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Prayers are more than OK !! Thank you for your time, and your help So pleased to have met you X

He definitely outranks! No guns,,,, no ammo,,, just sharp stuff in the kitchen :/ He's not sleeping too good,,, at least while he's here, I don't know about when he's away If he's just an ass I'd love someone to shake him into shape again - but sadly, and scarily it seems this may be 'the brink'...

Half your message was missing!! I meant his dad should address the behaviour that he saw first hand,,, even if it was a 'hey,,,,you're being rude son' But that's what mine would have done,, not all families are the same. No,,,, he despises drugs, drink? Not so sure he's away a lot - but drink...

Yes,,,, it scares me too I don't want to admit what I fear may happen - but also don't want to seem hysterical or over the top drama Tricky times Scary times Hurtful ones too But,,, should he 'flip' there's a contingency plan in place,,,, and my older boys know the drill if I shout fire. Not...

Why did I fall in love with him? Because he is mine Because I have known him since I was 12, and he came back to me after I let him go many years ago Because when he came back he was kind, attentive, considerate, fun, lively and very handsome Because he made me feel like the only girl in the...

Hi :) I've been saying for a long time I deserve better - he takes it personally, as an attack. I've detailed over and over what I need, he just looks through me. He isn't sleeping, he has started to stammer, he becomes irritated easily, he has sweats, he has started to refer to Iraq and...

Well I guess I'm suffering as a result of his behaviours and may well have it brought up during my counselling Ptsd has been pointed out by the padre as a reason for some of his actions, but as of yet he won't acknowledge his actions and won't acknowledge he may be 'stuffing down and avoiding'

I really shouldn't accept it - I was raised better. Getting out,,, well, my word is my bond - and I promised to never leave,,so I'm in a moral predicament Putting aside violence of course. You know, he does crap like this, then there's no acknowledgement, then he's nice and if I bring it up for...

No eve,,,, too arrogant to acknowledge it Still serving,,,, high rank 23 years service .10 tours

Convenient LOL xx Yeah, I hear ya - and love the humour :) OK,,, so I won't call him an actual ass hole, because he may have issues, which puts him in the realms of political correctness,,,,so will happily shout rather loudly that he has ass hole qualities -- which gets me off the hook from...

For the last 2 years I thought he was just an ass hole soldier if I'm honest,, and was waiting for him to sort his act out. But lately, when he's here that is, we've had sweats, no sleep, irritability, stammering, talking about himself in third person terms, spacing out and stuff like that He...

Hi all,,,, I really have to Thank all of you,, these last two nights I've slept wonderfully, and to wake up to messages and advice lifts my whole day - without doubt I'd recommend joining this group to anyone else in contact with ptsd. Now,,,, I didn't make my reason for joining fully known - so...

There's never any closure. I don't know what he sees. He's shut down, I'm shut out - and he will only talk about work I stand up for myself and he cuts me down with his pa, or goes awol. He just will not accept there's an issue, ignores my pleas for a better connection. We can only talk about...

I get the same kind of awol from my husband It makes me feel worried, anxious, afraid, I question our bond - all of it. Courtesy doesn't seem to be in his vocabulary I've been accused of hounding him, which makes me afraid to make contact,,,and then, if I do, I feel he may be cross with me and...

When II thought he may just be an a hole, I felt permitted to be angry Now I feel I have to be tolerant until he seeks help himself But in the meantime I'm still angry, and feeling invalidated by him,, it's a nasty place I am talking to the padre,,, and therapy is being arranged for me Thank...

I have spoken about my husband without his knowledge and against his wishes - he's very private,,,a trait of his shut down thing. Whenever I have tried to assert a boundary before it has been dismissed, he's accused me of trying to control and manipulate him. Or the content of such boundaries...

Hi all,,,, so, after feeling braver this morning after such a wonderful supportive honest welcome from all you beautiful guys on here I shitstormed the Padre with a huge email detailing most of the pain I've received from undiagnosed and in denial husband. And now I feel like a bag of turds :(...

And I'd like to say that recently he unilaterally took a posting 7 hrs away leaving me unaccompanied for 2 years with 5 boys and very little contact because he's too busy filling a welfare position,,, basically he's helpinge very one else, being their saviour and treating me like poo, leaving me...

He isn't diagnosed yet - he's still in the military, he has good rank and has 23 years infantry service, 10 tours. It's all my fault,,,,there's nothing wrong with what he's doing ______ said the man in denial who is so frustrated inside it makes me cry. :(

I'm really scared,, when there was a chance he was just an a hole it was different,,,,, now I'm afraid he could snap. I'm afraid to set Him off, to face more hurt, or to lose myself even more. The snap line stories are quite often horrific - nobody wants that for anyone, especially their lover...

Hi :) Can anyone here help me with expressing my boundaries with my husband who may well have ptsd but is denying everything, even his horrid attitude towards me? I've said plainly I don't want to be lied to, I don't like to have secrets kept from me (it's the secrecy I struggle with, not the...

I admit that I've spent alot of time looking into narcissism,,,,,wondering if my husband was one :( Wondering if I was one as I am taking blame from him for his behaviour :( Ptsd has been mentioned by my padre,,,, now I'm even more confused. Perhaps this question can go in the same tray as...

Raven,,,please tell me how your husband bore your behaviour before you got treatment,,,,did you ever lose respect for him because he tolerated it? You see I'm scared to take this much longer for fear of him seeing me as a push over or a doormat, losing my value to him and eventually his love :(

Thank you raven - you've been very open and honest. My husband has shown no anger or violence - shows passive aggression, snorts, sneers and sighs,,,,it's oozing out of his pores but he's adamant he isn't angry because he isn't shouting, he says he isn't blaming me because he hasn't said the...

Hello all. I haven't used a chat forum in 20 years! I hope I can remember the etiquette :) Anyways - Im feeling pretty bad,,,,I adore my hero husband, he is everything to me, and would never speak out of turn. But, sadly, for 2 years now I've been dealing with lies and secrets and evasive...