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Thanks, @Justmehere, you're 100% correct. I thought I could be patient, give him some time, and things would go back to normal naturally. I was biding my time. Now its been nearly 6 months and its been one hell of a rollercoaster. And "we" crashed and burned at the same time as the rest of my...

Well said, @ModEcho , you're probably right. One day you wake up and realize you're madly in love and you want to do everything you can to make the relationship work and that's probably the same at the end. Things slowly go down hill and one day you're at peace with letting it go and accepting...

As a regular Joe, just trying to make my way through life - the best way I can and trying to achieve my dreams and goals - I think denial is a natural part of self-preservation. Denial comes up by itself when something becomes too much. Whatever it is, our stress levels have already probably...

Awesome! Good for you!!!:D:D:D:D

Here's to wringing their necks followed up with a big kiss and a bear hug! Cheers! *cling* I hope he chills out soon and things get back on the right path for you.

The uncertainty definitely sucks. I've wondered what the hell I'm doing and if I can hang in there, so far it's still a resounding yes - he is worth it. But good heavens it is difficult at times. I was watching a Youtube video last night and a guy said you know you're in love when your partner...

Yep, I've had that conversation. "I don't know how you keep reading too much into our conversations." Absolutely bizarre and frustrating and a real mind-fook. I listed off all the things he said and done to make me think he loved me and now I'm terrified to see him in person again (we're long...

You know, Tater has never seen me frustrated or angry before, at least, not directed at him. I'm usually happy and positive, he's seen me confused, hurt, and a bit desperate about "us," understanding towards his needs...but never mad. I wonder what type of reaction that would invoke in him. Not...

I've been reading and have now calmed down a bit and feel like I can better express myself without so much emotion. (End note...maybe not.) Tater is still having a difficult time. It's been one thing after another for weeks. That could be due more to his bad mood turning molehills into...

All very good points from both of you. The fairy tale relationships are extremely rare at the best of times and PTSD does throw a huge monkey wrench into things. There is an emotional chasm that is directly opposite of the soulmate mentality. Perhaps I'm naive about what my guy is capable of...

That's such a shame. :(

Very interesting, Sighs. I hope you two can work out something that is a bit more linient towards you. I do like the idea of writing things down and having a clear list of responsibilities...but he seems like he'd be awfully stubborn about that. Good luck! LOL I've often wondered what Tater...

It is difficult to leave them alone, I know. :hug: No idea on the medication side of things - lots of trial and error involved in getting the right med and in a correct dosage. And then can take a month or more before it really kicks in.

The meds might take a little bit before they're working fully and isolation can take time anyway. The fact that he's reading your messages now seems like a step in the right direction. Perhaps soon he'll feel up to writing you back. Keep giving him space, he'll be okay.

You are welcome to write him and let him know just that - that it seems he doesn't want to talk right now, but you're available if/when he needs a friend. If you still don't hear from him after a week or two or a month, you can write again whenever you feel it's appropriate. Giving him space...

So sorry. I can't imagine how hard this has been for you to watch unfold.:(

This is so true and an excellent point. I'd also add that I take anything negative said to me/about us while he's in the midst of an overflow is taken with a big grain of salt. If I'm left hurt or confused, we will discuss it, but not until he's calmed down again and able to have a rational...

LMAO! Oops...haha, I mean...yeah, I was talking about the women, too. :hilarious: @MrsBeasley86 I'm sorry he wasn't supportive enough. You're better off without him...especially if he was making you feel even worse.;) :hug:

Forget it! They're all mine! :p Haha! No shipping them. They would freak the fook out! Poor babies!:eek:

I have 4 cats, am usually a homebody, and PTSD isn't a dealbreaker for me. There is hope for you, @Whispering_Truth ! There are women out there that won't think twice about what you called "your issues." The dating scene just really sucks....for everyone. But one day when you're not looking...

I'm so sorry. That sounds so awful. My heart breaks for you. Since he's off his meds I don't suppose it anything will be resolved for a while. I hope in the meantime you can try to relax and know that there is a combination of things causing this backslide and while it really sucks right now...

Tater loves him some UFC. I know he'd like a few rounds with a few docs.:sneaky:

Looks like he's feeling better. Yesterday, he asked if I wanted to talk Saturday. Four days out and he's feeling good enough to set up a date? Yay! Let's hope he stays that way.:)

Exactly, @adriftatsea , you mentioned some excellent examples. You're right that a couple's loving actions will vary depending on circumstances and personality. I'm glad you found your soulmate. :)

That IS a great idea!