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Sounds like depression. Please keep in mind that the pharmacopia of psych medications you're on can numb you out, and block not only depressive feelings but also happy feelings. They can also prevent appropriate grieving and processing of trauma. Life is very much a matter of making the most...

I like the idea of approaching your professors directly. Just keep in mind that they are not required to offer or allow any accommodations beyond whatever your disabled student services division offers. Some may possibly even view you as manipulative. Also, I must warn you that certain...

I'm troubled by the whole concept of you beholden to such an establishment - not because they are cruel or whatever, but because it seems yet another way for you to be tied down in an impossible situation. I think of just how freeing it would be for you to realize you have the option to deal...

One more thing: Be comforted and know that, no matter how bad things seem now, you can heal. I did.

Careful! One can OD on coffee. Seriously.

You know, you're not required to attend family functions. Seriously. If some of your family members were abusve, maybe it would be strengthening to 'just say no'. Consider discussing this topic with your therapist.

Thought Stoppage really helped me!

Have you tried Thought Stoppage? It really helps! Here's how I like to do it: 1. I put a small rubber band on my wrist. I wear it all day long. 2. When I think a negative thought, I GENTLY snap the band on my wrist. Gently, because this step is meant to be helpful, NOT punishment. Very...

We all change from day to day. Our daily activities, interactions, and experiences change us. Therefore, even if you hadn't experienced a trauma, you would still be a different person than you were yesterday or the day before that. So, no, you will never 'get yourself back' - but then, none of...

I had many many trial courses of anti-depressants. None worked. All but one made me actively suicidal. Although seriously depressed, I am not actively suicidal when unmedicated. Put me on anti-depressants and I try to kill myself over and over.

Pull out all the stops on your coping skills. This is the time to give them a work out. You're doing great, keep going!

Not true! You can recover and have an enjoyable life. I had PTSD, DID, and Major Depression - but no more. Keep working on the coping skills. Once you have them down, the worst will be over.

I stay away from social media for exactly this reason.

I'm glad to know you have good coping skills. Very important. Try to remember that feelings come and go. They are just feelings. The pain you are experiencing now does not imply you will always feel this way! What is SP TDU?

I live alone and will most likely be alone on Christmas (again) this year. I would like to spend Christmas with family, but we are not close. What I do is lots of things that remind me of every happy Christmas feeling: - I put up Christmas lights in my bedroom (!) so I can go to sleep with...

I am so glad you brought this up with your therapist. :)

Absolutely. I had both DID and PTSD, but my DID came first. Yes, very true. However, with DID, the initial split into two alters must happen (per researchers and other professionals) prior to the age of 8 years old. So, I split very young, but I did not develop serious signs and symptoms...

Yes, you are at risk. I generally do not suggest meditation to a deeply depressed and/or suicidal person. Attempting to 'empty ' one's mind, as in meditation, tends to lead to rumination in a depressed person, and rumination fuels depression. (This is also, by the way, why it is unwise to...

Try Thought Stoppage. You can google it up, it's a well-known (and remarkably effective) technique.

Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize you are in the UK! I provided a US link. :(

Have you been formally diagnosed with DID? The general rule is that, in order to develop DID, one must have been traumatized and then experienced one's first split (creation of alter) by age 8 or so. This is because only a child's ego structure is fluid/malleable enough to split and create an...

There is a VA call-in center for vet supporters. Did you know that? I called once because a vet friend was in crisis but wouldn't get help. They assigned me a doctoral-level clinical psychologist for me to talk with over the phone and be in contact with via email. He was extremely helpful -...

When you say, "illogical states", are you referring to times when an alter is out? If so, it's times to develop positive communication with that alter or alters. Every part of you should know your son and be dedicated to his protection.

My past actions were just meant to give you ideas, to spur you on. Do whatever YOU need to do. If you need something in the bedroom, but hubby won't agree, maybe it's time for you to sleep in your Safe Place or just plain have your own bedroom.

Try 'asking inside', try talking to the problematic alter. Get a discussion going. Problematic alters are often misguided Protectors. If you talk to this alter repeatedly, find out what he/she was thinking - maybe even thank her for trying to protect you - then you can help her learn that there...