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I do appreciate the point about how controlled she'd feel at a party that I said no when she asked about the cupcakes, that I said to take one home. It was just a situation I wasn't prepared for and we'd already made a plan.

No, it wasn't that this cupcake was more important, it was that we'd had a celebratory week full of sugar and needed to restore balance for her health and well being. I wasn't even thinking there would be cupcakes at this event, but I had felt that as the week drew to a close we needed to curb...

My daughter does react badly to sugar in excess and that week took the cake, ha. She has sleeping trouble and I fear the sugar compounds it and she was not taking in healthier foods because she was so full from the sugar. I do worry about her blood sugar levels, my husband is prediabetic and I...

I don't mean can I have carte blanche to be arbitrary and uncaring... just.... are the consequences of this episode really worth trying to fear me into the possibility of a relationship breakdown? I AM worried about relationships- I'm worried that if my daughter can't take a "no" said with no...

Thank you. I can see how if I would have just 'threw my hands up' figuratively and went with it, she would have enjoyed the party more and we could have tabled the no sweets time... it's just.... I already had a plan in place and... I guess I think more on the linear spectrum as I just figured...

This one was about cupcakes and I think that's what gets me, it had been sugar overload with consequences all week so I was dialing back on that. Yeah, I didn't think to say yes with the idea that there would be less temptations later, because we've been inundated with temptations for quite a...

So I am wondering, do your therapists give a lot of advice? I am going back and forth.... I can see how if I was more... agile/flexible it would have been much easier, but... am I not allowed to ever be a little too strict sigh? I wasn't trying to hurt my daughter, I was taking care of her. I...

My therapist gave me a lot of advice in a rough couple sessions this week. Yesterday she said to me that "you made a pretty big mistake," and "if you try to control everything you're going to end up with 'an oil and water' relationship with your daughter like __________ (husband) has." The...

$650 per month for two sessions a week- one is 60 minutes, one is 30 minutes, plus unlimited writing back and forth. Out of pocket, online therapy.

She was unfair to me in session Monday too and now that I think about it, said something unfair today too, and that gets me. She apologized without prompting for the massive countertransference Monday, but I guess there was an echo of it today. I was so upset and engrossed in working it out I...

Hi all. I've been in therapy 3 years now, online therapy with daily email discussions/journaling and for the last year or two, usually two sessions a week a 60 and a 30 minute. Frequency was much higher initially. My stressors right now are mainly: 1. Just having moved and the house is...

It is frustrating. Very ironically, my trigger this time, that kicked off this spiral, was something I did purely to relax. Sigh.

My husband Skyped me and I tried to tell him how I was feeling. He said he'd be home to get my daughter from school to help me. It was hard to say okay, I normally don't, but today I said please, yes. Good of him to help me. Now I must get to work!

Thanks Muse, I was thinking about a carrot before, about chocolate, and then I forgot. Things are such a mess here. But yeah, I should go and then promise myself a wonderful dinner, not in budget but worth it to get me out of house for this event- it's probably my last one for a while. I don't...

I am having a hard time moving today. Brain still going, fingers will type some, not much else. Am stuck at home on the couch, made myself eat, but... I feel like lead. I have to go out, i have work to do. I've been burning out a while, then last weekend a huge trigger followed by the...

It might be good for you to work on grounding exercises. It sounds like you are dealing with some stubborn dissociation. I had that too, still do at times, but tremendously improved. Writing helped me a lot. Finding pleasant, focusing topics helped a lot, sometimes it's a perfectly valid way to...

I hope you say that to the therapist. They need to know. I'm very sorry it's so hard and frustrating, sometimes I've felt I could hardly bear the anxiety, frustration, and seemingly never ending emotional roller coaster of being stuck in traumatic memory. It might help to tell them how very fed...

I'd like to do that a lot, but we have so many plans, I can't get enough sleep right now or do much for myself, but I'm trying to manage until I can, until later. It's hard to move right now, and I've got to. All I want is sleep and just feel like crying.

Yeah, I'll definitely sleep on it. It does make sense to think about dropping down to lower frequency, maybe cutting the cost in half instead of terminating, except... seems to me.. it's easier to do without someone than to feel like I don't have enough. :( Like, cleaner and simpler, so I can...

I'm feeling bad about not having the session especially because I was expecting it so much. I had plans for this one, to help me feel more.... settled after such an unsettling week. But I am starting to feel that therapy isn't maybe best for me anymore. I've done it nearly 3 years this go...

I'm just tired I guess, as to why I don't have more perspective. I "know" better, but I feel horrible. I'm fine and not fine.

I called my therapist for our regular phone session half hour ago. "Did you get my message," she asked me. "No," I said. Silence. "I'll just check the message and go from there," I said, hoping she needed a few extra minutes, that happens sometimes. But then I read the message. She's having a...

Thanks for this. I'm having a lot of grief about lost relationships right now and 'ambiguous' was the word I'd just used to try and describe it to my therapist this morning. I'm having a tough time with it, and coming across the article helped some.

There are different techniques for anger mangement. I think there's a lot of value in talking things out long term and gradually gaining a greater self-understanding and more inner peace, but I went into therapy because I was having explosions at my daughter due to a number of reasons, and I...

I am sorry you're feeling so pained. I've been there several times. Your suicidal ideations fit my idea of normal, it's how they are for me too and similar to other descriptions I've heard. Therapists are all different, but my general opinion based on my own therapy with a few and the stories...