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Yeah I'm familiar with the cartoon and I think you make a good comparison, that's very true. And I don't want to keep taking that risk over and over like Charlie because I will get hurt everytime. Thank you for understanding and I really hope its not a carrot on a string either. I appreciate...

That's really great advice I'm gonna make it a goal to work on this

Good idea about the boundary thing.. That has proven to be such a difficult thing for me, setting boundaries and making sure I stand behind them. But maybe if I start small and test the waters I can gain more confidence in doing so and truly put her to the test. I guess I'm afraid to face the...

Ive never tried that, but I am more than willing to give it a shot in the hopes of finding some kind of peace with all of this. That really might help instead of letting the thoughts and feelings spiral out of control in my head. I appreciate you sharing this therapy tool with me and your...

I feel like I can't trust my own perceptions sometimes. My mother, whom ive suffered my abuse from, seems to insist that she is different etc..but how do I trust that when I still fear, when I am motivated by guilt. When I still have a hard time dealing with my own compulsions to do things that...

Thank you so much :)

Pretty cool to hear about some of the hobbies that you guys have. I also love to play the guitar but recently dont enjoy it as much as I used too. I read a lot, write poetry, I like to paint(houses and spaces not canvases or anything), that has been a peaceful hobby for me. I haven't found a...

Stay strong! Proud of you!

Hey there. Its great you reached out and you've come a long way. I'm really sorry that you are in this situation right now, as I see how much its been affecting you by what you've disclosed. Have you thought about going to see a counselor together? That way there would be kind of a mediator for...

1.) will I ever/can I ever change? 2.) I dont feel like a person sometimes 3.) wondering what a normal life feels like 4.) I hate that I clam up whenever potential T calls 5.) can't talk to romantic interest about personal issues Great thread

I no longer live with my parent who was abusive towards me, but I still have to interact with her because I still depend on her to get to work, school, the doctors etc. And it seems like since I moved out she wants to spend even MORE time together and that's hard because I'm still trying to heal...

Yes a well deserved boot. And thank you so much its very appreciated

I recently finished a 52 hour anger management course so I rarely get angry but today all my mom has done is dump her problems and stressors on me and then expects me to do all kinds of work for her In her house when I am tired and I feel like shit and if I try to voice my feelings I am...

I would be settling down with my soon to be fiance, a big dog, settled in my career as a teacher, cut off from my family, with a baby on the way. Confident in myself and my decisions, happy

Wow. Thank you and @lostforgottensoul for breaking this down and putting it into perspective. It really gave me better insight into the situation. I think a part of me was looking to find comfort in knowing that I wasn't alone in my suffering, much like I do here, with my siblings. At least as...

Glad to hear there are things helping you cope, still trying to figure out what will work best for me. The punching bag sounds like a good idea haha. Thank you for the well wishes I wish you the best too

Dont know if this thread is still active but I slept ok but had a bad nightmare and woke up shaking with terrible anxiety. Was able to get back to sleep. This was a really good post/forum thread

Thank you for sharing your story, it helps to know that I am not the only one who has or is going through this. One of my sisters gives similar responses when I ask her about her experiences or how she copes. Even after being beaten until she had wheps all over her body and couldn't sit or lay...

You make some valid points and thank you for sharing the link. Ive been reading over it trying to get more of an understanding of all of this. I guess I never thought that they may have suffered in other ways because they *seem* so well adjusted and whenever I try to talk about what happened...

guess im wondering why I am the only one out of my siblings who is or has been deeply affected by the abuse and shit that happened whereas they seem to have gone on with their lives. Why am I the only one who feels traumatized? Or who feels like I have not been able to live a fulfilled life...

Yeah don't invalidate your trauma and pain. You have suffered a lot it seems from what you have disclosed here and just because your sister has suffered too it in different ways it doesn't diminish what you went through. Like @MalContent said, honor your feelings. Do what you need to do to heal.

Such a beautiful post. I am grateful for this support group, for the few people I can trust, a bed to sleep in every night, being able to attend college, a good meal, prayers

This is beautiful! Congratulations!

Really happy for you, keep moving forward you've come a long way already

Hey there, I dont know if you've talked to your sister already or not but I really hope that things went well. If you haven't I would say try and pin point exactly what it is you are looking for from her so that the conversation can be focused, and maybe just start with one question or statement...