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:( I'm so sorry. I know all of this is tough. I don't think you should read into anything he does or says or berate yourself for anything you think you said or did....none of that would have changed this situation right now. THere are no magic words or gestures that would make everything okay...

I have a few things that I like to do for "me"....bubble baths, mani/pedi, lunch with girlfriends, window shopping, ice cream for dinner or go see a movie all by myself. I should take up May1321's idea of running though - it would be a lot healthier for me... :D

Welcome Rjai! You are smart to seek advice and learn more about PTSD. There is lots of great information and so many amazing people who are willing to share their thoughs and experiences. Read as much as you can and ask questions. Knowledge about PTSD will help you and your relationship. Sisu

I am sorry you are going through this ~ I know how tough this can be. The problem he is having right now actually has nothing to do with you - it has to do with the fact that he is not taking care of his PTSD. Without therapy and meds he is "free-wheeling" and his mind is all over the place...

It's time for "Super Sue" to do some special feel good things to refresh the spirit. Mani/pedi, new shoes, new lipstick, walk in the park, lunch with a girlfriend or two, make sure you order dessert at that lunch or any feel good thing you can think of that would make you happy. Sometimes...

Hello jibber, Sorry - just saw this post. I know you asked for a parent of a child with PTSD. I am a parent and I am a supporter (to my PTSD boyfriend), but my kids do not have PTSD. I can give you my perspective as a parent and use my knowledge as a supporter too... (hope that is okay with...

I think that posting on here your doubts gets them "out" instead of keeping them "in". Plus I find a differnt perspective sometimes help me - I get so focused on the issue that I forget to look for alternative ways of thinking about that issue. So when I talk to someone and they see it...

I am sorry Pale Warrior - I was out of line in my statement that you were overboard. I took offense to the statement and I should not have. There was a thread yesterday that I was involved in that spoke of God - I re-read what I wrote about 10 times so far today to make sure I wasn't forcing...

Not really sure what this means....I personally think it is fine to talk about God in a post in a respectful manner. Some people use different methods of coping during their most difficult times and just because a person chooses to believe in God or talk about God doesn't mean they are trying...

Yea, free will - darn that free will sometimes. Ha! :p I always joke that it would be nice to have a crystal ball so I could see the future and avoid mistakes. But then I realize that I would have missed out on a lot of "rainbows" because the path would have appeared too hard. I would have...

That lesson you are supposed to learn will become clear when you are ready to know it. I am a very spiritual person and have felt God's presense in my life when I needed it the most. I am open to it so I am very aware when it is happening. A few years ago after my traumatizing divorce, I went...

Army, In those 14 months you have changed so much for the better - for you and for your future. Your viewpoint has changed and your perception of the world has changed. These are good things - it shows you are growing and changing every day. Sometimes the things we have to learn are really...

Hello Sharon and Welcome. My guy has combat PTSD too. There are lots of great supporters with lots of knowledge and experience. Ask lots of questions and read as much as you can - knowledge about PTSD will help you understand him better. Take care!!

You know those days when you get dressed and leave the house because you have to - but really you just want to stay in bed because you are having a really bad day and it isn't even 8am yet. But then you stop by the store to get a cup of coffee and the nice man behind the counter hands you your...

UGH!! I hate to hear this sweetgirl. But I always say, follow your gut. If something doesn't feel right, then most likely something isn't right. Your heart will lie and your head will lie - they both want love and will do anything to make it work. But your gut is that feeling, that intuition...

This is a funny thread.... 1) when I was really little (maybe 3-4 yrs old) I saw this large tractor-trailer get into a wreck on the highway and it flipped over. we drove past it and I remember thinking to myself, "never get in a truck or anything bigger than a car or it will flip over". I...

:D:D Yay!! Jumping for joy!! Sooooooooooooooo happy for you!! Soooooooooo excited for you!! Yay PW99!! :D:D

Yes, you can sort of feel like a yo-yo at times....he is finding his way in the relationship with you and working on his PTSD as well as maintaining the appearance of a normal life to the "outsiders"...(co-workers, roommates, etc.) Just let him know that you are there - build up that trust...

Yes! Absolutely respond. He is reaching out to you. Just a simple response is perfect. This is all part of building trust. He is pinging you to see if you are there - yes you are there for him. It is a tough road if you choose to stick with him and be a supporter, but I have found in my...

Yours takes in roommates, mine takes in dogs. I affectionately call him "crazy dog dude"....(you know, instead of crazy cat lady :p ) I think that staying busy for these military guys with PTSD is like keeping in their "comfort zone". When they were deployed they were told what to pack, what...

The work he does on the base is his "comfort zone" which is why he can easily deal with that. The other things outside of his work at the base are stressors. They can be either good or bad stressors, it doesn't matter. PTSD is a stress disorder and when there is too much of any kind of stress...

I agree with Ayesha, it is a great sign that he is getting therapy and taking meds. It shows he wants to manage his PTSD! Yay! The push and pull can be happening for any number of reasons. It may be that he knows he loves you and wants to be with you, then thinks I love her too much and I...

Welcome Vivian, I am sorry you are going through all of this. Come over and join us in the supporters section. Lots of great people with lots of knowledge and life experience. There are also many great articles on the site as well as some wonderful book selections. Learn as much as you can...

Yay! High five! Jumps for joy!! AND Congratulations!! You should be so proud of yourself!!

Thank you Rain for sharing your take - it really helps when those with PTSD pop over here and give their perspective. And I 100% agree with you - that is where educating yourself on PTSD is so very important. (and having that rhino skin at times :D) ProudWife99 - I always get so much out of...