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Hey, fellow supporter here. As far as I'm concerned, here's how I'm interpreting it; she revealed something she wasn't ready to, and, as a result, recoiled away from it because she's batshit terrified and unsure how to handle the situation involving her trauma. Honestly, this is a normal...

Hello friend, welcome to the forum! Thank you for sharing your story with us. Know that it's very, very hard to talk about traumatic events in any way, and that you're very brave for trying to reach out and talk about what happened to you. Know that what happened to you is not 'nothing'. Your...

Honestly, I don't know if anyone can give you a straight answer on whether or not it's secondary PTSD. As a supporter, it's important to be aware that PTSD accompanies much, much more than that, I believe. I might be wrong, would need to do research. But really, what I'm picking up on seems to...

Hello friend, I am so so sorry about everything that is happening. It's truly awful and I can't even begin to imagine how the both of you must be feeling :( I don't have kids myself, so I wouldn't know what to do in this situation at all. As a supporter, I can say that I have strangely vivid...

Hello friend, welcome to the forum! While anthony is correct, know that understandably, accepting to talk about the trauma is not easy; and understandably so. Please don't think you're the only one struggling with opening up - there are so many people that relate and understand how you feel :)...

Honestly, to me it doesn't look like you're doing anything wrong, and more like you're catering to him to the point where you're forgetting about your own needs. Never sacrifice your wellbeing or happiness in favor of his! He has his needs, yes, but if he is acting nasty to you, don't let him do...

Hello friend, welcome to the forum! :) As a supporter myself, I can understand how sometimes the anger can really, really make you feel powerless and small, especially since you never meant to cause any harm in the first place, and your intentions were non-judgemental. It's important to realize...

PTSD has a wide arrange of symptoms that varies from person to person. Some people have symptoms that seem combined with depression that makes them unable to physically do certain tasks due to exhaustion. Some don't. I'm only slightly tilting my head at the counselor's response to you, since...

Hi Shasta, Welcome to the forum! People experience disassociation in different ways; my best friend who has PTSD describes her disassociation episodes a lot like a blur, but also an awareness of the fact that she is disassociating in some way. She described it to me as "watching a movie about...

Hey friend, I empathize with how you feel. I'm a person that really wants to help fix everyone's problems too. It's heartbreaking to know that you really can't do anything about things sometimes, but it's something that you have to accept. PTSD is complex, and you cannot fix his problems or his...

"I miss your teenager self" Well I miss YOUR teenager self but you don't see me telling you that now do you. Sorry but you're not getting teenager me back. Just like I accepted that I'm never going to have the you I connected and loved so deeply back. I have come to terms with that and I have...

Hello, welcome to the forum. Yes, I think the best way we can help out is to ask us what you want to know about it. Something stood out in your message, and it's when you said you felt like nobody could understand how you feel. This is a feeling of alienation - of being different from others...

You're right. It is codependency, lots of it. I'm pushing myself to unlearn all of this. According to my sufferer, she has told her therapist how much she misses me all the time. I'm surprised that her therapist hasn't mentioned the possibility of codependency to her, although I'm not quite sure...

She is not communicating through a third party - she tells me these things directly through Skype messages or texting. I have already set a boundary regarding Skype calls - I told her throughout the week that I will not be able to call her or communicate by voice. This has saved me a lot of...

I just get so terrified when she says that she feels suicidal because in September she nearly made an attempt and ever since then I've been paranoid. we are friends long distance, so I can't be there for her physically to help and it hurts. I just don't know how to stop feeling of fear that I...

I don't really know where to start or what to say other than I am so, so at a loss. I'm at the last of my ropes here. My sufferer is going through trauma therapy and I know that a lot of people say that it gets worse before it gets better. I understand that. But I just...don't...have time for...

Hey there, welcome to the forum! A lot of people run around proclaiming that forgiveness solves all issues, but honestly, these are people who have never experienced trauma. Not saying that people with trauma can't forgive - it's that trauma is something that is deeply rooted, very painful...

Practice some grounding techniques? I know you're probably already doing that, but my sufferer normally tells me to remind her of that; look around you, name off at least 5 objects in your vicinity, give their color, texture, scent if they have one. Pause and listen, name off at least 3-4 sounds...

omfg I'm flustered over here haha! Glad I could help, thank you! :hug: PS: jnean your grumpy cat icon amuses me :P

No problem. I understand how it feels to struggle to forgive. I may not have PTSD (I'm a supporter) and even then, my sufferer is the more forgiving one than I am. Like...I'd kick the f*ck out of the assholes who hurt her if given the chance. Don't care if she's forgiven them, they've hurt her...

You're not obligated to forgive anyone. A lot of people run around claiming "Forgive others not because they deserve it but because you deserve peace" and "you must learn to forgive because holding a grudge against a person is bad for you" and really, that's just stupid. If someone's hurt you...

I know you're going through a tough time. I know you're hurt and scared. I know you're going through trauma therapy. But goddamn, I hope you know how much I feel like I'm taking care of a goddamn child. You are literally older than me, and yet you act like I'm the high and mighty one. No, you're...

First, I want to say that I'm so sorry that you and your husband are going through this. Second, I understand that he's frightened and paranoid, but at the end of the day, no one is responsible for his emotions except for him. He deserves support, yes, but that doesn't give him the right to be...

Welcome to the forum! Glad to have you around :hug: If you have any questions or things you want to discuss about, feel free. We're all here to help however we can :)

Yes, that's another thing about PTSD. Nightmares, night terrors and insomnia are very frequent in people with PTSD, and moving and accidentally hitting people in their sleep is also a common symptom. This is probably a trauma revisit, but don't totally take my word for it...this is what I...