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Thanks you so much for these amazing responses - for some reason I have only seen them just now. My hubby loves me - however PTSD has changed him so much. I dont know him. He cant stand the flashbacks that happen when he looks at me. I hope and pray these can be broken and I wish all of you...

Thanks so much everyone. Last night was tough. I wasn't feeling well and wanted to sleep early. For the first time this year we had a babysitter and we planning to go to the cinema. The sympathy I got from hubby was "I call my mate and go with him". WTF At the end of the day he looks at my...

Mine is my work - I love what I do and run my own business. However I am now not sure if I spend too much time working! I dont remember any hobbies/ interests... I do take time out with my son however this is usually stressful too... so sadly work, work, work... (I wish it was all making money...

Hi all I just dont know what to do. Hubby says its OK for me as I can escape from PTSD and he cant. I wake up with chest pains, so wiped out trying to do everything. Nothing changes. He is mean and says he doesn't want to be. He now wants to do something that goes against my (were our)...

I am not sure Sweetpea76 - I think it did help as it took the pressure off of us talking - although it ended up that we didnt really talk at all. He does love his family however yes I know he finds groups difficult especially if they are loud. He seems to be OK this morning - however I seem to...

Bless you Loloma - I appreciate your reply. It started really 4 years ago - hubby has worked on getting better - with hospital trips etc and studying for a new career - I am pleased that he did this and he is very good at what he is doing. Now he needs to turn it into some kind of business and...

Thanks as always Amethist and thanks dms too. We had a big talk when he calmed down and he said just what you have said Amethist - to think about our son and myself. Its hard when I know he is crumbling. He has now gone to his office space - he called and said it is so quiet - next to a...

Well hubby is sitting in the park. He has had a busy morning/ afternoon sorting out trying to find housing and then applying for jobs. I did lose my temper and say that he has a family that needs him and its just enough now. I hung up, called back and after telling me what he has been doing...

Today hubby took our son to school, went to see benefit people about getting a place to stay and them he was going to the gym. I thought I would have heard from him by now - and he didn't pick up his phone earlier or just now. I hate this. Why not simply let me know if all is OK or if there is...

Thanks so much Myvetswife and Bilby - so appreciated. He says that he tries sooooo hard everyday just to survive and get through the day. Having a flashback as soon as he sees me is just hideous. He is seeing the counselor once a week and has been seeking help over the years. But he finds it...

We are just back from our first holiday in 8 years (since before I was pregnant.) We have had a few shorter breaks - all not that great. We went with my sisters and mum too as it was a special birthday for my mum. Hubby didn't sit next to me, hardly played with our son, didnt lay next to me...

Do we accept it’s over or fight to keep our marriage alive? My son and I are triggers for hubby. We now turn into the little boy who was killed over 20 years ago. A gory sight. When hubby is around 90% of the time it is stressful and as though a big black cloud has engulfed us. My son is doing...

Hi all Well we are back from our first holiday in 8 years - with family too. It didn't bring us closer together as I hoped - Hubby had a good time but not really with me or our son. Today he is going to the job centre to see about them supplying some kind of accommodation so he can live...

Thanks PTSD Mama and LizardViolet too. Hubby is getting support - and it only stopped when he had a heart attack (ages 38) 3 years ago. He wants to be 'fixed' and the counselling is so tough for him. Just wipes him out. He went to see a 'Shamen' and had to walk out. The guy held his hands up...

Dear all and Maybe.... My heart as always goes out to you all. My hubby is this morning finding out if there is any support so he can live on his own. He says he doesn't want to split up but doing this to save our marriage - to 'regular' people it will seem strange however PTSD sufferers will...

A good point of view thanks Kacee129 - I do also feel that PTSD can make people selfish - well thinking about my hubby anyway. He seems to resort back to being a child at times and gets angry if he doesn't get his own way. I too cant really tell hubby much as it makes him stressed. I feel happy...

Thank you do much for sharing PTSD Mama - I am replying through the sobs of this amazing song. It really sums it all up. My son too is 7 so my heart really does go out to you. Its been a tough morning - another big discussion with hubby. He really is worn. And so am I. Thank you again and I...

Thank you so much for sharing Laurie and I am so happy to read the strength in your reply. You sound amazing and I wish you all the very best too. I wondered if you plan to go back - maybe gradually? Hubby seems to be OK at the moment. I had time out with my son and feel a bit better now too...

HI all I am struggling. I managed to force myself out of bed at 2.30pm yesterday and my eyes are so puffy from crying I can hardly open them. I keep crying for no reason. Well there is a resson I suppose. Hubby is wiped out - I am a trigger and PTSD is forcing us apart. I dont want to lose...

Would love to hear if this is helping still Amethist ??

Sorry for the delay Lucycat - My hubby has PTSD and is not war related so I think they can take other people on. Hubby is going once a week for an hour - I dont think thats enough. If anyone goes there I would love to know. I have had to call them a few times and they rather sadly just never...

Hi all Does anyone here live apart from their PTSD sufferer? Hubby has been saying for a while that he wants to do this as he feels he while have quiet space and can come back to us feeling better. He is renting an office/ studio space so he can focus on his business (well get it off of the...

I can really empathize with you Maybe - our situation sounds similar. I am worried for my son too - he is a mirror to his daddy and just shouts back which makes hubby even more stressed. I look back and know that we dont do much as family as when we do its a nightmare - Its easier to just be...

I drop some lavender oil on his pillow and stroke his for head. When he has a flashback he smells the oil from the car so a horrible smell so I try to see if a new smell can help xxx

Hi all I wondered if anyone else here is a trigger or a stressor for their PTSD sufferer? I turn into the horrific scene now and although hubby and I love each other he now looks at me and sees a nightmare of what happened 20 years ago. I turn into the little boy who died. I really dont know...