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Hi there - For me the way I got my head and my heart to start being on the same page was through meditation. It can be scary to let you of what you feel is beneficial and protecting - but through meditation and learning to understand the relationship between my thoughts and feelings - by...

Welcome - I know for me, I tend to freeze up vocally when I get triggered. I used to do it more but since I have started meditating, and really working on being present in the moment during my meditations, it does not happen as often. For me I can begin to recognize in my body when I am...

Hi - Sorry to hear about your day - Glad you could share it with us. I wonder if you have tried doing meditation. I am not sure that it would work for nightmares but I know that during the day, when thoughts kept occuring over and over, and I would beat myself up and get depressed about...

Hello Johnny - It sounds to me by the end of your post that you are beginning to work this out for yourself. You are asking the important questions like where is this fear and anxiety coming from - you are inviting your demons to tea, as it were, to get to know them better. Once you can name...

Hi Esha - I can see myself a lot in what you said. It is annoying to have to justify why you are not married or dont have kids or are not in a relationship. I know for myself, I just don't have a really large libido. For me also it is hard to really feel safe enough emotionally with a...

First off, Ivory - I rejoice that you have found self compassion - It really is a great way to begin to untie the knots and heal. Your life sounds a lot like mine. As a matter of fact it was self compassion that kept me from killing myself when I was 14. And like you, I am not healed...

I agree about the issue of seeing your birth mother. Both sides have to meet in the middle, I think As far as reconciling with your sibling, I think it could go either way. So not being sure what his motives are and how motivated he is to change, I might suggest talking on the phone a couple...

Hi there Moonbeam - Consider yourself hugged. Sounds to me like you did not know what your relatives thought about things like punishing children and racism. So, perhaps you can cut yourself some slack around wanting to tell them what happened to you when you did not have all the facts you...

I rejoice that you are getting out there and doing it - Good for you For me when I have a situation like this, I work with staying in the moment. Each time my mind takes me to some place in the past or in the future, I simply and compassionately bring my mind back to the present moment. I can...

I know how you feel, Joo One great thing about friends is that they can see what we cannot in ourselves. But if they can see it, then it must be there, and all we have to do is connect or reconnect with those good things that others see in us. What works for me is to think about the good...

Hey Glenn - Praying for you. Hope you can find the way to see the nightmares as not so real and more like dreams and the feelings you get from those dreams like the feelings you get watching a scary movie and not so real - if that makes any sense. I am probably not saying it right but I hope...

Hi - You are definitely not alone. I agree with what Risingsun said - Nothing is permanent - The suffering you are going through is not permanent - however suicide is - And it is easy to feel that your life never mattered but I am not sure that is true - I bet if you thought about it, you...

Hi Melody, I was just like you. I had "friends" and family telling me I was worthless and I constantly had thoughts of suicide. One particularly dark night I finally took my life into my hands and dug deep to see if they all were right - and what I found was that I did have some good...

Hey Footie, Absolutely it is normal to want a hug for safety. I would ask your therapist if they feel comfortable if you hug them. Keep up the good work. Namaste - Laurie

Hello Danielle - Wow - A lot of what you are going through is what I went through with my father who had PTSD from WWII. I wish I knew then what I know now about PTSD. I would have been able to have so much more compassion for him because of the fact that he was in an endless loop of simply...

I have never experienced this but I wonder if some of it has to do with needing to reclaim the innocence in himself he lost. My father had PTSD from the war and he and I were very playful and he was very jealous when I would hang out and play with people my own age. I think there was an...

It sounds like you went with your instincts which is always the best route. And that takes courage - so good on you.

Hi there - Speaking just from my side, and I am not an expert, I do not think what you describe is specifically tied to PTSD. Again from my side, he does sound like he might have a hard time understanding what you are going through. I do know that when I have people who are like that in my...

Hey Phoenix - Glad you shared this tough time with us. If you can make it through it gives courage to people like me who are going through a tough time to keep going too and makes me realize I am not alone in my troubles. I hope you keep finding the wisdom and courage to keep on going when...

Hi there - After such terrible tragedy I am glad you are still alive and able to tell the story

I could be way wrong but I think there might be a difference between dissociating to protect myself from bad things happening and putting on a costume of someone with the abilities that I want to attain or emulate in order to be good at what I do - not sure though

Rejoicing on your success - keep it up - this is a great site - so glad I found it as well

Hey Still - Great news - Glad you are hooking up with them - Let us know how it goes. No, I don't go to that group - but I have hooked up with some great groups and great folks in groups that get together to explore Buddhism. Yeah I know what you mean about your family - ya think 'well, they...

From your description it sounds like what your ex has is pretty classic fight/flight behavior - I myself having done it (that same flight/fight behavior) many times. And many times it has been over small things - but even tiny things can trigger someone with PTSD to act that way. I understand...

Hello Eagle3 - Rejoicing at your new job - Hope that this job helps you gain more and more stability in your life. And you are right about not giving up - Well, for me the best job would be one where I can work on myself and continue healing and conversely be able to help others to be the...