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It helps Nicolette, it really does. Thank you! When I said take a break, I misspoke. I disn't mean call things off and start fresh, more like.. you aren't happy, would you like some space and then we can spend time on the weekend? I guess I meant a week's space, not break up then start again...

I'm sorry to be posting so much everyone, but I have so many questions and my T isn't around till Monday. Long story short.. another shit day. He accused me of wearing him out, manipulating him and blamed me for his not eating, his stomachache, his crap night then hung up. I feel truly...

Also Simplekindofgirl, I'm getting therapy for me. As for him, I hope he will go for therapy at home. It depends what day you ask him if he'll go or not :(

The thing I honestly don't know how to deal with is this: He has such a stressful job where he sees and does really traumatic stuff and so it seems like he *never* has downtime. His stress cup is always so so full that even one minor thing can take him over the edge. It seems he never gets that...

Thanks Sisu! The only reason I question whether it is PTSd or not is because this is probably the fifth time in a year that he has said his feelings about me have changed. It's always after he's had a blow up and always out of the blue. He knows me better than anyone and freely admits that...

Just to add, the previous conversation right before this was me discussing boundaries with him and not tolerating abusive behavior. He got a little upset (I could tell from his voice), saying that he is only abusive after I push, then he sprang the above on me. Just wondered if it might be...

Hi everyone, My boyfriend lives in Bahrain and had an extremely stressful day there, and was exhausted. He was taking to me on the car ride home and he said to me "I need to be honest. My feelings have changed. I feel numbness, indifference towards you. I'm willing to work on it, but I don't...

I'm in Fredonia (kinda near Buffalo)!

Eleanor, I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. I understand about wanting the ugliness to just go away. I pray all the time that his stress will lessen and he will be the man I know and love. Or I'll pray I will say and do the right things so he is kind. Loving someone with PTSD is so...

Thanks so much everyone. I really DO appreciate it. I'm so new at trying to cope with this, and have so much to learn-anything is helpful. All of my friends think I'm crazy for staying with him so talking to them really doesn't help-they just tell me to run, not walk away from him. Since the...

I'm just trying to imagine if I said to him "I'm going to hang up until you can discuss this rationally, goodbye." He would freak out. It would lead to more insults, more accusations of bitchiness, him saying I'm not nice, I have no clue what he needs, and that I'm too much. Then he would swear...

Thank you for the kind responses everyone! When he acts that way, do I say immediately "This hurts my feelings, please stop. Name calling is unacceptable?" Or do I wait until he is in a good place to discuss how he makes me feel? I don't want to trigger him, but you're right Supercd, I always...

Thanks for fixing my post Nicolette! I've been up all day doing a project so my writing skills probably aren't that great today.

I know I'm new here but I feel like if I don't get this out, I'm going to scream at my sufferer, which is so terrible to say but he's driving me crazy at the moment. Since he's still "in the field' daily (he hasn't left his combat job) he is always under so much stress. This morning he called...

Add me too please, I'm new :)

Hi everyone! I need to vent a little bit I think. Right now, my boyfriend decided to take some space. After reading here and in other PTSD literature, I know intellectually he needs it. I know his stress cup is full, and he needs time for it to go down and since I'm his biggest stressor, I get...

He isn't in therapy. He knows he has a problem, but there really isn't any therapists who specialize in PTSD in Bahrain. Not to mention, he is a bit resistant to it. He thinks most of our relationship issues stem from me and my inability to give him the space and solace he needs. He used to love...

Hello everyone! I'm completely new, so I apologize if I'm posting in the wrong place. My boyfriend of three years has PTSD. When I met him, he was an editor of a publishing house in London but because of financial problems became a private contractor in a Private Military Corporation. He must...