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This is very new to me. I’m trying to finish my diary which will put so much context and understanding to my situation. It’s a lot, part of the process… acknowledging it and doing something about it. Quite honestly… I’m terrified. I love this man and lost him, lost myself in it. I’m just trying...

Yes…. just recently. To be honest I was shocked, I don’t really understand what I’m experiencing. It was him that’s sick, not me.

You’re so right!! My intent of asking specifically involving PTSD is because I’ve never experienced it….. until I did. Personally as a sufferer and as a supporter…. not really knowing until it was too far gone. It’s hard to distinguish where it all went wrong because we were both impacted by the...

From a poll perspective…. What’s are the biggest challenges that lead to the failure of a PTSD relationship? Inquiring minds….

Couples counselling isn’t an option. He’s pushed me away so far I’m not sure there’s any hope of returning. He has told me for months he can’t give me what I want (time & effort) and when I finally listened to him and accepted it he lost his mind and blamed me for it. I told him that he should...

@CdnCopper I have been reading up on your story. Couldn’t help but be intrigued as it is so close to my friend/partner. He is a LEO as am I, he was previously a medic. He has only recently acknowledged he has PTSD and only disclosed it to ME and then immediately pushed me away. As a sufferer...

I agree with it being more so about him gathering his bearings. He’s symptomatic and has made many references to having a full plate and needing time and quiet to heal. When I suggested we take a break so he can focus on his family and healing he got very angry with me. I wasn’t sure if he...

I should also add that there are other factors at play in the last six months. An actual admittance and diagnosis of PTSD a dying mother and a child with undiagnosed mental health issues. His plate is full. Add a girlfriend that’s got a million questions and wants you time and attention. I...

Thank you all for your responses. I’m not sure where I’m at as a supporter, but I appreciate the experience sharing. It’s really helping me navigate through my thoughts and feelings. I can’t thank you enough

You deserve more WW

For those of you in long term relationships with PTSD sufferers how did you manage the push and pull? How many times did you take a break or step back in order to give your partner space and quiet to heal?

Thank you, I needed that read. It helps me understand what he means by having a full plate. I am seeing that me pushing for communication was really a huge stress for him and I must have over flowed his cup many times by asking.

@joeylittle I would like to thank you so much for the time and effort it took to respond with so much patience and clear “laymen’s termed” articulation. I have done a lot of research on PTSD as an illness but it has been hard to conceptualize the actual experience. My sufferer never spoke about...

I have done my research to know the symptoms but I was speaking to the root cause. My sufferer does not communicate about his illness or symptoms other than sleepless nights, needing quiet and space to heal. All the other symptoms he has I know about because I’ve been on the receiving end. I’m...

As a Supporter/Romantic partner... What do we do that’s helpful and what do we do that hinders? When we push to communicate for insight and understanding why does that feel so invasive? We do it to really know, for you, for us and the relationship. Why is it so difficult to talk about...

Makes sense why I didn’t see it as an option. I wish you could send someone a private message, that would be great.

How does one dm here?

You make perfect sense. It's not that I had an ideal him, I had an idea of how our relationship would go and I based that on the times we had, not the ones I imagined in my head. It was a reality, our reality... just as it is when he is isolating and pushing me away. That's the tough part.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I can't imagine having been in a PTSD relationship for 25 years without insight or admittance. I was in a previous relationship for 23 years and I never experienced anything like this before. It's been the most taxing relationship I've ever had and the way...

Again, thank you kindly for your words. I know my best bet is to let go and realize this man is never going to love me the way I want to be loved. To be with him means sacrificing a lot of things that make me feel fulfilled and loved in a relationship. It’s hard to accept when you can see and...

I’ve read and reread this post and many others over the last few weeks. The insight, support and story sharing has been a saving grace. I was feeling so alone in being a wannabe supporter. My sufferer told me and then isolated after 4 years of constant confusion. I’m doing my best to heal from...

Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

I’m in an intense push/pull relationship with a man who suffers from PTSD. Our relationship has been mostly platonic for about 5 years with the push/pull dynamic always having been a factor. PTSD was always the issue but it wasn’t accepted by him and divulged to me until about 6 months ago...