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@void, Thank you!!! You're sweet. :)

My mom heard about this book on NPR and started reading it right away. It's changed my life. Since she read it she started EMDR and then I did. She has finally seen how her neglect of me as a newborn, infant, toddler, teen, etc has shaped me. She no longer sees me as defective and she's taken...

Hi there. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. My brothers and I I witnessed our dad kill himself when we were kids. My twin and I were eight and our older brother was eleven. I relate to your feelings of guilt and blame. We were too afraid too call 911 so my older bro called our dad's...

Thanks. Yeah, I know it wasn't THAT bad. But one of my abusers always punishes me in some way any time I try to stand up for myself to her. And when I tell her about times I stand up for myself to other people she tells me I'm bring dramatic or takes the other person's side. (And she's the...

Thank you @deer_in_headlights. I cancelled it right before I went to bed last night. :( But I had a back-up appt scheduled for next Wednesday, so at least I don't have to wait a whole lot longer. I will try your helpful suggestions. My primary doctor doesn't know my history and she's always...

Good evening all. Last July when I had my last pelvic and PAP I scheduled this year's exam for July again. However, something pretty traumatizing happened to me in April which has brought up a lot of things from my past. Since April I've experienced severe panic attacks and anxiety and...

Well...shoot. I hate how confused I get about interpersonal interactions. But this was also a valuable learning experience for me. I hate that I caused a little drama in my first week as a member here, but I have also gained good some insight into some of my relationships. So thank you, @RussH...

@RussH , Hi again. I had a pretty rough night yesterday and a hard day today. I'm wondering now if I was taking your attempts at discussion/debate as an attack. I really can't tell the difference at this point. I hate to think I shut you down or invalidated you. If so, unfortunately you would...

Thanks to whoever moved this to the proper forum. I'm still learning the ropes here. I didn't even think to put this in the relationship form. smh :)

Thank you, you're very kind.

Hi there. I'm pretty concerned for you. I see it as a really big red flag that he won't share about basic things. I just don't want you to get hurt. How can you really know who this guy is or what he's capable of? On behalf of sufferers, I thank you for trying to understand him and doing...

Ok, yes. That's kind of what I was thinking. Thank you. I've been working through reading The Body Keeps the Score. There's a section that talks about not being able to know what you feel or even know that you are feeling. I can't find it in my book at the moment, but when I do find it I will...

Yes! That's a really good way to explain and think about it. If I am understanding correctly anyway. Do you mind explaining what you mean by your dysregulation?

By the way, @FridayJones, I admire your self-awareness and ability to express yourself so well. Have you always had this ability or is it something you've learned? I hope a get better at both of those things soon.

Oh Man. *exhale* That is so me. Wow. I'm kind of blown away. Thank you so much. I do realize I need to be more patient but the immediacy you mentioned is so urgent. It takes a lot of energy and willpower to fight against it. I think I'll make a screenshot of your reply and set as my desktop...

My husband and I are separated. Too many reasons to write about here. Bottom line--I'm all in but he still has one foot out the door, so to speak. One of the problems is that for all of our marriage I wasn't all in and because of this undiagnosed ptsd, I had no idea why but I treated him like...

Nice! I wish you luck on your journey!

Thanks for your reply, @Simply Simon. Do you teach high school or college? I never learned anything about Joan Didion until recently. I heard a quote from her about writing being an aggressive and hostile act. This struck me particularly at this time because I have recently written and sent two...

Hi RussH. I'm just curious, did something about my wishful thinking offend you? My comment about wishing people learned empathy at an early age came from a good place, from a place of wishing future generations could be spared some of the same pain we have all suffered. It was an innocuous...

RussH said: ↑ While empathy can be learned, it cannot be taught. How do you teach someone what to feel? Respectfully, I disagree with this statement. "A Buddhist-inspired approach to this is to spend a whole day becoming mindful of every person connected to your routine actions. So when you...

@FridayJones Yes, you're so right of course. I do tend to be very self-absorbed. I appreciate your perspective a whole lot. I have a lot of anxiety about my tendency to see evil intent in others. But in my case at least, the people I see that in the most are people that HAVE harmed me, people...

I have been thinking the same thing as you all--living in and dealing with trying circumstances gives us a wider perspective and a deeper ability to understand and somewhat know what others go through. But I think it's such a shame that empathy isn't something that's part of a core curriculum in...

Noticing a vast amount of empathy here. Much more than I encounter in most of the people around me. Of course as a cpts sufferer people, I have mostly existed in invalidating environments. Then of course my stunted emotional maturity creates more invalidation towards me from coworkers, friends...

You guys. I can't stop shaking my head at how much better I feel after a major breakthrough I just had. I have to set it up first though: It was during sort of an argument with my husband. He cheated on my in March while we were living apart during a separation. Seeing other people was not...

This quote from author and literary journalist Joan Didion speaks powerfully to me. Anyone else? "To have that sense of one’s intrinsic worth which constitutes self-respect is potentially to have everything: the ability to discriminate, to love and to remain indifferent. To lack it is to be...