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I'm sorry you are struggling. Please know you are not alone. You won't always feel this badly. Sending you warm thoughts and safe hugs. ? ??

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Beyond help, running out of hope, my heart hurts, can't stop crying for more than a few minutes at a time, exhausted

Just an observation. It seems to me as if you are being incredibly hard on yourself. Judging yourself for perfectly understandable and valid thoughts and feelings. Like you, I also have a difficult time differentiating between genuine concern and platitudes. Real life is tricky for most, but...

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I hate being in this state, too. When things that have helped before, just don't. When I feel like giving-up, I remind myself that if I give-up that means I've let the abusers destroy me. Those a**holes have done me enough harm, and I'm not going to let them take my life. Getting in touch...

I'm sorry you are feeling so awful. I'm sorry you were not permitted to have a voice in the past. You didn't deserve that pain, or its legacy. You have a voice today, at this moment. And you've used it well to express your feelings. (My words seem to be escaping me today. So, please...

Getting cozy with a warm blanket and a hot cup of tea feels like giving myself a hug at times. Youtube is a good resource for distraction. I love animals, but I've never sought out animal videos before; I'll have to give it a try next time I'm inundated with traumatic memories and feelings...

I'm not a medical doctor, but the episodes you're describing seem to last too long to be an absence seizure. I would recommend checking this with your doctor, just to be on the safe side. I know that emotional stress can induce seizures, in some of the children I've worked with over the years...

Hi, rightkindofme. I'm sorry that rude and ignorant people are causing you to question you parenting choices and teaching skills. It sounds to me that the school in Scotland failed to provide your children with a safe learning environment. The comment that was made about your children needing...

Hi, Overcoming. I've never tried that, but I can imagine how that might feel comforting. I can relate to wanting a loving mom. Sending warm thoughts and safe hugs. ? ? ?

I'm glad you had the strength to assert yourself, and say enough is enough. Good for you! I truly am sorry, too. I know it hurts to realize that someone you cared about, never really did care about you. Also, I get not wanting to go to extremes. However, if you find yourself falling back...

You are not really down a friend, though. Friendship is a two-way street. Sounds like you were being her friend, but she was not being a friend to you. Therefore, you really didn’t lose a friend. Enjoy your extra time. Maybe it will provide you the opportunity to make a new, real friend.

Hi, Self-Determined. Nightmares like that really mess with our minds and our hearts. Sorry you're having a difficult time. Here's a massive bear-hug, lean-in all you want, for as long as you need. You can cry, too, if you want. ???

Hi, Survivor3. Hugs for you. ???

Hi, Changing4Best. I'm sorry for the loss of a potential relationship. Trauma sucks. PTSD sucks. The good news is there are many other potential opportunities for new relationships. In the meantime, here are a bunch of hugs. ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?

Overwhelmed.

Hi, Missycat. The guilt isn't yours to carry. I'm sure you already know this. All of the guilt belongs to the abuser. I pray that you will find peace and healing. Never feel guilty for telling the truth. The truth shall set us free.

Hi, LeoGirl. I'm sorry you are experiencing painful body memories of the abuse, while people are being kind and affectionate toward you. So far, the body memories I experience have not been linked to the kindness or simple affection of others. However, I do experience particular body...

That sounds like a good place to start, then. I don't know if you've ever tried your hand at art. Maybe you would find it easier to focus, if you were to sketch the patterns you find in nature, such as the veins in a leaf. Just a thought. Or even find some leaves, place a piece of paper...

I'm sorry you aren't finding the support you need. If you find your current therapist unhelpful, perhaps you might want to consider getting a different one. Yes, I agree residential programs generally do more harm than good. Unless you are suicidal, I think they save lives. Or unless you can...

I began to cry, as I read your post. I feel as though I could have written it myself. My heart goes out to you. I wish I had answers for you. Like you, I used to think if I were kind and generous with others, they would be the same with me. Unfortunately, there are some in this world who...

There are lots of great suggestions on that list. Thank you for sharing it, The Albatross. ☺ I would suggest picking only one or two to start. Otherwise, it could become overwhelming and be counter-productive. Great thread, ninja!