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What @Sighs said :) I've spent many hours over nearly a decade trying to convince boyfriend that I love all of him, that I am with him because I want to be, that I'm not going anywhere, and that I would rather be with him on a dark day that without him in my life. But, like you, he has that...

PTSD isn't something that spontaneously disappears so, while I understand his desire for it to just go away, it isn't and it won't. From my (external and happy to be corrected) perspective, it's something that becomes manageable rather than something that goes away. This process takes a lot of...

It sounds like you have legitimate concerns about relocating right now. My very external opinion is that if you don't feel confident dealing with the current situation by yourself, don't move (yet). Boyfriend and I are also contemplating an interstate move at the beginning of next year. He...

There's a phrase I use a lot: you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. It's really REALLY frustrating but you can't make people do what they don't want to. The best we can do as supporters is create an environment where opportunities for change are possible, but ultimately if...

Just sending a quick solidarity fist bump from one supporter to another :)

@Fembot - I find myself getting incredibly angry at Boyfriend's abusers for the exact same reasons you describe. I honestly don't think that I have ever hated anyone as much as I hate his step-father, and I've never met the man. It sounds like things have been incredibly rough for you. I hope...

@forwardmotion462 - some of the folks I've met with "voice hearing" don't actually hear voices per se, but have experiences closer to your own or even more abstract perceptual experiences. And my understanding is that voice hearing is more common in people who experienced trauma in childhood...

@forwardmotion462 - as a caveat to my post, your description suggests that you have been living with intermittent voice hearing for quite some time. Hence my very relaxed tone. If you have a trusted therapist, please do tell them that your voices are currently stronger. And if you don't have a...

There are some excellent Voice Hearer support groups throughout the world. In my corner of the world they form the Hearing Voices Network Australia, but they are affiliated with various other national groups. I would strongly encourage you to seek out your local group :) they are lovely people...

It's neurologically impossible to engage executive functions (planning, reason, memory etc) when emotionally overwhelmed. Good old amygdala and the rest of the limbic system jump into the driver's seat, and then they refuse to budge until the whole system has calmed down. Anything over a 6/10 or...

Sending you big, warm supportive thoughts :) Pushing through the dark times as a supporter when you're worn down to a memory of hoping that things can be better is exhausting and terribly lonely. Hooray for reaching out for support for yourself at this difficult time, it might not feel like it...

If I had a dollar for every time my boyfriend told me that I should leave him to protect myself and build the good life that we can't have, I'd have a decent pile of dollars. That I could use on all our therapy :P Gun issue aside (because it's been well covered), if he's not partnering with you...

AT thesis submission time. Wow. You are more forgiving than I - I'm not sure I'd be speaking to my love again yet if all that went down while I was trying to submit ;)

...ok, two final final points ;) Secondary trauma - it's a thing. I can't remember if you said whether you're receiving individual therapy as well as the couples counselling, but it sounds like you would benefit from having individual therapy as well as the couples counselling. A system under...

The Interpersonal situation around her trauma sound additionally traumatising, for sure. It sounds like you were together during the truly acute part of her illness and who's to say, without absolutely all the details, what contributed to what in what way. It sounds like you two have come so...

My boyfriend developed PTSD as a result of domestic violence as a child so I obviously see big big differences in our situations. Aspects of domestic life are triggers for my boyfriend, but in addition to that just being in a relationship adds to his overall stress load. Have a look at the PTSD...

If things have reached your personal breaking point, then things have reached your personal breaking point. No one can tell you to push yourself beyond what you're capable of! Your other goals, hopes and interests can only be put on the back burner for so long. If it's time for them to take...

@dog_party, it sounds like there is a LOT of trust that would need to be won back in order for the two of you to re-establish a romantic relationship. An ex of mine used to fly into drunken verbal rages at me and it took me a long time to learn to trust my next boyfriend when he was drinking, I...

I read an insightful piece by Mark Manson today titled Love Is Not Enough (I'd post the link but cannot do that on this forum) that made me think of the struggles you've been facing recently. If you have the headspace, look it up and have a read :) Give yourself a big congratulations for...

Hi Lillian, My boyfriend and I are in a similar boat, on both the childhood trauma as well as the two of us floating around the forum sides of things. Neither of us is very reserved though so it works for us ;) I've only been pottering around a short while but have learned heaps. Hope being...

Yup, that's exactly what I was referring to. The push/pull was reference to her breaking up then making up. Sounds like you're doing some serious perspective taking and processing! Hope things start to feel easier soon :)

:hug: and so progress the stages of grief. I'm hearing a lot of pushing and pulling in her behaviour. Not a wonder you're feeling drained!

My boyfriend doesn't have disassociation in this same way so I don't have any specific tips, sorry. When he briefly fugues out I will stay seated with him, lightly holding his arm and continue my activity until he returns (I've read other sufferers talk about being unable to tolerate touch in...

Internet hugs (if you want them). My last break up was a doozy even without PTSD in the mix. I definitely beat myself up for all the things that I thought I should or shouldn't have done, but ultimately I had been myself and they didn't want to be with me and nothing I could have done would...

@desiderata310 - I'm not feeling imposed on, just dealing with this week's collaborative roller coaster and the above perspectives helped with some of the PTSD parts of it. Wanted to say thanks is all :)