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@change -- I agree with other folks that changing your doctor is a good idea. I would go even further... I think it's a crucial thing to do for your health! Aside from the bad impact on your PTSD issues of having someone invalidate you, your PCP needs to be capable of coordinating your...

Happy that my new fluffy warm loop scarf arrived and is around my neck. Portable cat.

on the internet, no one knows you're a CAT...

I don't think people who talk about abusing children are supported here, in general; emotionally, a lot of us feel similarly about companion animals. This isn't saying that if we had the choice of rescuing a dog or rescuing a kid, we'd rescue the dog, but both are situations where the victim is...

I hope you can get your ride in! You deserve it!!!

Yes, there is nothing in there about the treatments but I think it is not written for that goal at all. Some people deny that various types of abuse 'should' even affect kids or adults though...

I would definitely report her... never go back in any case. I hope you can find a backup... Some people seem to operate as if they believe that all of the human brain is under absolute control of consciousness, in a weird way, even if they absolutely should understand how much amazingly complex...

Victims of smart psychopaths would likely avoid a forum where their abuser could pretty easily find them and torture them further; the latter seems highly likely to occur in lots of situation.

Maybe I believe in hell now...

I'm glad that survivors of abuse by various types of perpetrators now have more things to read about those types of pathologies. We can read them in our own homes and help our lives with the knowledge... we are not absolutely dependent upon agreement of whatever community we're in for validation...

I suspect that "knowing in advance" -- being in proximity for some time prior -- did indeed affect how this impacted Dana, and she'd probably agree strongly. However, she just didn't choose to focus on that here. It's such a huge thing and common to so many of our experiences that people...

Welcome, @Agilder! I love your cat icon. There are many programs for people of low income in the U.S. I'd call your local rape crisis center, hotline, or a battered women's shelter hotline for references. The hotline volunteers or staff generally have lists of resources. There is likely to be...

Over the years, I have become much better at identifying causes of some emotions, and the sequence seems more in awareness now. Anger at my abuser would sometimes go into floating anxiety so fast I wasn't even aware of the anger; took a long time to get that one, but now I can be aware of that...

I've just spent a bit of time perusing various online definitions of sociopath... I have yet to find a definition that leaves out actual behavior I pretty closely equate to abusiveness... e.g. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sociopath : someone who behaves in a dangerous or violent...

@Kaia, I'm going to try to put into words a sort of intuition I have been developing about your post; please be patient if I don't get this quite right. It seems like your perspective is written towards a policy of overall societal treatment of people with the varied pathologies we have been...

Of course the traumas are all unique; the OP was about *how* this category of person as abuser might leave unique issues for the survivors, as I understand it. Words like "unique" and "distinct" do not in themselves imply "worse", "most unique" or "more distinct" to me in the slightest, in spite...

@joeylittle ... knowing vs. not knowing is certainly a big difference. However the more specific issues that a well-known attacker has can result in huge differences for the survivor, in my opinion. As the survivor grows up, they have to somehow reconcile a really pathological person's exact...

Good luck, I'm really glad you are taking this step! Good for you. Let us know how it goes! They might want to work on grounding exercises and some such first? I'd think they'd want you to feel safe with them before doing emdr etc. so a good thing is they will want you to feel safe -- and...

@Dana1010 -- having known one confirmed, diagnosed psychopath horribly well, and researching the topic, in my opinion could make you well aware of the "sense" of such a person. I get gut senses of people who seem likely to be potentially violent on occasion; it sometimes feels like a sort of...

A suggestion for the folks who are questioning Dana's definition of a couple people as psychopaths... None of the rest of us know the people in question, and Dana's understanding of the abusers isn't harming anyone. It's possible that the people involved are really really obvious examples of...

There is a lot more out there on this! I was looking for something without success... an interview with a very smart successful researcher of some sort, I think, who was shocked to learn that his brain shows the same patterns to some extent as psychopaths. (Or sociopaths?) He is married and...

Ouch! I can't agree, we often need to make assessments of other people who are showing signs of being dangerous to us or others, and we can almost never get a full assessment in real life. Dana isn't getting the person fired based on her theory or harming them in any way! She's trying to...