are all works in progress. :)

Good luck. I never had to deal with being in the media. It sounds terrifying.

I have a truckload of negative experiences with both genders. I also have positive experiences with both genders. My experience is that gender essentialism "I don't get along with girls because I don't like pink" means that you are not looking at folks as complex beings who can connect with you...

Phew. Reading this is intense. Thank you for going to such lengths to protect people. You are doing all that can be done.

I'm struggling with parenting but my kids are 5 & 8 so it's a different journey. I still have control. I'm sorry things are so hard.

Congratulations! You are doing what you can do all by yourself *today*. That's a big deal. That is maintaining hope in yourself. That spirit can carry you a long way.

The video for Guitar Gently Weeps was awesome. My favorite is Darling Nikki too. *high five* @EveHarrington

I probably trust too easily. I believe everyone has an agenda and that is a glorious thing. Let's put our agendas side by side so we can see where we have commonalities because those are the areas I want to work with you. My therapist spends a lot of time being shocked at how extensive my...

Your therapist was wrong and abusive. It is not manly to toughen up. It is manly to honestly acknowledge what you feel and respond to it appropriately. "Just toughen up" is saying "don't pay attention to your feelings" and that is broken. Nothing about being a man means you should be a shell of...

Lots of consent involved here. I not only talk to everyone about everything I document it on the internet. I'm not hiding anything. @void yes, you get into what I'm thinking about. How does trust/attachment/etc play in with my need to go have additional relationships right now. I'm hunting...

Oh Friday that sounds awesome. Yes. My shrink is shocked that my husband and I still want to have sex 20+ times a month 10 years into marriage. That's mostly because we are both workaholics. If we could somehow talk ourselves into working less than 15 hours a day we would have more sex. I'm...

I can be monogamous for years when there is a good reason. When the good reason goes away... I really just... don't maintain that state. It isn't much fun.

The full purpose of the original type is to see if other folks here also go through similar sorts of cycles. This cycle came on faster than usual. It isn't that this behavior is completely out of character it is that I have been on hiatus for years and I went from nothing to full speed. He...

Us both being into this is pretty much how we met. :) It would be an incredibly problematic thing for me to be married to someone who wasn't into this.

Whoops. Uhm that's a typo. Non monogamy.

Err, he is wrapping up his current outside project and planning to do that. We come home from dates and trade stories. We go to sex parties together and discuss our successful pick ups. Yup. We do that.

Anyone else? I went out on a first date with someone last night. It went ridiculously well and coming home was better.

I've been married for 10 years. When we met we each had other primary partners. We go through long stretches of monogamy where we work on relationship stuff. The problem comes up because I was uhhh massively more experienced before we married. I miss my friends who helped me gain that...

I am not going to get specific, because this isn't the forum for that. But I was wondering if other people here had experience with not being able to stay monogamous. Everything in my life is on the up and up. I don't lie. But I have conflicting feelings about what my behavior means about my...

I didn't mean to sound like I thought getting out was instant or easy. It isn't. But it is sometimes what some of us have to do because there is no good to be had in staying.

Get out. Get your education. Your dad doesn't know what you need. I'm so sorry. :(

As someone with serious PTSD... that's not ok. We can't hold people hostage. That's psychological abuse. If you don't want to be in a relationship with this person, block their phone number on your phone. I might even change email addresses. Someone who wants you to give up your health/safety...