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I think its also a matter of stress, constantly reinforcing your negative self image is less stressful in many ways than the roller coaster of oh i like her i wonder if she likes me oh i think she does but maybe she doesnt maybe i should ask her out but im scared ok im going to do it but how ok...

Valentino, because Woody Allen probably isn't going to read that thread, and he is not here on this site asking for help. I abhor the abusive behavior described in this thread but the simple fact that she posted it implies she would like to change. There is still no excuse for abusive behavior...

So what did you come to this site for? Comforting? Reassurance? Validation? Or for honest objective non judgmental advice and feedback from people who have lived through similar things? I'm sorry, this is not what you want to hear, but you are an abuser. I know that can't be nice to hear but...

Theres a million cliches about this but they're all true. The one that comes to mind first is whatever you tell yourself about this is going to be true. If you tell yourself no one will want you, women will pick up on that negativity and it will be true. If you keep an open mind, strive to be...

Ya just based on this I would say you'd be better off alone. It sounds like neither of you are ready for a relationship. I'm sorry, not judging, but this doesnt sound like just some problems, it sounds like a very broken relationship, the violence, the fact he doesnt even believe you have ptsd...

Well I spent last night with the same girl I have been hanging out with, and while I wasn't feeling intensely passionate, we did have sex, and it was very nice. The sexual energy and lust was definitely secondary to the feeling of closeness with her, but that felt very nice, and I did not feel...

Awesome, great job!

Ehh, maybe its not that bad of a thing. I first dealt with the feelings and thoughts discussed in this thread a couple years ago, but for the past few months I have been feeling that way again. Got kind of depressed, started smoking pot multiple times every day, lost a lot of motivation to even...

Id try again to get a restraining order. In some American states they are very easy to get. Couldn't hurt to try, and I would at least make the local police aware of the situation, even if they can't do anything. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

I am going to be blunt and probably sound like a jerk, but it doesn't matter if thats what you want because you can't have it. The cat is out of the bag, pandora's box is opened, the apple has been eaten, and theres no putting humpty dumpty back together again. Now, the good (great) news is...

It is absolutely impossible for anyone on this site to diagnose your mother one way or the other (heh, I rhymed!) Ok, sorry, but seriously, no one is going to be able to say anything even close to definitive either way, but just based on what you are telling us, it sounds like some of her...

Hmmm thats an interesting perspective Philippa, that sex is gross but I guess at times we just don't care. Perhaps it is at least a little bit that way for everyone. Right kind of me, I'm not so much talking about new person sex as being an ego or self esteem booster, because I think you're...

Hi, I hope its ok to say this, I am a male sufferer of CPTSD since early childhood, and I do not live in Taos, I just wanted to say what a cool place I think Taos is, and that it must be nice to live there! Are you a skier, by chance?

I'm sorry. I made a conscious effort to NOT make my last two posts in any way be telling you what to do. I am sorry I triggered you.

Welcome to the site, it is a great resource, and may (I hope for your sake) prove to be more useful than medications or the electro shock. I wish you well.

Wow, I am sorry receiving advice is a trigger. That must suck. I'm not trying to sound sarcastic, and am sorry if it comes off that way, just mean I'm sorry you have to deal with that, and even though thats not what this thread is about, I hope you find a way to manage it.

Ya I think exercise is important for the psychological component too. Like I already said, I can't empathize with the body image stuff, but i know for myself I often eat a lot less, and have a lot less energy when i am depressed. Getting out and making myself do something active can be very hard...

Btw, I'm not sure if this helps at all, but I have no real issues with body image, am very active and eat a lot, and to me eating is often not 'fun' either its just a chore, but its part of being healthy so I do it.

Do you exercise? Are you active? If not, I suggest finding an active hobby that you enjoy, you will naturally push yourself to do more,and will workup more of an appetite, and quicken your metabolism. I understand any kind of exercise can be very difficult if you are malnourished and stressed...

Even without PTSD, sometimes two very good well intentioned people that love each other just aren't good for each other. Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles with each persons issues and flaws being like puzzle pieces. Sometimes its just hard to make them fit together to form a pretty picture.

I think this is pretty common, to view 'outside the house' as scary, but I want to offer an alternative viewpoint, for me, 'outside the house' was scary, but once I went outside the house, I could get to places that were LESS scary than inside the house. What I mean is a house is in a...

It sounds like you should take up painting.

Right kind of me, thats not how I took your comment, but its actually interesting you mention that because I have been thinking that perhaps this would be easier for me to deal with if I WERE to 'go on a bit of a slutty rampage' Its funny, because when I was SCARED of sex, due to trust issues...

I would suggest instead of focusing on what you perceive as being abnormal sexual thoughts or behavior (which could be more normal than you think) to instead focus on the things you mentioned that are disrupting your life, social anxiety, startle response, low self esteem, etc. I say this...

I understand that might be triggering for you, but its not like his sister raped you right? She just stopped talking to you after you brought it up to her right? That is a very invalidating response, but one I personally would consider forgivable since she probably had a hard time viewing her...