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I realize I will never really understand what happened and that everyone is different but I was wondering if what happened with my boyfriend more about his guilt rather than anything else. Not to give out too many details, he got a job offer last Wednesday, hes been out of work since August. He...

The masturbation addiction is something I'd like to know more about. We lived together, I never once denied him sex, usually started it. But the first time he left, I found a um..catch rag..for that sort of thing. I was embarassed..for me..for him. Well, this time, there is another catch rag...

nursenurse, your comment about behavior that was always there really hit home. My now ex bf, I never knew him before his went to Iraq. I always knew him this way, but his family and friends said he's always been one with low self esteem, no confidence and would cut and run if it got tricky. I...

Im going through this too. Its comforting to know that I am not infact insane. I have nightmares. I dream he is here, I wake up and I'm alone. All his stuff is still here so it's like he is coming back any day and we all know, he isn't. I feel insane. I walk into a room and can smell him and he...

So two things happened this morning. One, facebook lady sent me a screenshot of their messages. It did not prove he cheated, but it was hurtful. He wasn't flirty but it was enough to upset me. I texted it to him and he was angry...and not at me for once. He said he wanted to cut off her fingers...

I will be okay. I'm not okay right now. I'm more hurting for my sons than myself. Thank you for your kind words.

I asked him if he cheated. He said no, and I believe him. It would have made it easier if he had. Then I could hate him. I let him go because he made some valid points. The things he needs right now are not "normal" (he needs to have people not be around him, not talk to him to relax; he needs...

Its over. We Skyped. He said he couldn't relax here, that sometimes he needs to be completely alone, sometimes he can;t be touched and that that is not normal and he can't ask me to change. So I let him go.

We ended it tonight. We had a skype call and its just not going to work out. I can't be there for him if he doesnt want me there I hope your story has a happier ending

My deal breaker was cheating or hitting me or my kids. I;ll know if I see him when he tells me. So we are skyping

Ok now I really dont know what to do. A woman messaged me on facebook stating they had been having an affair. I texted him asking if we could skype soon because I got a message and needed to clear things up. He agreed to skype tonight. I never would think he would cheat on me..and I dont know if...

He has told me before, early on in our relationship, that he disappoints people, hurts them and lets them down. That every single person has walked away and that he doesn't think anyone can handle being with him. After the incident last sept he took to calling me his "coconut" because he said...

I know everyone is wondering why he sent the email to them and not me. I was copied on the email. He sent it because my sons emailed him first (they used to when he was at DLI) asking if they had done something to distress him. He had told me all of those things on the phone earlier. That he has...

I think he's on the verge of a breakdown. He left almost all his things here. In the office, he has his military records strewn all over the place. He is a very OCD, organized person. It also appears he stayed in the office for quite a while at some point because h has these 1 gallon jugs of...

I hope he does too. Everyone close to him has asked him to seek help. I think he has to hit the bottom first. I'm angry and I feel bad for that. We had discussed "deal breakers" in relationships. Things that you simply would not tolerate if they happened. His answer was there was nothing I...

The cup model was really helpful. I could tell he was starting to get stressed. he had mentioned that he felt sad he can't help with the bills. After he found out about his heartbeat, he went into his office in our basement and got very quiet and was obviously upset. Me texting my sister seemed...

Thank you. Everything you said was really imformative and helpful. I am going to take this week to think of what my limits and expectations are, I am going to make a list of things I can handle and what I cannot. He has to come back to get his things one way or the other. All of his military...

I can be his friend. I would rather have him in my life as a friend than lose him completely.

I continue to do it because I love him and he deserves someone to love him, flaws and all. I love him unconditionally. PTSD or not.

I know I would tell my friends to run. Run as fast as possible. I hate thinking of a life without him, because when its good, its so good. He loved me like no one else ever has. He was so good to me. But living together is different. When you dont live together, you dont know if someone is sad...

As you are someone with PTSD but have an unsupportive partner, if he was supportive, if he loved you and was understanding, coulld you make that work? If the answer is yes, than its not you. I dont think you should stay with him. You deserve love and understanding.

I know we had a long distance relationship. I know online and texting you can be anyone you want to be. But we weren't like that. We went into it knowing we could be who we were with no risk. We skyped every night, we visited each other. I knew he had issues early on, before the first incident...

Speaking as someone who is in your wife's position in a similiar situation, she hasn't given up on you. At some point, significant others of sufferers wonder is it the PTSD or does he/she just no longer love me? I would give anything for my boyfriend to walk in the door and just hug me. I would...

I know I should end it. But I keep thinking about who he was most of the time. I keep thinking about how he wanted to have a life with me, marry me, have a baby with me. But do I want to have those things with someone who does these things?

I'm ok that he didn;t call. Its the fight beforehand that he picks that bothers me. If he has to be away sometimes, thats ok. Im ok with it. He's a good person. He is. But he can't cope when things don't go right or things go too right. I just don't know if he's done or if he's trying to save me.