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@Born to Run I'm so sorry about what you've been true too! How awful that your father didn't want you!! :( My family is from Germany too! (My mother) I've never heard that they were diagnosed with borderline but when I read this book which was written for people who have to live with a...

@Born to Run yes I'd like that :) @Cinnamon4z thanks! I'm sorry you had that accident! That sounds difficult and I can imagine that makes you afraid! The questions you asked helped, I'm going to think more about what I used to like and such..

@Cinnamon4z I was abused since I can remember, physically and emotionally. My father was very cold and agressive but especially my sister did very worse things, I think she is narcissistic and also has borderline. My mother closed her eyes for this all. She could be sweet but was depressed many...

Thanks @Ellabella44 Yes I think I have to keep trying. And my inner child is so used to feeling unsafe I think that maybe it's normal that it takes a long time...Did it take long for you?

@SunShining thanks for the post. I try to do these dialogues to with my inner child, bought a special book to write them in too. It sounds good to make your inner child feel more safe... And a good idea indeed to do this too when you're not in a PTSD flare. @Ellabella44 that sounds good too...

That must feel awful for you! I hope you can figure out how to stop this and feel better! I've never heard of this. When I put up my boundaries I usually feel like I'm stupid or a nag or that the other person won't like me anymore. Sometimes I take over someone else's feelings in some way and...

I'm so sorry to read what you've been through and how awful you are feeling. I wish you much love. Those migraines must be awful too. Do you have a therapist that can help you? I can imagine not having control is so scary! Are the thoughts that you are letting everyone down realistic? I don't...

thanks @shell I'm going to write down things I wanted to hear when I was a child, maybe I can repeat them too to myself when I feel afraid.

Yes, that's a good question. I think we don't know that really well because everything feels as real fear. And maybe learning that by writing it down and seeing patterns in that. Because when I wrote down the things I could see that it were the same things over and over again that made me...

@shimmerz I think I understand your line of thinking. It's beautifully said. But does that feel so awful too? I think I imagined that state of emptiness or the blank slate wouldn't feel so awful like there's danger coming around the corner any moment now because I'm not controling... It's like...

Pff that's a difficult one with the resistance. It makes me think of when you're tired some people say 'then sleep, your body knows how much sleep it needs.' well NO, not at all. I can sleep so long and then I'll feel even more horrible. Think that has more to do with depressed feelings or not...

@The One Who Knocks thanks for your answer! That's helpful.

@richter scale haha thanks for sharing! That must be wonderful that you can feel your inner child like that and act upon it!

Four Steps for Conquering Symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Psychiatrist Jeffrey Schwartz, author of Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior, offers the following four steps for dealing with OCD: RELABEL – Recognize that the intrusive obsessive thoughts and...

Does anyone recognize this? Sometimes when my head seems to be finally silent I feel this emptyness. I think I'm so used to thinking negatively or thinking about all kinds of dangers in the past or the future, and I've lived so long in my head that I don't know what to do once I try to ground...

I don't know either about the OCD but I'm going to read more about it and let you know if I find useful things. My diagnoses wasn't OCD fully but parts of OCD. I don't know how it is with the shame for me because I think that I'm not ashamed but it seems that I'm so ashamed of myself that I...

Thanks. Yes, I have to believe in my effort, that's a good one!

Thanks all for the advice! I bought a colouring book this afternoon. Am trying it again...

@sun seeker thanks for sharing this. I'm glad that it helped or did something for you when you asked God. I asked him a long time ago when I was a child to help my mother and maybe I hoped me too a bit... But no one ever came to help sadly enough... It made me believe that there is no one for...

@shrinkingviolet thank you so much! I'm happy your faith drew you out! So horrible that you had such a deep depression!! I don't have that faith for several reasons I won't bore you with. But I also respect everyone's opinion. And I'm really glad it helps you! It's so awful when you feel as a...

@SheilaKathy thanks! I know these colouring books, they have them a lot in the shops over here now. I have a mandala colouring book. But when I'm colouring I get a bit bored and start thinking negative anyway. When you colour do you get in some sort of flow or something? Or do you think about...

Hooray you're Dutch too @Radise. I was already quite proud when I read on this forum about Bessel van der Kolk being a very good professional in trauma that he is Dutch too haha, a bit stupid right? Did you try Dutch forums too or just this one? I tried a Dutch forum before but it was very much...

Wow, it's like I've written your topic myself @sun seeker . I looked up OCD and I remember that that's one of the things they diagnosed me with... But I didn't give much attention to it because I thought the PTSD was most important. Are 'intrusive thoughts' from PTSD the same? Anyway, I can...

Hi everyone, So my therapist said if I have panick or intrusive thoughts I should comfort my inner child. I started reading about this and did some meditations. But I find it really difficult. Does anybody have experience with this? What helps you? Any tips or advice? For me it just doesn't...

Hi everybody, These last months I have panick attacks that have become worse because I started working and am afraid to do things wrong or hurt people. My mind keeps coming up with mistakes I must have made in my earlier jobs. I have this mean part or voice in me. And it's not another voice...