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Yea this girl and I already have cuddled a lot, thats not a problem. For some reason we cuddle really well together actually, its very comfortable with her both physically and emotionally. We've had sex before that was not uncomfortable either. Its just that once all my built up sexual...

Just to add, I have no doubt I can stop looking at porn, I do however doubt that actual sex with a real women will feel as easy and comfortable to me as that in the forseeable future.

Thank you aj1, that seems like a good resource. I almost googled porn addiction first, but just felt that didn't apply to me as I've never felt addicted to porn, it just seemed like something I resorted to due to social anxiety with women, which brought me back here. After reading a little on...

Anyone have any experience in getting over this? Will it go away after a while if I no longer look at porn?

I also want to be clear that to me at this point I do not think sex is triggering or scary or anxiety provoking or anything else. I'm very comfortable with this girl, it's just that sex is a bit gross and unappealing to me when it isn't a theoretical thing where women don't have odors or hair or...

Ya I don't really want to be celibate though. Maybe I should of made this more clear, I like sex a lot, in theory. Its just that the actual practice of it is a little gross to me at times. I don't want this to just be who I am. Thank you for the replies.

There isn't much chance of us hurting each other over this honestly. She's not my girlfriend but we have a very honest relationship and she is very understanding. She has seen that I care about her and knows I find her attractive, she's mature enough to not take it personally. Thank you for your...

I haven't posted here in a while, but here goes. As the title suggests, this is about sex, so it might be triggering, although I will only discuss it in vague terms, I have no plans to get into the graphic details. I am a 28 year old man, lifelong loner due to crippling social anxiety...

Both? We isolate and do other things to cope, but that doesnt mean they are best for us overall, it just means that we need to do those things sometimes. It would have been best for me if I had pushed myself to stop isolating much sooner but I was unable due to being too stressed out by social...

Yea for most of my life I thought there was something wrong with me because I didn't connect with most people. Then I realized most people just kind of suck, and even without the social issues and ptsd, I probably wouldn't connect with that many people anyways. I can connect a little bit with...

You say you have no interest in what most people talk about, well, most people are boring, petty, gossipy, stupid, narrow minded, etc. I find them boring too. Seems like you just gotta find more interesting people (ok im deliberately simplifying asif theres no ptsd) to hang with. You gotta be...

My personal opinion is you can't make the world a safe place and someone who really wants to die will find a way. It seems like this isn't really about that issue though, its more about you wanting to cut ties with someone who doesn't value you, yet feeling obligated to stick around. Just ask...

That sounds like a weird situation, and kind of forced. how did you respond? I also want to challenge your assertion that he can't be sorry for his actions or else he wouldnt of done them. I like to think of myself as a pretty good person, and I am sorry for some of my actions. For example...

I am so sorry he had to go, but I am glad he is at peace.

Never gotten one from my parents, I think if they did it would just be an attempt to elicit pity or some other reaction from me. Gotten at least thousands from my brother at least, although they were just words, his actions always spoke differently. Not sure if it would matter. Kind of think it...

It sounds like regardless of the circumstances of your life, you have acted in a way in which you can be proud, which is all you really have control over anyways. Be grateful for the friends you have.

Oh i could go on and on about this. If people view someone as different, and they don't know why, they will be uncomfortable. They don't understand the person and assume they are the way they areby choice. They get angry at this because they want the person to fit in better and be easier to...

I havent' been in that exact situation but I have continued to live with my abusive parents. It was familiar, and I also hoped they would change. Thats really the only reasons. Regardless, you need to leave, thats the bottom line. Just leave. Don't think about the hows or the whys there will be...

That sounds brutal. The dog is at peace now. I shot my dog in the head. He was my best friend, really my only friend. I've been a loner my whole life, after a traumatic childhood, and that dog was really the only real friend I've ever had, I stole him from some abusive owners I rented a room...

Sometimes people only change once they lose something.

You're dreading it as a mom/grandma? I can see dreading it as a son/daughter, but if you dont want to celebrate it I am sure your kids feelings won't be hurt if you just tell them to forget about it. Tell them to get you a card and you can have lower key celebrations with each of them...

When something horrible happens to you, thats horrible, but its made much worse when people who should support you instead invalidate your feelings. I am sorry you had to go through this. I suggest not worrying too much about whether youre bi gay straight or indifferent. You'll figure that...

I'm not blaming you, but he chose you because you would put up with him. He was right, you did put up with him. Don't beat yourself up about it, but to some extent at least, it happened because you let it happen. I'm sorry, that sounds mean, but I can't think of how else to put it. I'm sorry you...

That might just be a weird way of him saying he was doing his best to not take things you would say personally when he knew you were not in a calm and clear headed mental state. I think if you feel shame at having ptsd, that shame most likely existed in some way before you met this guy.

Not trying to gloat, more to give you hope, but reading this thread made me realize that I no longer do this. Thats pretty cool. I sure used to though.