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@change - he does a lot of those things in a daily basis. And he gets enraged but just a simple question, yet some days he will open up enough to share a few sentences with me. I try to be silent and watch his movements to see if it's ok to respond. After a few minutes he feels the need I be...

I guess part of my confusion is because most of the groups I belonge to before I joined this forum the spouse with PTSD was very needy and sought affection, and things of that nature. This isn't the case in my situation. But my spouse is more of an alpha male. However cuddling in bed...

Justmehere~ haha that's exactly what I mean! I know him well 21 yrs together but his return from deployment has brought home what looks like my husband but everything about him is different. He acts like the man I know so well maybe two days a month, then it appears to drain him and he goes back...

@Ghostybear73 Some of the things you describe are identical to what my spouse does. It seems the more space I give the more he wants.

@Bookoffee I can only hope my husband will one day soon be able to communicate like you do with your wife. Thanks for sharing your story.

Is it possible to compile a list of PTSD symptoms vs Relationship symptoms? I realize they somewhat go together depending on the situation but I'm just wondering if there aren't some symptoms that yell PTSD more than relationship?

I believe that's what my spouse experiences. He sleeps wrapped very snug in his own blanket on our bed. If you touch him even gently he is startled easily. Sleep doesn't come easy for him and he wakes up a lot during the night. At times he will leave the light on.

Ok so he tells me he feels at peace when he's not home with us (me and our sons). Yet some days are wonderful others even looking at or speaking to me is a issue for him as his eyes look so full of darkness. When I ask if we can talk about it he gets angry and in a calm voice says no because if...

Speaking from experience of the last 3 years I'm dealing with similar things. Only my spouse was deployed to a war zone and he's a civilian. We've been together almost 21 years and My love for him is as strong as it was when we first met. He says and does hurtful stuff a lot, and I can't lie I...

@ fridayjones thank your for giving such a detailed look inside what he meat be dealing with. What if anything can I do to help him I ring these times? For example last night he didn't bother coming home until amost 10pm but he left at 530am for work. He called a few times didn't really saying...

I have doubts about the counselor as well and have sense started researching more on my own and it reaching out to others who are goig through this hoping to learn as much as possible to help with this situation not just my spouse but my family. Communication is hard when your the only one...

Hmmm you may have a point. And now that I think of it, I wasn't te one to call it this. The counselor I'm seeing does. She's the one who says it's emotional abuse and I guess I just began titling it that. So with that bein said and you seem to have an idea of what's going on with his emotions...

So as a woman who has been married to My husband 20 years and know him well before he went to Afghanistan. He says he's trying to see if it will work, yet his emotional abuse is rough n out of character like the things I described. What advice can u give me to weather this storm. By no means am...

Am I imagining things it is there a fine line between being supportive and being a doormat? How much emotional abuse does one allow before you finally stand our ground? At times it seems he doesn't have a clue what he's saying. Others it seems as if he just doesn't care? One sentence he says he...

Just trying to decipher if he is really trying yet he's dealing with something or if this is all a mind game? His personality is that of a stranger most of the time, on rare occasions the man I know appears but as soon as he begins to feel emotions he disappears ago and the new anger, rage and...

Can PTSD make you stop praying and going to church? Can it make you feel as if no one cares about you? Make you paranoid? Make you feel as though your trying to make things work but in reality your just around people but totally withdrawn from then and enrage by any type of question or...

I am thankful that you have me a glimpse inside your world. It helps me to understand how his mind is working at the moment.

Friday Jones~ your rite lol I didn't like the first part. Not one bit. He has combat ptsd although he was workin ing /linin in a fob for almost 3 years and not in direct combat, they were still in a war zone and a lot of bombs went off (ied i think they're called?) going off an friends being...

Btw thanks for the link I've heard tht before and it is very useful.

I'm so confused at this point. I went to see the counselor that I've been going to for the past 6 mths alone, she supposedly specializes in ptsd. She told me yesterday that I need to just leave my husband because es showing obvious signs if not wanting the marriage, followed by manipulating...

No I haven't read that but I will thank you for sharing. One of the hardest parts about this is not knowing why he's so angry, distant with me? And why does he intentionally do things to hurt me? Like the incident with the food and asking our sons after ignoring me when I wanted to go? It's...

Ok his emotions have been way over the top all weekend. Yesterday he came home early from work, I returned from the store happy to see him. A few hours later he left without saying a word. It was around 5? He state gone until amost 9. He's home for about 10 minutes and says hey I'll be back I'm...

Yes they are and its worse than anything i've ever dealt with. The biggest part for me is not understanding why i make him enraged at times. Along with his unwillingness to talk to me. What really hurts is remaining faithful while he was away and even now yet he refuses to show affection or...

Update: Not sure what is going on but husband has been on emotional rollercoaster since Saturday night. He had to leave Sunday to head out of town for work. Since his return he trusts no one not even me at times. Can't quite understand that part but i've quit trying to figure it out. Anyway he...

@BlueOrange ~ I apologize for taking so long to respond. I knew when I read your response that it was very emotional for you. When you did reply and were able to share very personal pieces of your experience it left me feeling that their is hope. I commend you for your journey and applaud you...