Relationship Have You Been Away On Holiday With Your Ptsd Sufferer?

[Sunshine71]

We are just back from our first holiday in 8 years (since before I was pregnant.) We have had a few shorter breaks - all not that great. We went with my sisters and mum too as it was a special birthday for my mum.

Hubby didn't sit next to me, hardly played with our son, didnt lay next to me while getting a bit of sun, there was no love, no friendship - just smiles and laughter for the others. He says he puts on an act as he finds it hard. During this act I see the man I fell in love with.

I was hoping the holiday would bring us a little closer - maybe break some patterns however we are back and it is though nothing has changed.

Have you been away with your PTSD sufferer? Was I expecting too much? Just a little squeeze of my hand or even a short walk together? I am sorry but I want love, romance, fun, laughter, kisses and more. I don't expect this right now with hubby - I dont put pressure on him.

Just feel a little gutted that we are no closer - infact he is seeing the job center people as I type this about finding some accommodation so he can live apart - to "save our marriage". After 23 years together I am so scared, so fed up.

Thanks for being there super people.

Sunshine xx

 

[Bilby]

That sounds awful, and terribly lonely :(

 

[Sweetpea76]

That's rough Sunshine, sorry you had such a terrible time.

Hubby didn't sit next to me, hardly played with our son, didnt lay next to me while getting a bit of sun, there was no love, no friendship - just smiles and laughter for the others. He says he puts on an act as he finds it hard

Do you think going with a group stressed him out? My sufferer says that when he is around a group of people, he feels pressure to be "normal," and it wears him out emotionally. Maybe this was the case with your husband?

 

[Sunshine71]

I am not sure Sweetpea76 - I think it did help as it took the pressure off of us talking - although it ended up that we didnt really talk at all.

He does love his family however yes I know he finds groups difficult especially if they are loud.

He seems to be OK this morning - however I seem to feel angry today and its rubbing off on hubby :O(