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Oddly during the pandemic I didnt read much but have got back at it and had a friend build us a free little library. So keeping a free library on our property is new and something to do. I have a lot of losses to grieve so whenever I’m back to work its difficult to wade through either the losses...

Alcoholic father, addicted mother. No idea what her addictions were though as they seemed to be around food and support groups. None of us had weight issues, but we had to follow her weight watchers programs. Food was hidden, forbidden and separated by , mom, dads, children. If she was in...

Decide what you want in terms of better life and in the better life what do you want to carry forward. You may be the first to break the chain. But as you have begun to see, everytime you get entangled in the chain of family your behavior comes back to being suffocated or regulated by the family...

Sometimes in the moment they really meant to do so then they have to disengage from us, in a healthy way and move to the next session then the next and so on and that moment of intention gets lost. Mine has consistently said to poke him, when that happens. It shows their humanity and also showed...

No question is weird. There is lots I would never dream of sharing with my t, however, that being said he would listen to anything I bring up because that is the way we do therapy together. Unless I’m avoiding by bringing up random useless things, then of course he has this way of bringing it...

Mine has many reasons. If I’m not clearly identify a question he views it as something for him to read. I’ve learned to be clear, if I’m just stressed and struggling then I’m more or less journaling to him and have to realize it needs to be good enough that he read it. If I rehash a session he...

For me it was to try one thing and see, hear, feel the outcome. Secondly this occurred within the context of therapy because he knew this and his phrase was two-fold, let’s do something new and have I ever statements. So having been seeing him for years the let’s do something new was challenging...

My thoughts are with you and the world who are joining in the mourning, the questioning, the reality of the depravity we collectively hear about and are concerned about. This is where we are. It is a lot to absorb and yet we are not the one’s left without our children, or still having children...

In a way, since you are very familiar with cancellation policies, I would expect that you would realize , sick or not at 90 minutes before the session you would have to pay. Most places have posted policies. I can’t think of any therapy office that doesn’t have a policy. As well after 8 years...

This happened to me. Most people I know get once or twice a week help but i get every 4 weeks. What i did is buy Janina fishers book, transforming the living legacy of trauma. It’s a workbook. My friend also bought it and we do it together once a week.

Look up fear nothing on facebook, they meet twice a week. Monday and thursdays.

I’m going through similar with 16yr old grandchild’s suicide on January 4th. My psychologist almost always suggests sitting with the parts that hold things-for me it is most of my emotions, a lot of memories. I barely understand it but I’m learning that I do need to console or be with the part...

I’m working on one. Not assigned by anyone but I was familiar that people do this. What happened was I was rearranging books in my living room one day and came across a couple of adult coloring books. I always lacked interest in sitting there coloring them so was trying to figure out if I was...

I read an article by Peter Walker that explain the four F’s of trauma and it seriously turned my head around. I could clearly see me self and saw a direction to head. I figured out too that I was not self soothing every time I was doing the old patterns, thinking behaviours.

I would struggle with that language as well. My therapist by his nature is kind, gentle , genuine, authentic. So he brings that to the session and stays true to himself making it genuinely a therapeutic alliance. Our relationship is investing in healing work so I don’t see that as fake. I hope i...

A Better Way to think, not trauma focus but helpful, Neil t Anderson and stormie omaritan are also two good authors to preview their titles. I’m personally reading Hold Me tight-( seven conversation for a lifetime of love) author is sue Johnson-attachment based stuff-no bible reference in it...

It’s a trauma issue still. I am from a background of religious abuse and got the most insight from the reading the deconstruction of your faith work. Basically I had to figure out what forgiveness means to me. As well the root that needs work is the trauma, before you can do the forgiveness...

Hello and welcome. A lot of people use the book the, The Body Keeps the Score, or When the Body says No. I too have a lot of physical issues but have not come to a place of saying or accepting that it is related to childhood trauma, ongoing. I don’t know why that is though. My psychologist...

Ask yourself if I knew the truth about them would it change my perspective? If they knew the truth about me would it change theirs? how for both. What do we share, think common humanity. What makes me desire there life over mine and is it really true that they have it better? Keep challenging...

I didn’t interview, what happened for me is originally he was hired by me to work with my nonverbal autistic daughter, so by chance because i sat in on her appointments I got to see how he worked with her. After about a year I asked him about his history of specific aspects of trauma and he was...

Ive been working for many years on it. Right now I‘m working on an art piece. I was flipping through a coloring book for adults and I stopped and went, hey that looks like my inner world. It was only to a degree though as in the pictures had nice landscape, houses with gardens and animals. But...

It can be a very private journey, shared only with a trusted helper. I have such a helper in my psychologist and the trust took a long time to build. It isn’t fully there but the more we work the more I trust myself to work with the extras I have. I’m not on an integration journey. Becoming...

I’m going through a miserable time with the january 4th suicide of a 16yr old i took care of at arms length since she was 3 when her mom left her with her dad. Her grandfather, someone I’ve had a close relationship for 25 years had custody of her for the past 3 years. Arms length means she did...

I never missed a session, even if sometimes I had to do some online and disliked it greatly. I learned to be honest with my t. Not that I was dishonest, but the type of honesty where I didnt withhold the truth of what I was thinking or doing. I signed up for quite a few trauma conferences that...

Yes. You are exploring anger. It isn’t to try to contain it, but to understand healthy anger vs letting it build so that it becomes unhealthy and sets you to feeling guilty. Try being very purposeful for awhile. As soon as you feel anger, go write in a journal. I’m feeling angry, i can or can’t...