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Hi. To feel is to be human. You are not wrong to feel what you feel, based on what is happening in your life. I was reading and then you mentioned the "L" word. Being friends with the opposite sex can be healthy, but when one begins to LIE about their actions/whereabouts/conversations, then...

Thank you for your support. We are talking, but I am certainly moving forward with my plans of sobriety. With or without him. Hopefully with. :) Keep the good hope alive. I am learning so much from this website. xo

Just gotta give you a hug or five. Take care of you. You are so worthy of love, honesty and R-E-S-P-E-C-T. You have mine girlfriend. xoxo

I am getting them back this afternoon. I will hear him out.

Just a series of bad events taking place when he or I drink. I am at a place where I want to rid of drinking forever and he is not there. I just can't ignore his true needs vs. his "need" to drink. Sunday night we were out, and again after too many his mood changed and turned on me. I was...

Thank you all. He apologized this morning. I just don't know...

Hi. The subject above I hope will bring me some comfort at this time from you good people. I am breaking up with him. I cannot be happy here as he is behaving in the worst of ways. I'm not a spouse, just a girlfriend who fell in love with a sweet soul who happens to have some serious...

We've been together for 5 months. We do not live together. We had a terrible night last night, and I lost it. Not sure if I'm going to make it. I have a lot on my plate and in my mind. Eh, I'm human. Day by day.... but right now it feels more like second by second....

You are a good person. Just take it day by day. I have similar ups and downs with the physical/intimate and my boyfriend. He is also trying and he also attends the VA and takes meds....which have a huge impact on his libido. He is worth it to me to, and I have to be patient. We're in this...

Hi. What he is telling you is pretty direct. He is not physically able to fulfill your needs at the present. This is where you decide to be uber patient and back off, or break ties. Is this a new relationship? Also a very important factor is if he is seeking help for his PTSD...

Elton sang those very words... "sorry seems to be the hardest word." WORD!!! You need validation from your anger. A simple yet sincere apology would be monumentous to you! I know this from a recent experience that made me get honestly upset with my man for very valid reasons. He chose to...

I have noticed after a PTSD "attack" he does not want to talk about it. I have seen it happen twice and both times he was able to calm down to a functioning level, but it is something that is on my mind. I waited until he was in a calm space, happy, jovial, and gently ask if I can talk about...

When I met my Marine vet I complimented him on his t-shirt. It was a dog with a soldier graphic. He thanked me and told me about his PTSD canine companion, and that started our romance right away. In some ways his open honesty is what reeled me in! I am the type of person that has trust...

Just so you know, my communication with HIM is my priority. I shared my thoughts with him earlier about frustrations listed above. I don't like talking behind anyone's back. It is not my jam. After a few attempts he listened to me. It was what I consider a "healthy" talk. I wanted to say...

Not sure what he does or doesn't do in his time away from me, but my issue is that he does not want sex like I do. I am so frustrated. We are 5 months in and enjoying each other's company but I feel constantly turned on and then abandoned. He will give me a steamy kiss and then turn away from...

My combat Marine veteran professes his love regularly to me. Sometimes he questions my love for him, but I just ask him if he can "feel" it and that seems to satisfy his soul. For 22 years he was a lean mean killing machine. Now I plan to show him AND teach him how love and kindness can...

Hi. I hope you are doing well today. Thinking of you. :)

Hello! Had a great date with my man yesterday. He talked about me with his therapist this morning, and she was happy he has someone that supports him. He also shared with her that I have researched about PTSD, and how much it meant to him that I cared so much, and that he felt safe opening up...

Wish granted, you are moving away! All of your home is packed safely away and on a truck....to BF Egypt. Hope you like shopping for all new stuff! :) I wish my dog would be obedient.

Can I say that I am vigilant about his hyper vigilance? Being aware of his habit, I now consider more aspects of an event or date idea that I had previously. For instance, I was asked to volunteer at a chili cookoff and asked my boyfriend if he wanted to volunteer as well. What I didn't...

Hyper vigilance is the term my boyfriend used to describe one of his symptoms of PTSD. I noticed him looking around constantly and asked him about it. He told me a bit about his progress and how he had overcome in the past year - from hearing a helicopter overhead and running into a closet to...

I feel so safe with him. He has never exhibited "scary" I'm happy to say. But because of our height distance and his constantly on the lookout, topped with his hearing deafness from all of the bang bang noises during his career, I have to either look at him directly for him to hear me or speak...

Hi. You describe exactly how I have been feeling as of late. Dating a Marine with PTSD has made me very aware of my empathy for him, and I was starting to mimic some of his ways, such as hyper vigilance. He is very tall and can see above most people to scan rooms and places with numerous...

If you feel trapped, that is not going to help you maintain a healthy mind body and soul. I see you here on the site, and that can give you some resources and tools for your toolbox. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

@toomuchlovetoletgo That is tough to go through. I have seen what happens when my marine stopped taking his meds. He was manic and all over the place, very surreal. Personally speaking I have a lot of self respect and I also have a daughter. She is my top priority and if my man were to start...