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@catjudo yes thank you I do appreciate that. I believe every therapist should forward their client to this web site. I have found a lot of great information right on here which explained pretty much everything I have been faced with. I have read a lot of books, and a lot of web sites...

this is an old thread, but i seem to have lost my GF recently diagnosed with child abused PTSD, because of this exact problem. She developed it 2 years into the relationship, 25 years after the events which seem to have been multiple. We are still not living together due to numerous factors...

Well S has reached out and contacted me last Wednesday. She needed some help which I gladly provided. She is telling me she has been feeling very anxious the whole weekend. She feels on the edge, and feel she has trouble coping with unexpected events, or even work, no matter how trivial...

Thanks @abs_21 It is very tough. 4 months? I thing our recent troubles started in February, but we never had total isolation like the past week. We always stayed in touch somehow, phoning, and spending a little time together. But then she would go off and ignore me for a few days. My...

Hey @Jon-carer85 I seem to be I the same boat as yours. Only trouble is that I have pushed her away trying desperately to help her. I probably did not give her enough space. Now I have not heard from her for a week after I told her I spoke to a friend psychiatrist to ask for more info. I...

D4, and have not heard from her. I definitely am not optimistic...... Although last summer she went off without signs for 3 weeks, and then I got a phone call out of the blue....

So... As I not really start to have the impression she will leave the relation for good, she will likely take her PTSD into her next relation? After being kept untreated for so long, I believe her therapy will take a very long time, probably years. Not a great prospect for her, I really...

@bell. The reason of the marriage breakdown is not boredom off course. It is not relevant to this issue and did not feel useful to expand. And now, the relation with S feels totally different, and I knew I could never be bored. I can safely say S is the first woman I am in love with. I had...

@ja145 Sounds like the other side of my story. Never understood what I was doing wrong until I joined this forum and people enlightened me. Now I want her to know that I am finally there and that I am sorry, but she wants to be left alone....

@Laura 2 & @Justmehere . It's true what you say. I probably thought I could do better and I knew better about what to do, and was totally wrong... But she should not know that I finally understand what is going on? That I do my best not to be the dude who constantly hurts her? The last...

@Justmehere. Thanks.... Jeez you are all right. It is a brand new world..... You mean, if she still has a little bit of feelings for me she might contact me once she feels a bit better?

Well thanks to everyone on here. You have all helped me to open my eyes to something that I really did not see. I will take a few days to write her a mail, apologize for all the hurt I have caused her, showing that despite really trying to help her I was doing it from my selfish point of view...

I hope so Katerina, I hope so, we were living in a dream before all that appeared....

Thanks to all, this is very helpful land clarifies lots of things. I focused on trying to help (I am a md, which is probably why), when I should have focused on listening and just support her, be there.... And I see she has not blocked me from her Facebook page, so maybe she is still...

Until recently that was all foreign to me. I thought I understood S, who was diagnosed with post child abuse PTSD 3 months ago. I thought I was supportive, but I kept making mistakes. Spoke to her friends, spoke to a psychiatrist without her consent etc... I just joined the site and I think...

Thanks justmehere. I am just upset I did not join earlier....

Well it has been a very interesting discovery day for me today. I just wish I had found this site 3 months ago when S had start showing of her PTSD. Another question I bring to this panel is why I am the one who managed to trigger her.m she is 39 YO, she was abused between 4 and 14 and never...

@Justmehere..... It is easy , I just love her. I think I just did not have the right translation tablet to be able to navigate this hurting world.... Thanks for the advise with regards to contacting her. The police thing was the last time I was talking her and trying to explain how hard I...

I now realize it is like a totally different world to the one I am used to. I was watching with the wrong glasses, and now I had cataract surgery and see differently))))

Thanks Katarina, thanks from the bottom of my heart.... Jeez at my age I still have so much to learn(((((((((((((.

Maybe I should direct her to this web site, and give her my handle, so she sees what I have not been able to express with my actions and words? I will wait a week or two tho, I understand now the pain I have caused and the fact that she needs space and time to process her anger. She has told...

OMG. I really F***** up. I think I see it. Thank you so much girls. Now I wonder why the therapist did not arrange for both of us to be seen. It might have been a choice for her to be seen in a safe environment, without me being involved. But I thought it would have been so appropriate...

Solara, I am really doing my best here. But S does not say much, and withdraws behind a huge silence. I do understand it was a mistake to speak to her friends, and deeply apologized about it. But really me speaking to a psychiatrist is seen as hurting her? I saw him as a professional, and he...

Yes Bell I appreciate that. I have separated from the ex 2 1/2 years ago, and the divorce should be finally ratified by the judge next week. We were both in an unhappy relationship when we met, and we both left our partners.

Hi, I am the partner, or was? of a great woman I have been with for 4 years. We have been together on and of for the past 2 years. I have a lot to be blamed for at the beginning of the relationship, but I have dealt with them appropriately. It seems that I have triggered PTSD to S. She had...