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Don't worry @BigBear I intend to stay. I also have a condition that people tend to fear but know little about. I understand what a stigma is and how most of society reacts can hurt someone. I also understand now that PTSD sufferers need as much support as they can find. If I had half as much...

Exactly. It cost me a lot of tears to learn that. And I'm not the crying sort...

I'd say it's best to wait on him. It sounds like even if he is in therapy he may not be ready for what you're asking him to be able to do.

I've been encouraged to try yoga as a supporter.... supposed to help with 'staying in the moment'. I am going to take a class after I get settled in my new apartment. My ex (sufferer) seems to find great comfort in sewing and needlework. She used to tell me that it gave her quiet time to think...

@jess_trustno1 I'm not a sufferer and am innately capable of understanding both gray and each side of an argument. I consider this ability to be a gift even though I hate politicians. I can say this though, the woman that I love who is undiagnosed definitely thinks in the terms you describe...

Don't worry about me @Gingerly mine has reaffirmed her lack of trust in me today and I've reached the point where I can't continue to try. If good intends for us to be together the he will need to speakv to her. I'm attending to my own health and life now. I will continue to hope for you...

I am doing my best to offer my support and friendship but she seems unable to communicate with me so I need to stop trying fur my own health. I cannot sleep, cannot eat and cannot stop thinking of ways to 'win her back'. None of this is helping me or her. I need to trust God and find help for...

Thank you. My ex will not seek therapy and that us why I must

I'm still struggling with my breakup from a woman that I'm certain has ptsd but is undiagnosed and won't seek treatment. I know that I cannot help her but can't seem to accept that and move on. It is time for me to seek my own healing but I haven't the slightest clue as to how to find a...

@Gingerly I hope for your sake that he can get through too. I'm hanging on to the same kind of thread in that my ex and I have a mutual friend who suffers from PTSD and has learned to manage it. She has agreed to try to get my ex to seek help or talk to me for the same reason, she believes we...

I just want to throw out - I had a friend that tried to take herself off of Zoloft... DON'T DO IT!!! Follow the doctors orders to the letter if you want to stop it.

My only contribution here is to make sure he really understands it however and whenever you do tell him. I knew my ex had these experiences and I thought I could safely let her tell me in her own time. It turned out there were things she couldn't tell me at all and when the intimacy levels got...

I won't say it can't happen since I can't foretell the future but I can say this... I am in love with and was engaged to a wonderful woman, one who was abused as a child and has had multiple instances of violence in her adult life. A four year relationship as friends and lovers died a sudden...

There is no way for us to understand @Gingerly the things that have happened to our sufferers are not things that have happened to us so we cannot truly grasp their thinking. I liken it to a man trying to understand what it feels like to give birth, though it can be explained on an intellectual...

This is true... when you can't talk it's hard to have any kind of relationship with anyone for any purpose. Has to hurt more to be silent than to talk.

Chris, that path led me to disaster. I don't know how deep you are into the relationship but you'll need to step carefully. You can't ignore it and you can't push it either. If she's not in therapy I'd suggest you try to nudge her in that direction, possibly by going yourself?

Congratulations on taking the hardest step, which is to come ask for help. There is a book called "Mothers who can't Love, A Healing Guide for daughters" by Susan Forward and Donna Glynn that you might find helpful. It helped me understand some of the feelings that my ex had toward her mother...

Thank you all for this, it's one if the things I never understood about my ex. She was so giving and caring for the children and others but when it came to herself she totally dismissed anything that resembled taking care of her. She only said that talking made it worse so I never talked about...

I'm not a sufferer and you don't say what meds you're taking but I read something the other day on webmd that said Prazosin was now being used for treatment of nightmares associated with PTSD. It's commonly used for blood pressure treatment. Might want to look into it in case you're having side...

I've seen this first hand and it tore my relationship apart. She couldn't talk about her experiences because it was too painful and had been abandoned in every previous relationship. I can't tell you how to do it because I failed in my attempt, might have gone better if I'd found this place...

I'm not sure I'm any help, I find myself alone with no friends after being immersed in one woman or another since I can't remember when. I'm trying to get into some interest based social groups on meetup and Facebook and looking for things to do outside the house. Pay the bills on time is one...

My friend is also convinced that talking about it only makes things worse. I hope your ex and mine are both wrong about their futures. I've done more crying about her in the last month than I've done in the rest of my life.....

Thank you. It will be a journey for me whether she accompanies me remains to be seen....

Thanks for the reply. I've already suggested that she visit here as we met on a forum for a shared medical condition. It's the giving her space I'm having trouble with, she is in the UK and I'm in the US so there is plenty of separation but mental space is a different thing.... I'm not sure I'm...

Found your forum today. I'm another that's here in hopes of learning to support a friend, who is also an ex fiance, even though she won't seek treatment and I fear never will. I still love her and just want to be able to handle things better if she does ever come to the decision that talking can...