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Just saying you're ok with him taking time for himself is enough. You can tell him you're available if he wants to talk. It is NOT appropriate to send morning/night messages given his distance. Being in therapy is the best for the both of you. However, to be honest, and, from my own experience...

Yep. I can relate. Narcissistic work environments are so toxic. Depends how HR deals with the issue. You've a few options, IMO: 1. Stay and see what HR does - whether there'll be a new manager or the current one takes action and some toxic people will leave the company giving you and your...

Nice. I remember once in my childhood having had to go buy Easter bread and there was a long queue. And a nice lady turned around and gave me a bag. When I asked her how much I had to pay she told me to keep the money. I felt a fuzzy, warm feeling inside. Kindness.

I presume it's more childhood oriented. Where's your PCE coming from, if you don't mind sharing?

Not a child development expert but what I'd guess is that that child would be more resilient than if the ACEs occured earlier. The earlier, the worse the outcomes. Wow. You are a true survivor. Sorry for what happened. You should have had responsible adults as a child. Is the PCE coming from a...

Mmm, I'm not sure it's about grouping rather research showing that kids who have PCEs turn out to be resilient and not develop the ailments other kids develop later in adult life who had ACEs but no PCEs Divorce would be an ace. However, if both parents are supportive and loving, that kid will...

What would be your ACE score if you would include those things that aren't on the list? And, how have you been addressing the lack of PCE in your childhood? Have you surrounded yourself with good people? Take good care of yourself?

That sounds like good self care. Pounding your phone may help short term but it may also cut vital support. Sometimes we want more than our body can deliver and if we force it it'll just make things be worse (symptoms will develop and already existing ones will aggravate). Be gentle and kind...

Sorry to hear about your pain. Try breathing into it. If you take medications, is there a chance to take extra so you can complete sooner rather than later? You can address it afterwards. Regarding the consequences, have you considered speaking (tomorrow, I presume) with the stakeholders...

The weekend is almost over. How are you doing, @SeekingAfrica ?

My advice is to go all in on your work. Block out all distractions. If you feel overwhelmed, use some breathing exercises (4 seconds in, 4 seconds pause, 6 seconds out, 4 seconds pause) - focus on the out breath. Do this a few times then resume work. Don't forget to take a break if you see that...

Have you tried mindfulness meditation for going to sleep? Healthy Minds app is free and has a sleep meditation that may help.

In my own experience you befriend the feeling rather than fight it. CBT may help and then mindfulness: "of course I'm scared. It is because I care". This may alleviate the pressure and let you return to work.

I get this due to my raging father. Also silence makes me go "uh, oh, it's so silent". Hypervigilance is a trademark of (C)PTSD.

Sal Khan founder of Khan Academy. Thankful for his lessons on mathematics as I have a lot to recap and learn for college.

Prioritize. Focus 20 minutes on the work. Take 5 minutes break. I'm homeless and I thought it'll be the end of the world. I prepared to live on the streets. Actually I seeked out to live on the streets but I found support and a decent shelter. It's not perfect but could be worse. I'm on...

Indeed, the discussion (among professionals) is that there should be a question listed: "Any other experience(s) not listed above"

That's amazing. You had a nurturing childhood.

I'll start with mine. My ACE score is 6. Though I no longer experience bodily issue, I'm still holding on to trauma both in my body and in my mind. Not much on my Positive Childhood Experiences (PCE). What are your ACE/PCE scores? If you're unfamiliar with Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE)...

Yep. Tim Fletcher is a gem. There're many materials out there explaining causes, but not many explaining solutions therefore I particularly enjoy his videos on re-parenting. Besides the insights I get, I also learn what needs to be done.

Thank you! I must admit, keeping these in check can be a challenge. I haven't had much compassion growing up so it's tough to articulate that to myself (e.g. "of course you're struggling, you've enough on your plate and now with your mom having another meltdown it makes it all the more...

So, I talked with my mother. She is put on new meds. (only one of the previous medication will be retained). And I sorted out the succession papers issue (notary can release a legalized copy to my mother). All in all, it's a rollercoaster and she keeps telling me stories of her seeing things...

Sure. When one family member dies and you sort the inheritance. In our case it ended up equal because of my intervention. My brother tried to scam me and my mother. In the end he gave in and signed the papers so that the distribution is that my mother now has the majority of ownership of the...

I'm struggling. Trying to go through college while homeless having been diagnosed with a mental breakdown, C-PTSD, extreme anxiety and dissociation (plus on a mood stabilizer and an anti psychotic myself). My mother just phoned me to tell me she is listened by microphones in the television and...

NARM Training Institute published it's latest podcast episode. The guest argues that therapy for C-PTSD requires a longer timeframe regarding treatment. Do you agree or disagree?