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I was thinking this morning that some people should not raise children. I'm sorry for the hurtful, ignorant and cruel words you have all experienced. When I first developed the full range of disabling symptoms, my mom said she couldn't be around me because it hurt her too much and that my...

No vomit on me , don't worry. I'm sorry you were taught to carry so much fear, and I can relate. Its cruel to blame people for tragedies beyond their control when they are already suffering. I was terrified of reading anything spiritual or religious for fear I would not measure up or be good...

I was stalked by a very religious man who combined Judaism and Catholicism. He wrote me over 200 pages a month, i was 14and I think it went on for 2 years. My parents invited him into the home, my mother took me to eat lunches with him, I had to go to counselling with him and the deacon of the...

I was thinking of this before I read your posts. FOr myself, I can't attch until i am ready to risk loss. I hurt myself badly trying to force myself to trust, so attachment will take time, though the lack of intimacy is also painful and frightening. I can only imagine how awful it was to grow...

Totally relate to the infantile need to be held, I often feel that too and a full body sensation and images of a young child sometimes nursing. That total need to feel close, protected and comforted. I think you expressed well some of the things you need (comfort,safety, connection), These are...

Wow, that does sound frustrating! The fact that you even know what you need to do though is a win. It is ironic that the thing that was meant to sooth you ended up being the thing that caused you to need more soothing. I suppose that having healthy reactions to our needs will take practice to...

Well said. Though never easy. I remember parenting my young children in state that you just described. I wanted to be their rock but felt like a little animal caught in a storm. I'm wishing you all the best today :)

I'm so sorry you feel this way, I know that place. Here's the thing, it has come and gone for me. In my case, depression is preceded by specific events and therefore not a random occurrence. So I believe that healing those experiences leads to healing the depression. I also believe that the...

something good will come of this God never gives you moe than you can handle (sorry but that is some BS)

I find that I sometimes need to really pick just the right word, so I can understand how a word can feel wrong. Its important to find that word that describes what you want, whatever that is.

thats great!

@Unfoldwings . I'm so glad that you left. Iamsensitive's advice to get professional help is sound! Having been to many counsellors, I suggest taking your time to find the right fit, someone who understand trauma and has worked with survivors of domestic violence. Someone who can advocate for...

Interesting proposal.

Thats difficult. It does feel as though there is a huge power imbalance when one person shares extremely vulnerable information, and the other (the therapist) share little. I can understand your discomfort with that and believe it is justified. On the other hand, I understand why therapy is...

Congratulations on reaching out! That is a big step. I went to many counsellors until i realized that I needed someone who specialized in PTSD. I was scared. He was a male (big trigger) but he was the only one who offered a sliding scale. Remember that you are the client, so you can choose if...

I did the newer version of the EST training when I was 16 and again when I was in my 30s. I hear where you are coming from. There was no tolerance for disagreement, for discussion, for saying "no" or listening to ones intuition and body. I remember people really becoming addicted to the group...

Someone with lots of experience with trauma and who has seen their clients become whole and well Someone (for me) who's methods are somatic based and not focused on talk therapy which does diddly squat for me Someone who is attuned, that is listens when I say this is working, this is not Someone...

You can take your time with the therapy, from what I understand of brainspotting, they should start with something positive so you can return to a grounded place as often as you need. One step at a time. I wish you well!

This is a difficult concept for me. I grew up in an environment that glorified and rewarded suffering. My mother loves survivor stories, the stories of those who triumph and grow out of adversity. That is the classic hero story, and I believe there is some power and use to this idea. All humans...

I would say that if you don't want that kind of behavior in your life, don't let him back in. Period. I have PTSD, I don't treat people that way. Everyone has a reason behind their behavior, it could be fear , hurt, unmet needs....whatever the reason, it is not an excuse. You have a child who...

Having people I trust helps, my daughters, a friend. It puts my mind elsewhere. Grounding, over and over, I pay attention to my feet on the floor hugging the cats, noticing the feeling of his fur against my chest watching a movie that is "easy" doing photography

I'm not sure if this is a superfood though it comes from a plant related to the tomato, but I use Ashwaganda for anxiety. It helps support the adrenals and brain from what I understand. I also drink Kambucha, helps with digestion and good bacteria, and I take fish oil, again for mood and...

Welcome Sapphire ! Some good feedback from @Fadeaway

Cool evenings and the still hot sun during the day. The leaves changing colours. A campfire at dusk. Curling up under a warm blanket as the coolness sets in. Making tea at sunset. The knowing that while winter is coming, spring, summer and autumn will all roll around again and with that so will...

HI. I lose weight when I get bad anxiety. Lost nearly 15 lbs in 9 weeks, and I'm thin to begin with, so I understand the looking like a cancer patient thing. I am sensitive to meds, I now take half a 25 mg seroquel at bedtime because I can't stay awake if I take the stuff, it helped me. 25 mg...