Search results

@Freckles66 it isn't any fun. It's like I'm at a guessing game with myself because he is not communicating AT ALL with me (is he just going to disappear forever, am I overreacting too soon, did I give him enough space, does he really think things won't work out, has he moved on and is a coward...

Thanks for sharing @KwanYingirl I think him returning from a shit deployment and walking into his "past" triggered him. His ex wife is obviously in his life a lot because of the kids and the weekend they were figuring out new custody is when he started to pull away. I feel in my gut that...

Thanks @KwanYingirl. We were so close and were able to talk to each other about anything. I guess being a man and in the military, he doesn't want anyone to see him weak (unless I'm completely delusional and he returned from deployment a total asshole). Deep down he's a sensitive guy. It'll be a...

@Tanishq it is really hurtful and I can't imagine him just calling it quits so quickly. His FB posts were stuff that were so unlike him. He was never active on there before. It came off like he was trying to put up a front for the FB world...like self validating. All I could say to myself was...

Sorry to hear this and you need to know that you didn't do anything. Not knowing how long you guys have been together makes it difficult to asses too as far as his level of commitment to you. In your post you did mention he was planning to move near you, so that says he was serious. It seems...

Hi @Sabrina0712 . I don't think you should reach out anymore. You've done your part at being kind and I can completely relate to you. I for the life of me do not understand how a PTSD mind works and how they can push away a loved one (I'm going through that myself), so I think it's best to leave...

I'm really hurt again. I still haven't heard a word, didn't get a Merry Christmas, yet he's on facebook posting things. I just don't get it. It's been 4 weeks since I've been shut out and I can't help but now think that he did end things with me and can't discuss it. Like you said @Lucycat , I...

@foolshope89 You got a man that appears to really love you. I know men period don't like to be pushed and we as women can't stand the silent treatment because we fear the worst (and with a healthy man, doing the disappearing act is cowardly instead of confronting the problem). It's a hard thing...

@foolshope89 You mean space with no contact (because I am not contacting him)? I don't even know if he read the email I sent him and that was over a week ago. I feel that since he ran from us, that I should not chase him down. As much as I do want to text him and ask him if he's doing ok, I feel...

I think it's a little different when it comes to military (in terms of isolation periods). I've read COUNTLESS stories from wives and GF's just like yours and mine. My boyfriend, like yours, really played down his PTSD when he told me last year he was diagnosed with it. So, I figured he was cool...

Thanks everyone!

Sorry...I am still learning my way around here...LOL. Didn't mean to post again.

Suicide is serious business and if he has said stuff like this, then you need to contact a suicide prevention agency and have them call him.

I know I'm new here and I don't know the entire story of what you have gone through, Glera, but maybe I can offer some advice. Perhaps it's the series of quotes that were posted that made me even feel like you were suffocating him. Have you thought that you might be codependent on him? I don't...

I get it and I'm in the same position, but this isn't in our control. You sound like me, someone who is a giver and has a lot of love to give. Those, I'm guessing, are some strong emotions for someone with PTSD when they're not capable of giving back.

Hi Glara, I am new here and found this site because I am going through basically the same thing you are. I'm completely shut out and I understand how incredibly painful this is for you. I feel abandoned, especially everything he and I have gone through together. Shoot, you're lucky you're even...

I have ADD and I used to smoke...I did find it relaxing...but I quit because it was literally destroying my health. My sufferer smokes. He knows I don't like it and he had switched to these new style of dip things that you suck on, but don't cause a mess. Well, he had been deployed for the past...

Hi @Solara thank you for your words. My mind has been all over the place and I really have no interest in dating other men. The thing I was trying to explain is that he never came out and told me he was having PTSD issues. So, I literally took all this as a break up. I am going through this...

Thanks guys...it's so hard to be waiting and I am not going to close myself off to the possibility of dating another man...even though that is not at all what I want in my heart. I waited 7 months while he was deployed to now go through this alone and to figure it all out on my own. It feels...

Hello, I'm sure this has been posted in the past, but everyone's story is different and I could use some insight. My boyfriend and I have known each other for almost 20 years (one of my best friends), but last year we started dating and that led to a committed and loving relationship. He is in...