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I'm assuming it's PTSD because he said he purposely doesn't miss people so he doesn't get depressed. I do want to tell him he hurt me, but at the same time I don't even want to answer when he calls.

I'm so sorry. I feel the same, only my mom thinks she is a good mom. She keeps doing the same stuff and denying the bad stuff acting like I'm crazy. I'd like to know what that feels like too

It's ok. He mentioned his deployments, but why keep the same when you're home? He could at least spare my feelings and say he misses me too. Sometimes he's too honest.

He's home now though. I can understand shutting down during deployment, but he's home. He showed more emotion while he was deployed then he does now. When I flew to spend his leave at his moms, he called telling me he missed me and wanted me to come back before my connecting flight even left...

He did call back. At 6 am (3 his time). Then explained his entire schedule for the next day. On voicemail. I didn't answer. I really can't act like everything is fine. Ignoring him is immature. I was thinking about sending him an email, telling him that he hurt me. I really don't...

I'm so sorry. Personally, I would leave someone who mistreated my child. I know what it's like to love someone who isn't doing right. It really sucks.

He's stationed on the other side of the country. I texted him telling him I missed him. His response was why. I told him because I wanted to be near him. He didn't respond. So, I said I feel like it doesn't bother you. He called. Asked "what doesn't bother me". Told him the distance. He...

He has been extremely distant these past two weeks. He is in the process of being restationed next week. I know he's busy. So wasn't concerned until I found out he's been drinking. He's going out to bars. This isn't normal. He normally just sits at home on the xbox. Do I ask if he's ok? Do...

No, I didn't think you were stalking me. Yes everything else is fine. Just emotionally distant.

Ok, I didn't know anyone would remember my old posts. The put downs turn into "jokes". I think he's realizing what he's doing so he will add an lol, or smiley face. He can met my needs. He actually showed emotion while he was deployed. Now that he's home, he isn't. He's a good guy. He...

I just need to know I'm not wasting my time. If I had some security. We're long distance right now because of military and he doesn't seem to act like it's a big deal. When I said that, that's when he called me emo girl. I didn't mention my daughter, so wondering how you knew, but he...

He finally called and told me just to get over it. They aren't my family. (they are but don't act like they care)They're a-holes. Just move, change my number and never talk to them again. I still want some kind of emotion from him. Mostly about us. I hate not being able to act like I and...

I know it isn't his fault, but his lack of emotion is really getting to me. I'm so in love but haven't told him because he shuts down or deflects any sign of emotion. Even has said things that make me feel bad, such as needy, or emo girl. Right now I'm going through a lot. My mom is such a...

@cragger Thank you for all your responses. I'm trying to do the right thing. I'm letting him contact me. I do send good morning good night texts. Other than that, I let him be. He is calling me several times a day. One time he just kept calling back every time he got off. The last call...

Ok I was just wanting to make sure that wouldn't somehow be a stressor. Didn't want to invoke too much emotion.

He is calling me now more than before. I'm really confused. He breaks up, and stops pulling away. I can't say I didn't exactly see it coming. He had been pulling away. I just don't understand why he stopped pulling away now. Maybe less pressure after the breakup?

@cragger65 It does make sense. I've dealt with him pulling away before, let him and he came back. This time it's almost like he can't decide himself if he wants to pull away. He comes to me, and when I respond, poof. He's hiding it from his mom, very well. Maybe not now. I called her...

All I can say from personal experience is the more you try to push him away from the boyfriend (bf), the more he will cling. Don't welcome him with open arms, but don't try to make him break up. He won't until he decides. When you tell him how bad he is he gets defensive and wants to defend...

Can you contact his CO about it

I'm going through the exact same thing. He's been pulling away, I let him. He came back in, then broke up with me. I'm going to not contact him unless he contacts me. That's what I hear is best. I seem to see with my ex he trends to come back when I leave him alone. We just had the...

He just had more than he could handle and I'm not sure what to do for him. He's possibly getting chartered out. He planned on being career military. (chapter 18] So he thinks he's losing his job and doesn't know what to do. He was helping his disabled mom with money. He said if he gets to...

He is back until they deploy him again, if they do. He said that he's sure they will but no orders yet. He's on his second deployment

Yeah that's when it became crystal clear he was having issues. I know he wasn't serious, but still

We do that type of communication already. Just he changed. He's different. Yesterday he even said he was just gonna stay and buy a house there. He says he's just tired. I just sense something isn't right. There its an obvious change. At first i started to get insecure like he was...

I wasn't offended by anything. I didnt realize it sounded like that