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I don't know anything about you, so I cannot say. But you have posted here several times asking things and you never like the answers. I was sharing my experience in a way to offer a solution. You do not want to hear what I have to say. I asked myself and my vet that very same question, didn't...

I don't think this is the way to go about things. I am only saying this because I was frustrated with my vet's need to be organized, his willingness to go to the VFW but we never went anywhere, his sleeping habits, etc. I told him numerous times "you need help". Then we had a huge falling out...

I agree RussH

I have a friend who is a veteran with two children. He does not like going anywhere in public except the VFW. Think of some fun activities that he can do with you as a family that doesn't require going anywhere. Or that involves somewhere quiet and "safe". Camping, nature walks, things of that...

The relationship between veterans is one that cannot be duplicated in civilian relationships. His friendships with them are different than any other ones he may have, including his relationship with you.

My boyfriend is an introvert. He also has PTSD. I had the same questions about which behavior was which (although, I'm not sure now why it matters) I have learned that this is who he is and the label does not matter. There are things he needs (time alone, space, etc) and we have been working...

So after our failed attempt at living together, and starting fresh, my boyfriend and I are doing really well now. We have been sharing a lot more, which is a big deal for both of us. We communicate better, we agree on so many different subjects.. one being marriage. Before, we wanted to get...

I would assume like most disability, you can stay on as long as your doctor says you are in fact disabled.

I bought my boyfriend, who is a sufferer, a Tardis journal from Dr.Who. He loves that show and he has mentioned that he used to love to write.

Part of your discussions should be that you will need a "time out" as well. She needs them, you need them..frankly, everyone does. You need to be able to walk away, take care of yourself or you are no good to her. You'll drain yourself emotionally and mentally.

There is no way to know if its PTSD or you. I came here seeking that same answer. But everyone is different and no one can tell you if it's PTSD or the relationship is just over. I can share what works in my relationship but my partner is not yours. There were times I thought for sure, it was...

One, get into therapy for yourself. Just for yourself. Not to make this work, not to get her back. Two, PTSD is hard, loving someone with PTSD is hard. But when they tell you something you need to listen. She says she needs to do this for herself, so let her. Three, you do not need a defined...

I'm sad tonight and I have very little reason to be. Things are actually great with my boyfriend. I'm in therapy, he's in therapy, we are communicating and getting along great. He said I love you again for the first time since we decided to start fresh. We are happy.. But today my sister...

Also, I am in therapy for myself because no matter how strong a person is, it will affect you as well. I started therapy before him. Through sharing my experience with my therapist, he now feels comfortable with one. It helped him get to where he needed to be.

My boyfriend suffers through PTSD, an ex did as well, and neither ever called me names. In fact, the constant with both was a feeling that they did not deserve me or my kindness when they were going through a rough patch. My boyfriend has never yelled at me (at one point, I told him I wish he...

Everyone, PTSD or not, reacts differently and needs different things. My boyfriend has PTSD. When he isolates, its because he feels worthless, he feels like a failure and that he does not deserve me. He needs some time to think, but at the same time he needs me to fight for him (he has confirmed...

When my boyfriend needs to isolate, we have an agreed day that we will resume talking, but this is after 2 years of trial and error on what will work for us. It can be done. It takes work, and patience and having a good sense of self-for you.

Be careful moving in. My boyfriend and I moved in after 2 years (he has PTSD) and it did not go well. It is very difficult

Thank you! You are absolutely correct. We are making our relationship work for us. It doesn't and should not involve anyone but us :)

So my boyfriend , who suffers from PTSD, and I have been working on our relationship after all that happened back in January. We are still together, still dating, in fact he spent last weekend over at my house while he was back in the state for drill (he is in the reserves). Every week, his...

WiseFool, You were right to call the police. Your safety comes first as a supporter. He was a danger to you, perhaps others and even himself. It is not easy to call the police on someone we love. Somuchpain has said it would "ruin his life". My dad (when dealing with my sister years ago during...

I agree with the previous posts, a simple phone call explaining that you are not ready just yet is completely fair and you don't have to feel bad. Dating is hard anyway, its even harder when you are struggling with PTSD. When you are ready, you will know. If he is a good guy, he will understand...

I have never asked my boyfriend what he did in Iraq. He has shared a little bit (not what he did military wise but on his off time). It's not my business. Veterans rarely enjoy being asked what they did over there. Some can't even remember what they did. It is always best to assume that whatever...

I used to wish my boyfriend would fight for me. It doesn't work that way. Not with PTSD (my boyfriend also has combat PTSD). He doesn't feel like he is worth anything, so if you want to leave, why bother trying to stop you when he does not value himself? If he needs space, let him have space...

PTSD is so different for everyone, it's hard to say if its PTSD or some other issue. In my own relationship with a sufferer, he has in the past reconnected (never dated or slept with, only talking) with former ex's but he felt so guilty that he came out and told me, and he felt very bad about...